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Black Law Students / Re: Fun Summer Reads
« on: June 04, 2005, 01:42:24 PM »
Recently, I received my She Who Shops. So far, it's okay, but there's one thing that I don't dig at all. There appears to be an unspoken assumption throughout the book in the eyes of the main character that a light skinned black woman with long straight hair is the epitome of a beautiful black woman. Now don't get me wrong, I've read plenty of books where the main character has that perspective, but it is always clearly acknowledged that that's their individual perspective, and (usually) subsequently goes into depth about the derivatives of that perspective. However, the main character in this book hasn't done that, at least not just yet, but rather just assumes that image is universal. This is despite the fact that every other page is talking about the main characters woes of not being beautiful because she isn't light skinned with long straight hair, which is allegedly a "gift."  ::)

That mess just burns me up  >:(, but I won't put the book down just yet

I KNOW!!! I really liked the book but the main character seemed to have a lot of "color" issues that weren't really resolved or at least explored in detail by the author.

Black Law Students / Re: The Black Women's Thread
« on: May 30, 2005, 09:32:26 PM »
I am too fat, ugly and awkward for the educated Black man.  i am not "first lady material" and will thus never be good enough for the good Black man.  I am too fat for the other men who like their women skinny as rails.  Therefore, as an educated Black woman who isn't a beauty queen I am doomed to a life alone.  Sadly that's the way it is for us.

Girl, I hope you are joking. You're going to Yale Law School and you're saying "i am not first lady material"????

You don't sound "doomed" to me. It's the brothers who don't snap you up who are doomed.

Black Law Students / Re: State of Black Marriages....
« on: May 29, 2005, 06:35:46 PM », would you ladies date a man that doesn't have a college degree? let's say he got into a 4yr school and you already have your sh*t. will you date him while he is in undergrad?

If I were single I'd have to say it depends. I know a couple of guys in my church who run their own business but didn't graduate college. It all depends on the guy. You can have a lot of drive, intelligence, etc. but just not do well in an academic setting. If he'd done well in his life up till that point and decided later that he wanted to get a college degree for whatever reason that would be fine.

Black Law Students / Re: State of Black Marriages....
« on: May 29, 2005, 05:46:01 PM »
Hi. (Oh, I mostly lurk form work so I'm not a regular poster, though I used to be way back when this was just a thread.)

Anyway, Blkreign, I agree with most of your post, except the last part. I think Black women (especially the ones who are educated) ARE demanding respect from Black men -- that is why so many college-educated Black women are single and refusing to settle. I have a lot of friends who get approached and proposed to by all kinds of men every day but their standards are really high -- they'd rather die single than date a guy who drives some ridiculously tricked out car with thumping bass who hasn't even finished high school and has three kids out of wedlock... And, yes, they'd marry a teacher or someone who made less money but who had at least tried to get an education or learned a trade or something. There are some women who are extremely lonely or have low self-esteem and therefore will put up with a lot of BS just to have someone in their lives and that is sad, but I don't think that is the norm -- at least not for highly educated women.

I don't think Black women of today are any weaker or worse than our mothers and grandmothers. Because of what they did, we're more educated, earn more money, are more worldly. However, you cannot ignore the overwhelming achievment gap between Black men and women. When you're raised in a patriarchal culture (or white supremacist patriarchal culture as bell hooks describes it LOL) it's difficult to not internalize the messages you've been fed all your life. Men are supposed to be "smarter", stronger, make more money, provide for and protect us, etc. I'm not saying that these are true or realistic ideals but it's what society has been telling us for the longest time. Now, if a man doesn't fit at least some of those ideals then it's going to take some mental reengineering for some women to still see him as a viable mate. It may be difficult to look up to a man when you, the woman, are paying all the bills, putting food on the table etc., and he's not making an effort to balance things out a bit. Black women (actually all women) have ALWAYS worked hard to keep families together. That certainly didn't stop being true after the Civil Rights movement. I think we've ALWAYS been supportive of Black men. I think what's changing is that Black women are getting frustrated with always being the overachievers, the earners -- and their actions (throwing their high salaries in the man's face) are just reflecting that anger. I'm not even going to get into all the challenges Black men face, but we're women, we still want to think that the man's going to get it together and come rescue us at some point. (Again unrealistic but true for some women.)

Blkreign, when you say women need to step up to the plate, I'm really wondering what else we can do. I mean, for all the millions of black families being led by single black mothers (who knows where the fathers are), to all the single black women on college campuses, in law school, in the office, in politics, in business etc. From Harriet and Sojourner to Condi (yes, her) and Oprah. Geez, how much more can we step up to the plate? Sistas are tired already!!!!

Black Law Students / Re: Fun Summer Reads
« on: May 29, 2005, 04:12:32 PM »
Black Rednecks and White Liberals by Thomas Sowell. Yeah, he's not everyone's cup of tea but he has an interesting point of view. It will either make you really angry or make you reconsider some of your beliefs about racism and culture.

Black Law Students / Re: Fun Summer Reads
« on: May 26, 2005, 03:10:45 PM »
This new novel She Who Shops is a fun summer read. If you love reading about spoiled BAPs, classism, prestige-obsessed Black folks in Boston, etc. This one will do it for you.

Black Law Students / Re: You are new to BLSDB? Introduce yourself here!!!
« on: February 22, 2005, 12:19:21 PM »
Hey BLSD. I used to post waaaaay back when the thread first started. Now I mostly lurk because of work. I've heard back from mostly all the schools I applied to, and I'm pretty sure I'm going to Penn. I'm so glad the app process is over. That was a biatch. Good luck everyone.

Acceptances, Denials, and Waitlists / Re: BC and Wake -- anyone hearing?
« on: December 16, 2004, 10:00:49 AM »
Got in today (I live in Boston so the mail only takes a day). Big white envelope with letter, admissions thingy form, and other glossy materials.
Good luck everyone.

Black Law Students / Re: Black Law Student Discussion Board
« on: November 15, 2004, 11:14:38 AM »

HBCU, I actually felt you on that shiveryjenny post man.  Sorry, but the facts are the facts.  Do something with that hair, Daymn!

that picture was taken post coitum. surely you aren't complaining about this avatar? in this one, i have a 130 dollar hair cut. expensive-ass newbury street.  >:(

LOL! Have you tried Olive's International Textures on Columbus Ave. in the South End? They won't charge $130 for a freakin' cut and they're as professional and upscale as any of those places on Newbury. -- Not that your hair's not fine the way it is.   ;)

Studying for the LSAT / Re: Is the 8 week Powerscore class worth it?
« on: November 15, 2004, 09:24:21 AM »
I just took the Powerscore weekend course and I found it to be really helpful. The instructor gave us a lot of shortcuts and tips that I would have never found out on my own during self-study (which is mostly what I did for the Oct. test.) I would highly recommend it if you don't have the time or the money to put into the 8-week course. 

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