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Title: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 07:29:09 AM
In this thread I get the crazy out so I don't get any on the girl I am trying to get a date with...

Background: Meet girl at party on Sat, she is friend of friends. Things go well, before she leaves she writes her number on my hand without me having to ask for it (though I was going to). I  wait Sun, Mon and call her last night approximately 7:30, get voicemail, leave message. She has not yet called back. I suspect I am just being neurotic, now long do you women wait to call back, or would you wait for the guy to give you another call?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: pikey on January 24, 2007, 07:30:31 AM
In this thread I get the crazy out so I don't get any on the girl I am trying to get a date with...

Background: Meet girl at party on Sat, she is friend of friends. Things go well, before she leaves she writes her number on my hand without me having to ask for it (though I was going to). I  wait Sun, Mon and call her last night approximately 7:30, get voicemail, leave message. She has not yet called back. I suspect I am just being neurotic, now long do you women wait to call back, or would you wait for the guy to give you another call?

It's first thing in the morning.  Chill out!  She might not have even gotten the message yet, and even if she has she'd prolly wait till evening to call.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 07:31:48 AM
In this thread I get the crazy out so I don't get any on the girl I am trying to get a date with...

Background: Meet girl at party on Sat, she is friend of friends. Things go well, before she leaves she writes her number on my hand without me having to ask for it (though I was going to). I  wait Sun, Mon and call her last night approximately 7:30, get voicemail, leave message. She has not yet called back. I suspect I am just being neurotic, now long do you women wait to call back, or would you wait for the guy to give you another call?

It's first thing in the morning.  Chill out!  She might not have even gotten the message yet, and even if she has she'd prolly wait till evening to call.

That's probably true, but it doesn't really answer the question.  Guys often feel like they have to wait a couple days to not seem overeager.  Do women feel the same way?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: pikey on January 24, 2007, 07:33:18 AM
In this thread I get the crazy out so I don't get any on the girl I am trying to get a date with...

Background: Meet girl at party on Sat, she is friend of friends. Things go well, before she leaves she writes her number on my hand without me having to ask for it (though I was going to). I  wait Sun, Mon and call her last night approximately 7:30, get voicemail, leave message. She has not yet called back. I suspect I am just being neurotic, now long do you women wait to call back, or would you wait for the guy to give you another call?

It's first thing in the morning.  Chill out!  She might not have even gotten the message yet, and even if she has she'd prolly wait till evening to call.

That's probably true, but it doesn't really answer the question.  Guys often feel like they have to wait a couple days to not seem overeager.  Do women feel the same way?

It depends.  For a first call, I'd prolly wait.  I'd prolly call the next day if returning a message.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 07:33:35 AM
are you sure it wasn't the number for the chinese take-out down the street?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 07:33:57 AM
I would have waited until Wednesday or Thursday (of the next week) to call, but that's just me.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:34:42 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 07:35:41 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 07:36:23 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 07:37:19 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

how about twister?
trivial pursuit?
charades?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:37:59 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

I have no idea why you quoted me, but I'm glad that you did.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 07:38:10 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

how about twister?
trivial pursuit?
charades?

Spin the bottle?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:38:47 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

how about twister?
trivial pursuit?
charades?

Spin the bottle?

We're not playing spin the bottle; how old are we? More importantly, how old are they?

EDIT: for accuracy
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 07:39:34 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

how about twister?
trivial pursuit?
charades?

Spin the bottle?

Spin the bottle? How old are we? More importantly, how old are they?

I think most of us are 20-26 or so, but I'm only 15.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:42:08 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

how about twister?
trivial pursuit?
charades?

Spin the bottle?

Spin the bottle? How old are we? More importantly, how old are they?

I think most of us are 20-26 or so, but I'm only 15.

This is NOT the Tit Car.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 07:42:16 AM
I would have screwed her that night, but that's just me.

No, no I wouldn't. That situation could never happen to me.

 :D

It depends. I dont really like playing games. If I feel like calling you, I'll call...whatever.

I have no idea why you quoted me, but I'm glad that you did.

I quoted you because I was :D at what you said.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 07:45:38 AM
(http://i37.photobucket.com/albums/e89/kellyunda/swingers.jpg)

you're so money
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:47:00 AM
[img width= height=]http://i.imdb.com/Photos/Ss/0117802/th-fcstil_0161.jpg[/img]

you're so money

Pic's not showing up. What is it, and who's it for?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: halluv on January 24, 2007, 08:10:23 AM
I'd probably wait for him to call again....give her one more call, though you can wait until Thursday or so....If she's interested, she won't be scared off by two call.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 24, 2007, 08:21:30 AM
ETA:  This is not related to the OP.  I'm just using his thread to make blanket statements.

I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 08:23:11 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.
I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

Yeah I agree 100%.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 08:26:12 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)


You're like the Sixers after trading A.I., berry: you're missing the point. (Yes, this was a forced analogy, why do you ask?)

He did call, but got no answer, so he left a message. He's just wondering when/if he should call again. My vote is wait for her, otherwise you might come off a little paranoid.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 08:27:30 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)


Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 24, 2007, 08:28:33 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)


You're like the Sixers after trading A.I., berry: you're missing the point. (Yes, this was a forced analogy, why do you ask?)

He did call, but got no answer, so he left a message. He's just wondering when/if he should call again. My vote is wait for her, otherwise you might come off a little paranoid.

I know that wasn't his point.  I was just using this thread as a platform to express a strongly held believe.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 08:31:12 AM
In this thread I get the crazy out so I don't get any on the girl I am trying to get a date with...

Background: Meet girl at party on Sat, she is friend of friends. Things go well, before she leaves she writes her number on my hand without me having to ask for it (though I was going to). I  wait Sun, Mon and call her last night approximately 7:30, get voicemail, leave message. She has not yet called back. I suspect I am just being neurotic, now long do you women wait to call back, or would you wait for the guy to give you another call?

Oh, and I forgot to ask, how tall was this girl?  :P
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 24, 2007, 08:32:16 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)


Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I can only think of one time I wished a guy wouldn't call, but it was a complicated situation involving a case of mistaken identity.  Turns out "Do you work at John Deere?" can be an effective pickup line, even when he doesn't and so just starts making up a story.

But, I also can't think of too many times when someone has asked for a number I haven't wanted to give.  I don't project a very friendly vibe that makes strangers try and pick me up in bars (a gift/curse I completely don't have).
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 08:33:52 AM
Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I know youre not asking me, but I'll answer.  ;D I think its better just to refuse to give a guy your # if youre not interested. Having to make something up when the guy calls isnt really a good feeling.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 08:37:40 AM
Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?

That's just plain wrong. If you're not interested, don't give out your number, don't give out a fake number. Just say "Not interested" and move on. Are you going to hurt the guy's feelings? Probably, but it's a hell of a lot better than giving him hope only to destroy it later. Vag up.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 08:41:10 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)


Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I can only think of one time I wished a guy wouldn't call, but it was a complicated situation involving a case of mistaken identity.  Turns out "Do you work at John Deere?" can be an effective pickup line, even when he doesn't and so just starts making up a story.

But, I also can't think of too many times when someone has asked for a number I haven't wanted to give.  I don't project a very friendly vibe that makes strangers try and pick me up in bars (a gift/curse I completely don't have).

I guess your "vibe" is nothing like your LSD avatar, huh?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 08:42:52 AM
Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I know youre not asking me, but I'll answer.  ;D I think its better just to refuse to give a guy your # if youre not interested. Having to make something up when the guy calls isnt really a good feeling.

I hear saying no is pretty hard, too.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 08:43:35 AM
Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I know youre not asking me, but I'll answer.  ;D I think its better just to refuse to give a guy your # if youre not interested. Having to make something up when the guy calls isnt really a good feeling.

Villefort, she gave him a number without him asking for it, so I think she's definitely interested.  

Question to the OP: did you leave a callback number in your message?  Maybe she wants to call you back but cannot?  (this has happened to me, yes, and it's extremely frustrating).

I know.  I'm quasi-hijacking the OP's thread.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 08:44:14 AM
Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?

That's just plain wrong. If you're not interested, don't give out your number, don't give out a fake number. Just say "Not interested" and move on. Are you going to hurt the guy's feelings? Probably, but it's a hell of a lot better than giving him hope only to destroy it later. Vag up.

I agree.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 08:45:50 AM
Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I know youre not asking me, but I'll answer.  ;D I think its better just to refuse to give a guy your # if youre not interested. Having to make something up when the guy calls isnt really a good feeling.

I hear saying no is pretty hard, too.

Sometimes. It depends on the person.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 24, 2007, 08:46:51 AM
I wish boys would just call.

If you ask for my number, call.  Call sooner rather than later.  I'm not going to think you're a dink for calling right away (but don't call that night...that's just weird).  I'm going to think you're interested, and since I gave you my number, that's a good thing.

I'm not going to ask for your number, so I'm not calling you.  Sack up.

One more thing - if I thought we hit it off and you don't ask for my number, I might be a bit bummed but I won't be offended.  But if you ask for my number and then don't call, I'll hate you forever.

I highly recommend this site:  http://www.dcnites.com/files/datingrules.php  (the formatting is a pain, but well worth a read)


Have you ever given out your number and wished the guy wouldn't call?  Or do you have the honor to just refuse giving the guy your number?

I can only think of one time I wished a guy wouldn't call, but it was a complicated situation involving a case of mistaken identity.  Turns out "Do you work at John Deere?" can be an effective pickup line, even when he doesn't and so just starts making up a story.

But, I also can't think of too many times when someone has asked for a number I haven't wanted to give.  I don't project a very friendly vibe that makes strangers try and pick me up in bars (a gift/curse I completely don't have).

I guess your "vibe" is nothing like your LSD avatar, huh?

Nope.  I'm great at house parties, terrible in bars.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 09:07:07 AM
I had a really good relationship with a guy to whom I did not want to give my number, but he got it from my friend. So sometimes weird things happen when guys you're not intetested in at first get a hold of your number :D

now you're just making fun of me
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 24, 2007, 09:09:32 AM
general question: how and why did dating become a thing to be gamed?

I blame feminism.

<goalie's ears perk up>
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 09:16:13 AM
We're not playing spin the bottle; how old are we? More importantly, how old are they?

w00t garden state!

Thank you.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 09:21:09 AM
if i like a guy, i'll call that same night.  is that desperate?  keep in mind that i usually only date guys that i'm friends with first so it's not like we're complete strangers.

No, that makes you awesome. Girls showing initiative = relief for guys. It's the least vague way for a girl to show interest in a guy.

It's not fair, really. Guys can hardly tell if a girl is interested in him or not, but for girls it's easy. Just grab your crotch. If you don't feel testicles, he's interested in you.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 09:28:34 AM
So many things to quote, so little space on the page that allows me to do so...

Anyway,

First as I said, this is my attempt to get my crazy out, so I don't get any on her.

Two, yes she volunteered her number without me even asking, I figure women don't go out of their way to volunteer a number unless they do want you to call.

Three, yes I did leave a callback number, and even if I didn't we have several mutual friends, so she can get it.

Four, my current plan is to give until Thursday evening then call her again if she hasn't called back by then.

Five, she's shorter than me for those of you who saw the height thread...

Six, whoever said Vag Up made liquid shoot out my nose.

Seven, we have super-meeting day here at work, so my apologies for the long time between posts.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 09:29:44 AM
So many things to quote, so little space on the page that allows me to do so...

Anyway,

First as I said, this is my attempt to get my crazy out, so I don't get any on her.

Two, yes she volunteered her number without me even asking, I figure women don't go out of their way to volunteer a number unless they do want you to call.

Three, yes I did leave a callback number, and even if I didn't we have several mutual friends, so she can get it.

Four, my current plan is to give until Thursday evening then call her again if she hasn't called back by then.

Five, she's shorter than me for those of you who saw the height thread...

Six, whoever said Vag Up made liquid shoot out my nose.

Seven, we have super-meeting day here at work, so my apologies for the long time between posts.

You're welcome.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 09:29:51 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 09:30:36 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

you're so sweet & innocent
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 09:33:25 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 09:34:57 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.

Why do guys have to be the only ones that have to face the soul-shattering possibility of rejection?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 09:37:41 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.

Why do guys have to be the only ones that have to face the soul-shattering possibility of rejection?

Well I never said they have to be. There are some women who take the initiative to ask guys out...Im just not one of them.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 24, 2007, 09:40:07 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.

Why do guys have to be the only ones that have to face the soul-shattering possibility of rejection?

It's the price you pay for the the testosterone-laden hunters.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 09:46:42 AM
general question: how and why did dating become a thing to be gamed?

I blame feminism.

<goalie's ears perk up>

uh-oh (http://www.daviddfriedman.com/laws_order/index.shtml)

goalie's busy protecting feminism by voting in the who would you do thread
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:05:01 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.

Guys don't ask me out; I don't play for that team.

If your standard is "if a guy won't work up the balls to ask me out then I don't want any part of him, and/or I don't want to ask him out in case he doesn't like me," fine.  But don't lie to yourself.  Some guys will, for any number of reasons, not ask out girls that they're interested in.  Any non-retarded person above the age of eleven or so knows this.

I never said the bolded, youre getting worked up over nothing. I would like to have a discussion about this, but Im not going to have one with someone whos resorting to childish insults.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:07:19 AM
uh oh.  let's all play nice.  :)

I always want to play nice.  :)
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 10:09:52 AM
keepup, do you play the piano by any chance?

I do. I have long, beautiful fingers.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:09:58 AM
keepup, do you play the piano by any chance?

I wish. I used to mess around on the keyboard. Do you?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:13:49 AM
keepup -- do you really think that pretty much every boy who likes a girl will ask her out?

No Im not saying this. I probably wasnt too clear in my first statement.

or are you saying that if he doesn't ask you out he must have not liked you [enough]?

This is what I usually think.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:17:24 AM
I'm not getting any of that from keepup's statements... what I gather from what she said is that if a boy asks her out, she might go out with him.  If he doesn't, she won't.  I don't think she's necessarily going into motives here.

As for the OP - I probably wouldn't return a call from a guy if he waited til Wednesday to call me when I gave him my number Saturday, unless he called again within a short period of time.  I'd wait til tomorrow evening and call her again if you haven't heard back.

And... I'm also not stating anything about men's ball sizes or whether or not they have courage or anything.  I'm just of the opinion that if I'm interested in someone, he'd better show that he's interested in me too, or I'm not going to waste my time.  I've called guys within a day or two, and I've had guys call me the next day.  It's not scary or crazy, it's flattering to know someone is interested.

Same here. I dont have a problem calling a guy right back when he calls me. I dont like games and the whole "well you need to wait 3 days before calling or whatever." Im pretty honest about what I think/feel and I would hope that the other person is the same way.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:18:10 AM
or are you saying that if he doesn't ask you out he must have not liked you [enough]?

This is what I usually think.

i see.  :)

what do you think?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 10:19:26 AM
keepup, do you play the piano by any chance?

I do. I have long, beautiful fingers.

is it because you play the piano or do you have good genes?

Probably genes. I'm mostly kidding though. Well, not really; they are rather slender and aesthetically pleasing.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:21:01 AM
keepup, do you play the piano by any chance?

I wish. I used to mess around on the keyboard. Do you?

i used to when i was little but i stopped after a 3-4 years.  i've been playing the flute for about 13 years though.

Thats cool. I played clarinet for a bit, but stopped because my band teacher was kind of crazy. :D I really wish that I could play the piano though.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 10:24:59 AM
keepup, do you play the piano by any chance?

I do. I have long, beautiful fingers.

is it because you play the piano or do you have good genes?

Probably genes. I'm mostly kidding though. Well, not really; they are rather slender and aesthetically pleasing.

i think you know you need to post a pic of your 'aestetically pleasing' hands now  ;D

Crap. Maybe when I get home.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: KingJamesFan on January 24, 2007, 10:29:32 AM
this thread has only been around since 10:30AM and its hijacked already?

well played.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 10:33:12 AM
this thread has only been around since 10:30AM and its hijacked already?

well played.

How to hijack a post in 6 replies or less:

http://www.lawschooldiscussion.org/prelaw/index.php/topic,81040.msg1944228/boardseen.html#new
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 10:43:25 AM
this thread has only been around since 10:30AM and its hijacked already?

well played.

Yeah it got pretty well yanked, all I wanted to do was have somewhere to vent the fact that I am completely neurotic about girls so that it doesn't become completely obvious to the girl that I am trying to get a date with. She's pretty awesome, so I want to put my best game forward. I am one of the guys who isn't confident, but fakes it pretty well if that makes sense.

And by way of a question, is Tuesday evening 7:30 really too long to wait if she gave me her number at 2:30 am saturday night/sunday morning?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 10:45:06 AM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.

Guys don't ask me out; I don't play for that team.

If your standard is "if a guy won't work up the balls to ask me out then I don't want any part of him, and/or I don't want to ask him out in case he doesn't like me," fine.  But don't lie to yourself.  Some guys will, for any number of reasons, not ask out girls that they're interested in.  Any non-retarded person above the age of eleven or so knows this.

I never said the bolded, youre getting worked up over nothing. I would like to have a discussion about this, but Im not going to have one with someone whos resorting to childish insults.

I know.  I'm saying that the bolded would be fine, because at least it would be honest.  You're saying that if a boy likes you he will ask you out.  I'm saying that any non-retarded person above the age of eleven or so knows that this is not the case in the real, actual world in which we live--plenty of boys do like girls and yet still not ask them out.

1. Dont tell me what Im saying.

2. I clarified my earlier statement. Go back and read it, if you want to.

3. Frankly, I see your point and never said I didnt agree with it. I just dont feel like having a discussion with you because it seems like you just want to agrue and I dont have time for that nonsense.

4. If you havent guessed, Im done discussing this with you. :)
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 10:47:41 AM

And by way of a question, is Tuesday evening 7:30 really too long to wait if she gave me her number at 2:30 am saturday night/sunday morning?

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Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 10:49:42 AM
And by way of a question, is Tuesday evening 7:30 really too long to wait if she gave me her number at 2:30 am saturday night/sunday morning?

I say you should have called Monday afternoon/very early evening. Calling her late doesn't give her any time to adjust plans to hang out that night; calling early enough in the day gives her more time to clear her schedule, or enough notice to keep it free. Plus, if she gave you her number unsolicited (how intoxicated was she?), she's into you.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 10:56:24 AM
I waited for two reasons, one, to avoid seeming too eager, but two, because we had spoken about going snowboarding together that evening, she even suggested the activity when she gave me her number. Well around here, especially with both of us working 8 to 5's snowboarding can only be done on the weekend. So I figured Monday might be too early to make plans for the weekend.

I dunno, it just seemed the right thing to do at the time.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 11:00:14 AM
I waited for two reasons, one, to avoid seeming too eager, but two, because we had spoken about going snowboarding together that evening, she even suggested the activity when she gave me her number. Well around here, especially with both of us working 8 to 5's snowboarding can only be done on the weekend. So I figured Monday might be too early to make plans for the weekend.

I dunno, it just seemed the right thing to do at the time.

Being too eager is a myth. Eagerness = interest = high form of flattery.

I'd say if she doesn't call you by tomorrow evening, call her again. Then again, I'm a terrible person to ask. At work, if someone hasn't responded to an email in 10 minutes, I call them, and I'm sure it drives them crazy.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 24, 2007, 11:02:19 AM
I waited for two reasons, one, to avoid seeming too eager, but two, because we had spoken about going snowboarding together that evening, she even suggested the activity when she gave me her number. Well around here, especially with both of us working 8 to 5's snowboarding can only be done on the weekend. So I figured Monday might be too early to make plans for the weekend.

I dunno, it just seemed the right thing to do at the time.

I would call on Thurs to make plans for the weekend.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 11:05:20 AM
Well it sounds like Thursday is pretty much the consensus...and also my original plan for the second call. I've been characterized as too eager (myth or not) in the past so I get a little concerned. I have this paranoia that one wrong step gets me completely tossed out of any possibility of getting a date, which given the circumstances is probably not logical, at least I would think...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 11:06:35 AM
Well it sounds like Thursday is pretty much the consensus...and also my original plan for the second call. I've been characterized as too eager (myth or not) in the past so I get a little concerned. I have this paranoia that one wrong step gets me completely tossed out of any possibility of getting a date, which given the circumstances is probably not logical, at least I would think...


If a girl is going to judge you for being too interested in her, she can go @#!* herself.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 11:24:00 AM
Well it sounds like Thursday is pretty much the consensus...and also my original plan for the second call. I've been characterized as too eager (myth or not) in the past so I get a little concerned. I have this paranoia that one wrong step gets me completely tossed out of any possibility of getting a date, which given the circumstances is probably not logical, at least I would think...


why have you acted too eager in the past?

If I meet a girl and I like her, I want to spend time with her, I don't do well at the game... Act just disinterested enough to make her interested, wink at her once through a crowded room to indicate mild interest, pull her pigtails on the playground, whatever. I do fine once I actually get past the first date, but I have had such dicey experiences with that in the past (i.e. getting turned down, ending up in the friend zone) that I get paranoid.

Which I KNOW is the least attractive quality to exhibit, so I have driven it out here to the desert to detenonate it where it can't hurt anyone...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 24, 2007, 11:27:57 AM
I like to let a guy know I like him by sleeping with him first, and then giving him my phone number.

'posit
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 12:04:26 PM
I think Tuesday is a little late for calling after a Saturday phone number offering, but not fatal, which is why I think a Thursday call would be okay.  Then again, this might be moot since you said you're both 8-5ers, and she may give you a call this evening after work!

I think I'm just picky, but I expect someone to definitely show interest and not worry about 2-3 day waiting periods.

Definitely don't wait half a week to call her again if you do end up going out this weekend.   ;)

See half the time you get show interest, and half the time you get don't be over eager, its such a f-ing crap shoot. I wish it was as simple as "I like you, you like me, lets go out, when? now? great, let me get my cute shoes" or whatever. But of course life isn't like that. I just hope she does call me and that the one day difference isn't a killer, that would piss me off so much
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 12:11:47 PM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

...eventually
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 12:21:03 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 12:24:22 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Oddibemcd on January 24, 2007, 12:27:37 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I strongly suggest going over to her place with your jambox. Bring your copy of So and crank it up. Hold said jambox over your head and sing "In Your Eyes" over and over. Chicks dig Peter Gabriel.
I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 12:27:57 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.

Holy crap...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 12:29:46 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.

Holy crap...

I know, so romantic, right?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 12:32:10 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.

Holy crap...

I know, so romantic, right?

I have three letters to your question:

T

R

O
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 12:35:08 PM
i meant it.


'maintain' what?

Well then, thanks for real.

Maintain my sanity, my cool, my approach etc. I tend to freak out if things don't immediately go super, but if I can freak out in a neutral place, it does me no harm. So here I am freaking out in a neutral place. That way I can appear well-adjusted to the young lovely until such time as she likes me enough to think my psychosis is endearing or likes me enough that it has gone away.


and to Oddibemcd, wow...just, wow.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 12:37:11 PM
I know Im going to sound old school but if a guy likes you, he'll ask you out.

Except that he might or might not.  Please.  What delusional fantasy world do you live in?

Im not delusional. If a guy likes you...he'll muster up some courage and ask you out. I dont know how things work for you, but thats the way it works for me.

Guys don't ask me out; I don't play for that team.

If your standard is "if a guy won't work up the balls to ask me out then I don't want any part of him, and/or I don't want to ask him out in case he doesn't like me," fine.  But don't lie to yourself.  Some guys will, for any number of reasons, not ask out girls that they're interested in.  Any non-retarded person above the age of eleven or so knows this.

Aww, halfie--tactful as always!
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 12:39:31 PM
i meant it.


'maintain' what?

Well then, thanks for real.

Maintain my sanity, my cool, my approach etc. I tend to freak out if things don't immediately go super, but if I can freak out in a neutral place, it does me no harm. So here I am freaking out in a neutral place. That way I can appear well-adjusted to the young lovely until such time as she likes me enough to think my psychosis is endearing or likes me enough that it has gone away.


and to Oddibemcd, wow...just, wow.

I think that's for me, actually, unless you find Peter Gabriel more disturbing than balloon messages proclaiming eternal love for someone you just met.

It's ok, though. That's what happens when people misquote.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 12:42:19 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.

Holy crap...

I know, so romantic, right?

I have three letters to your question:

T

R

O

I'm puzzled. I thought I had it, but I was wrong.

My first guess was ROMANTIC - T - O - R = MANTI. I figure manti was plural for mantis, as in praying mantis, and what could be more romantic than a praying mantis? So I thought you concurred. Then I found out manti isn't really the plural, it's just a city in Utah. Or a Turkish dumpling. So now I need help.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 12:43:02 PM
i meant it.


'maintain' what?

Well then, thanks for real.

Maintain my sanity, my cool, my approach etc. I tend to freak out if things don't immediately go super, but if I can freak out in a neutral place, it does me no harm. So here I am freaking out in a neutral place. That way I can appear well-adjusted to the young lovely until such time as she likes me enough to think my psychosis is endearing or likes me enough that it has gone away.


and to Oddibemcd, wow...just, wow.

I think that's for me, actually, unless you find Peter Gabriel more disturbing than balloon messages proclaiming eternal love for someone you just met.

It's ok, though. That's what happens when people misquote.
Yeah it was, my bad, I got all confuzzled, but I think we can see how easily this happens to me most of the time.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 24, 2007, 07:20:52 PM

See half the time you get show interest, and half the time you get don't be over eager, its such a f-ing crap shoot. I wish it was as simple as "I like you, you like me, lets go out, when? now? great, let me get my cute shoes" or whatever. But of course life isn't like that. I just hope she does call me and that the one day difference isn't a killer, that would piss me off so much


 :D  :D  :D

If only.  I'd go for something as simple as that.

I think we all would.  The tricky thing is the "you like me" part.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:21:47 PM

See half the time you get show interest, and half the time you get don't be over eager, its such a f-ing crap shoot. I wish it was as simple as "I like you, you like me, lets go out, when? now? great, let me get my cute shoes" or whatever. But of course life isn't like that. I just hope she does call me and that the one day difference isn't a killer, that would piss me off so much


 :D  :D  :D

If only.  I'd go for something as simple as that.

I think we all would.  The tricky thing is the "you like me" part.

You're all skipping the most crucial step: "I like myself". Oooooooh. Think about that.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 07:23:35 PM

See half the time you get show interest, and half the time you get don't be over eager, its such a f-ing crap shoot. I wish it was as simple as "I like you, you like me, lets go out, when? now? great, let me get my cute shoes" or whatever. But of course life isn't like that. I just hope she does call me and that the one day difference isn't a killer, that would piss me off so much


 :D  :D  :D

If only.  I'd go for something as simple as that.

I think we all would.  The tricky thing is the "you like me" part.

Well some of us have to worry about that more than others. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:29:23 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.

Holy crap...

I know, so romantic, right?

I have three letters to your question:

T

R

O

I'm puzzled. I thought I had it, but I was wrong.

My first guess was ROMANTIC - T - O - R = MANTI. I figure manti was plural for mantis, as in praying mantis, and what could be more romantic than a praying mantis? So I thought you concurred. Then I found out manti isn't really the plural, it's just a city in Utah. Or a Turkish dumpling. So now I need help.

I'm pretty sure it means "temporary restraining order"

But ROMANTIC - T - R - O = MANIC, actually.  Which I think covers this thread pretty well.   ::)

I am shamed. Hold on, let me find the right smiley...  :-[ I think that's it.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 24, 2007, 07:32:55 PM
kirps is my favorite n00b

Thanks, I think...

And yes, while I am not currently relaxed, bitching on the board does help me maintain until such time as I do get a call back, or place my next call.

I say if she doesn't call you back by the end of the night, you should drop by her house before she wakes up and leave 5 balloons at her door. Inside each balloon should be a slip of paper, each of which has a different word written on it. When she pops them and arranges them, they'll spell out "I will always love you". This is probably the best approach.

Holy crap...

I know, so romantic, right?

I have three letters to your question:

T

R

O

I'm puzzled. I thought I had it, but I was wrong.

My first guess was ROMANTIC - T - O - R = MANTI. I figure manti was plural for mantis, as in praying mantis, and what could be more romantic than a praying mantis? So I thought you concurred. Then I found out manti isn't really the plural, it's just a city in Utah. Or a Turkish dumpling. So now I need help.

I'm pretty sure it means "temporary restraining order"

But ROMANTIC - T - R - O = MANIC, actually.  Which I think covers this thread pretty well.   ::)

I am shamed. Hold on, let me find the right smiley...  :-[ I think that's it.

It's okay.  I liked the bit about plural mantises.

Yeah, but MANIC would have been so much better.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 08:58:33 PM
burn.

Anyway, saw a mutual friend tonight and it looks like I am gonna have to play this one pretty cool, meaning it will be epic if I can pull this off... :-[
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 09:28:01 PM
burn.

Anyway, saw a mutual friend tonight and it looks like I am gonna have to play this one pretty cool, meaning it will be epic if I can pull this off... :-[

You mean she's not into you?  Why would she have given you her number then?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 09:36:16 PM
burn.

Anyway, saw a mutual friend tonight and it looks like I am gonna have to play this one pretty cool, meaning it will be epic if I can pull this off... :-[

You mean she's not into you?  Why would she have given you her number then?

Well the friend did say that she was the kind of girl that would have made sure I couldn't get her number if she didn't want me to have it. But apparently she just got out of a pretty long term so it may have to be pretty low-key for a while. But of course this is all speculation too, she may just be the kind of girl that won't call until after a first date,  I know some of those.

Anyway, the idea put forth was to call tomorrow night and make it very casual i.e. say I am going to be someplace and see if she wants to join, and if I have to leave a voice mail just do the same and be at said place and she might just be the type to just show up

I f-ing hate this part.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 09:50:44 PM
burn.

Anyway, saw a mutual friend tonight and it looks like I am gonna have to play this one pretty cool, meaning it will be epic if I can pull this off... :-[

You mean she's not into you?  Why would she have given you her number then?

Well the friend did say that she was the kind of girl that would have made sure I couldn't get her number if she didn't want me to have it. But apparently she just got out of a pretty long term so it may have to be pretty low-key for a while. But of course this is all speculation too, she may just be the kind of girl that won't call until after a first date,  I know some of those.

Anyway, the idea put forth was to call tomorrow night and make it very casual i.e. say I am going to be someplace and see if she wants to join, and if I have to leave a voice mail just do the same and be at said place and she might just be the type to just show up

I f-ing hate this part.

I definitely agree that it is an awkward time, but just try to be care-free about it.  If she doesn't like you, who cares?  She is a f-ing loser.  Doesn't matter if it's true as long as it's what you believe. 

And the situation doesn't sound bad.  Coming off a long term relationship could be good or bad.  She might just want a rebound fling, or she might be the type of girl who always wants a guy to be around.  Could mean anything. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jimfoolery on January 24, 2007, 09:54:42 PM
If things don't work out, you might try this slight twist on johnkorean's gifts on the porch idea, courtesy of Jack Handey:

Sometimes when I feel like killing someone, I do a little trick to calm myself down. I'll go over to the personís house and ring the doorbell. When the person comes to the door, I'm gone, but you know what I've left on the porch? A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side of it's head with a note that says "You." After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Brito on January 24, 2007, 09:55:21 PM
I don't have any rules.  If I want to hang out with someone, I do so, and if I want to talk, I do.  And that's that.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 09:57:09 PM
I don't have any rules. 

Sexy. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Brito on January 24, 2007, 10:01:00 PM
I don't have any rules.

Sexy. 

Oh, I just meant calling rules.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 10:04:03 PM
I don't have any rules.

Sexy. 

Oh, I just meant calling rules.

 :(
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 24, 2007, 10:08:31 PM
Unfortunately along with skills I lack patience, as you might guess I don't date alot.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 10:11:40 PM
Unfortunately along with skills I lack patience, as you might guess I don't date alot.

Patience is overrated

So you're a first or second date kind of gal?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 10:15:03 PM
Unfortunately along with skills I lack patience, as you might guess I don't date alot.

Patience is overrated

So you're a first or second date kind of gal?

Ahem. Oh, wouldn't you like to know?  ;)

Just wondering.

/I don't have much patience either. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 10:33:33 PM
Unfortunately along with skills I lack patience, as you might guess I don't date alot.

Patience is overrated

So you're a first or second date kind of gal?

Ahem. Oh, wouldn't you like to know?  ;)

Just wondering.

/I don't have much patience either. 

For some reason, I expected as much.  ::)

 :o

If I met you Rita, I would ask for your number, and I would probably call you the next day. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 24, 2007, 10:38:42 PM
My asking, or your giving?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:30:39 AM
EX-f-ing-ACTLY! I really don't get why she would drop the number on me, then make me jump through burning hoops. My only thought process is either that she didn't get the message (my phone has done dumb *&^% like that before) or that she is exacting retribution for me waiting to call. Otherwise this is like that scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail with the bridge and I'm trying to figure out whether I am dealing with an African swallow or a European swallow.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 06:31:35 AM
EX-f-ing-ACTLY! I really don't get why she would drop the number on me, then make me jump through burning hoops. My only thought process is either that she didn't get the message (my phone has done dumb *&^% like that before) or that she is exacting retribution for me waiting to call. Otherwise this is like that scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail with the bridge and I'm trying to figure out whether I am dealing with an African swallow or a European swallow.

If that's the case, you really don't want to hang out with her.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 06:34:05 AM
EX-f-ing-ACTLY! I really don't get why she would drop the number on me, then make me jump through burning hoops. My only thought process is either that she didn't get the message (my phone has done dumb *&^% like that before) or that she is exacting retribution for me waiting to call. Otherwise this is like that scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail with the bridge and I'm trying to figure out whether I am dealing with an African swallow or a European swallow.

If that's the case, you really don't want to hang out with her.

Well, yeah, but I'm guessing she's hot. If she is, proceed. If not, abort.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 06:36:58 AM
EX-f-ing-ACTLY! I really don't get why she would drop the number on me, then make me jump through burning hoops. My only thought process is either that she didn't get the message (my phone has done dumb *&^% like that before) or that she is exacting retribution for me waiting to call. Otherwise this is like that scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail with the bridge and I'm trying to figure out whether I am dealing with an African swallow or a European swallow.

If that's the case, you really don't want to hang out with her.

Well, yeah, but I'm guessing she's hot. If she is, proceed. If not, abort.

I would not want to have sex with someone who wants to "exact retribution" for waiting 72 hours to call them, when I didn't promise anything otherwise.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 06:37:43 AM
EX-f-ing-ACTLY! I really don't get why she would drop the number on me, then make me jump through burning hoops. My only thought process is either that she didn't get the message (my phone has done dumb *&^% like that before) or that she is exacting retribution for me waiting to call. Otherwise this is like that scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail with the bridge and I'm trying to figure out whether I am dealing with an African swallow or a European swallow.

If that's the case, you really don't want to hang out with her.

Well, yeah, but I'm guessing she's hot. If she is, proceed. If not, abort.

I would not want to have sex with someone who wants to "exact retribution" for waiting 72 hours to call them, when I didn't promise anything otherwise.

Angry sex = the only sex worth having. No, I am not serious.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:39:12 AM
EX-f-ing-ACTLY! I really don't get why she would drop the number on me, then make me jump through burning hoops. My only thought process is either that she didn't get the message (my phone has done dumb sh*t like that before) or that she is exacting retribution for me waiting to call. Otherwise this is like that scene in Monty Python and the Holy Grail with the bridge and I'm trying to figure out whether I am dealing with an African swallow or a European swallow.

If that's the case, you really don't want to hang out with her.

Well, yeah, but I'm guessing she's hot. If she is, proceed. If not, abort.

check, actually double check.

And I am not sure if she is exacting retribution, it was just all I could really think of. Though I have been informed that there are some girls who will not return a call until after the first date. I.e. until said point boy should be "pursuing"...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:53:52 AM
Yeah, I'm awesome
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 06:54:39 AM
Yeah, I'm awesome

Wrong. Super great.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:57:45 AM
well thankee voters of confidence, now if we can only get said strumpet to answer her phone tonight (I finally bought pirates of the carribean, otherwise I would not have called her a strumpet, actually thats not true, I totally would if it carried any comedic weight).
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 09:27:45 AM
Do you ever find yourself in these situations and kind of feel like you might be a little bit psychic? Like I see the way I think this situation will play out in my head, and past experience tells me that about 95% of the time I am right...


Basically I think I am going to call this girl tonight, get her voicemail again, leave a message that says I am going snowboarding on saturday and that she can join if she likes, leave my number, she won't call, won't show up, and then sunday I will drop her an email that never gets responded to and that will be that. and I will be left wondering why the @#!* a girl would give me her number just to blow me off.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 09:29:46 AM
Do you ever find yourself in these situations and kind of feel like you might be a little bit psychic? Like I see the way I think this situation will play out in my head, and past experience tells me that about 95% of the time I am right...


Basically I think I am going to call this girl tonight, get her voicemail again, leave a message that says I am going snowboarding on saturday and that she can join if she likes, leave my number, she won't call, won't show up, and then sunday I will drop her an email that never gets responded to and that will be that. and I will be left wondering why the @#!* a girl would give me her number just to blow me off.

Do you really want to send an e-mail?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 09:31:08 AM
Do you ever find yourself in these situations and kind of feel like you might be a little bit psychic? Like I see the way I think this situation will play out in my head, and past experience tells me that about 95% of the time I am right...


Basically I think I am going to call this girl tonight, get her voicemail again, leave a message that says I am going snowboarding on saturday and that she can join if she likes, leave my number, she won't call, won't show up, and then sunday I will drop her an email that never gets responded to and that will be that. and I will be left wondering why the @#!* a girl would give me her number just to blow me off.

This is a result of all reality being nothing more than cause and effect. Pure mathematics. Phenomena and noumena. I don't remember philosophy anymore.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 09:32:24 AM
Do you ever find yourself in these situations and kind of feel like you might be a little bit psychic? Like I see the way I think this situation will play out in my head, and past experience tells me that about 95% of the time I am right...


Basically I think I am going to call this girl tonight, get her voicemail again, leave a message that says I am going snowboarding on saturday and that she can join if she likes, leave my number, she won't call, won't show up, and then sunday I will drop her an email that never gets responded to and that will be that. and I will be left wondering why the @#!* a girl would give me her number just to blow me off.

Do you really want to send an e-mail?

not particularly, but if I don't when two messages haven't been responded to, I will wonder if the phone isn't working or something, I though I suppose an unreturned phone message is no worse than an unreturned email. I dunno, I just find these situations so unbelievably frustrating because they almost always seem to go wrong no matter how I play them.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 09:39:04 AM
Do you ever find yourself in these situations and kind of feel like you might be a little bit psychic? Like I see the way I think this situation will play out in my head, and past experience tells me that about 95% of the time I am right...


Basically I think I am going to call this girl tonight, get her voicemail again, leave a message that says I am going snowboarding on saturday and that she can join if she likes, leave my number, she won't call, won't show up, and then sunday I will drop her an email that never gets responded to and that will be that. and I will be left wondering why the @#!* a girl would give me her number just to blow me off.

Do you really want to send an e-mail?

not particularly, but if I don't when two messages haven't been responded to, I will wonder if the phone isn't working or something, I though I suppose an unreturned phone message is no worse than an unreturned email. I dunno, I just find these situations so unbelievably frustrating because they almost always seem to go wrong no matter how I play them.

Is it just me, or is the third message (the e-mail) a little too much?

Could just be me...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 09:40:35 AM
I wonder about that, I generally follow a three strikes and you're out policy when it comes to unreturned phone calls etc. Though I could probably drop it at two, who the @#!* knows, its not like any of the rules in these situations are more than about 30% applicable anyway.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 09:41:18 AM
I wonder about that, I generally follow a three strikes and you're out policy when it comes to unreturned phone calls etc. Though I could probably drop it at two, who the @#!* knows, its not like any of the rules in these situations are more than about 30% applicable anyway.

I think you're thinking way too much about this girl.  Just go out and find someone else to worry about. :P
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 09:43:19 AM
I wonder about that, I generally follow a three strikes and you're out policy when it comes to unreturned phone calls etc. Though I could probably drop it at two, who the @#!* knows, its not like any of the rules in these situations are more than about 30% applicable anyway.

I think you're thinking way too much about this girl.  Just go out and find someone else to worry about. :P

Wrong, she's hot. Do everything in your power to put your penis into her short of getting arrested. Fight the good fight, my man.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 09:43:58 AM
I wonder about that, I generally follow a three strikes and you're out policy when it comes to unreturned phone calls etc. Though I could probably drop it at two, who the @#!* knows, its not like any of the rules in these situations are more than about 30% applicable anyway.

I think you're thinking way too much about this girl.  Just go out and find someone else to worry about. :P

Wrong, she's hot. Do everything in your power to put your penis into her short of getting arrested. Fight the good fight, my man.

You're an idiot.  :D
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 25, 2007, 09:45:04 AM
kirps,
as long as you're emailing her and trying to figure things out,
just email her a link to this thread and we'll take it from there.
you're welcome
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 09:45:43 AM
kirps,
as long as you're emailing her and trying to figure things out,
just email her a link to this thread and we'll take it from there.
you're welcome

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!  :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 10:17:01 AM
kirps,
as long as you're emailing her and trying to figure things out,
just email her a link to this thread and we'll take it from there.
you're welcome

Excellent, thank the baby jesus for you people.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 10:22:23 AM
I wonder about that, I generally follow a three strikes and you're out policy when it comes to unreturned phone calls etc. Though I could probably drop it at two, who the @#!* knows, its not like any of the rules in these situations are more than about 30% applicable anyway.

I think you're thinking way too much about this girl.  Just go out and find someone else to worry about. :P

Of course I'm thinking too much about this girl, its what I do, I thought that would be abundantly clear by now  :P.

And I would just think too much about the other one if I did find another...I'm just unstable like that.

I have almost decided to swear off women entirely and just masturbate my way through life.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 10:50:00 AM
It's kind of cute to see a guy obsess so much over a girl, though.  On the girl end, we don't usually see this part.  I've never actually witnessed it happening.

Pretty or not, I wouldn't want such a high maintenance girl.  I mean, if the first date is this hard, imagine what the relationship would be like!  :o

Exactly
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 25, 2007, 10:55:49 AM
It's kind of cute to see a guy obsess so much over a girl, though.  On the girl end, we don't usually see this part.  I've never actually witnessed it happening.

Pretty or not, I wouldn't want such a high maintenance girl.  I mean, if the first date is this hard, imagine what the relationship would be like!  :o

Or maybe she's just not that into him?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: . . . on January 25, 2007, 11:03:23 AM
It's kind of cute to see a guy obsess so much over a girl, though.  On the girl end, we don't usually see this part.  I've never actually witnessed it happening.


my thoughts exactly.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 11:11:18 AM
It's kind of cute to see a guy obsess so much over a girl, though.  On the girl end, we don't usually see this part.  I've never actually witnessed it happening.


my thoughts exactly.

There must be a very fine line over cute obsessing and creepy obsessing...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 11:21:13 AM
This is my spiral into psychosis. Its partly because I've been single for about three years now. Partly because I don't often meet girls I like enough to spend any time on. Partly because since I have been single my romantic life is pretty much like the blooper reel on a bad romantic comedy. and partly because this girl really does seem to be a total package.

The actual events that have occurred are as follows...

Saturday: Met Girl, phone number giving without being asked
Tuedsay: Called Girl, left message including my phone number
1 minute after conclusion of said phone call: started freaking out.


So in reality its mostly me being a total basket case. She could have returned the call but I did wait three days before calling her. So I'll call her tonight, after seeing how that goes I'll know more. I just hope I don't get voicemail again, I do not do well with uncertainty. I would rather just be told to @#!* off and die than not know.


EDIT: The fine line between cute and creepy is if the girl being obsessed about knows it or not...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jimfoolery on January 25, 2007, 11:33:41 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap.  
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 11:36:41 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap.  

I'm still a very big fan of my balloon idea.

"I. Will. Always. Love. You."

How could any woman not fall for that? Answer: they couldn't. She would be yours. Forever.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 11:39:24 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap. 

While I prefer this method, they generally don't allow that kind of thing at the office. My work is very mindless right now, ergo, my mind wanders to this, and BANG! crazy. Sorry,  it just has to get me through to tonight when I can calm myself down and gather up all my sauve-ness and make the casually disinterested but interested enough to call phone call.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jimfoolery on January 25, 2007, 11:40:04 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap.  

I'm still a very big fan of my balloon idea.

"I. Will. Always. Love. You."

How could any woman not fall for that? Answer: they couldn't. She would be yours. Forever.

She could use the knife in the pumpkin to pop the balloons.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 11:42:43 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap.  

I'm still a very big fan of my balloon idea.

"I. Will. Always. Love. You."

How could any woman not fall for that? Answer: they couldn't. She would be yours. Forever.

She could use the knife in the pumpkin to pop the balloons.

One thing kids like is to be tricked. For instance, I was going to take my little nephew to Disneyland, but instead I drove him to an old burned-out warehouse. "Oh, no," I said. "Disneyland burned down." He cried and cried, but I think that deep down, he thought it was a pretty good joke. I started to drive over to the real Disneyland, but it was getting pretty late.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jimfoolery on January 25, 2007, 11:47:31 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap. 

While I prefer this method, they generally don't allow that kind of thing at the office. My work is very mindless right now, ergo, my mind wanders to this, and BANG! crazy. Sorry,  it just has to get me through to tonight when I can calm myself down and gather up all my sauve-ness and make the casually disinterested but interested enough to call phone call.

If you think that it was your initial apparent disinterest which made her not return your first call, I don't see what you have to gain by affecting a casual disinterest this time.  Don't be pathetic, but don't be too politic either, and she may be quicker to take the bait or give you a frank "no."
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 11:48:04 AM
If things don't work out, you might try this slight twist on johnkorean's gifts on the porch idea, courtesy of Jack Handey:

Sometimes when I feel like killing someone, I do a little trick to calm myself down. I'll go over to the personís house and ring the doorbell. When the person comes to the door, I'm gone, but you know what I've left on the porch? A jack-o-lantern with a knife stuck in the side of it's head with a note that says "You." After that I usually feel a lot better, and no harm done.

OK, Mr. Handey.

Thanks, Captain Late By A Day.

EDIT: Technically, it was today, but still, you're 14 hours late. Good enough for me.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 11:51:54 AM
I know this thread is designed for you to get the crazy out, but is it possible you're just feeding and nurturing a crazy that will grow up to devour you whole?  I say relax.  Drink about 5 or 6 beers, put on the rubber sheets, and take a long nap. 

While I prefer this method, they generally don't allow that kind of thing at the office. My work is very mindless right now, ergo, my mind wanders to this, and BANG! crazy. Sorry,  it just has to get me through to tonight when I can calm myself down and gather up all my sauve-ness and make the casually disinterested but interested enough to call phone call.

If you think that it was your initial apparent disinterest which made her not return your first call, I don't see what you have to gain by affecting a casual disinterest this time.  Don't be pathetic, but don't be too politic either, and she may be quicker to take the bait or give you a frank "no."

could be, I think I have the strategy all worked out, so the call is not what I am really worried about...its getting there that kills me. I'm a fixer, I solve problems so to me waiting = torture.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: ptown on January 25, 2007, 12:09:28 PM
There is no way I would call after leaving a message that isn't returned.

Whether it be personal or business, unless they owe me money, I make 1 call.  If they don't call back, too bad.

Even if you do get ahold of her, and she wasn't totally trying to blow you off, by making the second call you are loosing Hand.  A relationship without a good balance of Hand will fall apart.

There are only 3 options here 1) she is blowing you off for some unknown reason (perhaps because you waited too long) - probability = 95% 2) She is stuck-up and wants you to call her (thus loosing Hand) - probability = 4% 3) There was a technical malfunction while leaving the message - probability = 1%.  Add 9% to 3 and subtract 9% from 1 IF you have a crappy phone.

Waiting a certain number of days before calling someone is stupid, it will only be viewed as desperate if you act desperate.  If one was totally confident they would call when they felt like it, whether that be the next day or the next week.  If a girl thinks you are weird for calling when you get a chance/want to, then hell with her.

Of course, I don't know the anything about dating whatsoever since I am married, so take my advice with a grain of salt.  My advice is to forget her though.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 12:11:48 PM
There is no way I would call after leaving a message that isn't returned.

Whether it be personal or business, unless they owe me money, I make 1 call.  If they don't call back, too bad.

Even if you do get ahold of her, and she wasn't totally trying to blow you off, by making the second call you are loosing Hand.  A relationship without a good balance of Hand will fall apart.

There are only 3 options here 1) she is blowing you off for some unknown reason (perhaps because you waited too long) - probability = 95% 2) She is stuck-up and wants you to call her (thus loosing Hand) - probability = 4% 3) There was a technical malfunction while leaving the message - probability = 1%.  Add 9% to 3 and subtract 9% from 1 IF you have a crappy phone.

Waiting a certain number of days before calling someone is stupid, it will only be viewed as desperate if you act desperate.  If one was totally confident they would call when they felt like it, whether that be the next day or the next week.  If a girl thinks you are weird for calling when you get a chance/want to, then hell with her.

Of course, I don't know the anything about dating whatsoever since I am married, so take my advice with a grain of salt.  My advice is to forget her though.

appreciated...though I think this one is worth one more call, because quite frankly, as I said before, I don't meet many that I even want to call once.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: ptown on January 25, 2007, 12:14:20 PM
i wish you luck
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 12:27:26 PM
i wish you luck

appreciated, actually even more than the advice.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:06:46 PM
I was actually just thinking about clubbing her over the head and dragging her back to my cave...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:11:02 PM
well that's the plan then, just gotta figure out where she lives, what the hell, nothing says "i love you" like a restraining order
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 01:11:27 PM
I was actually just thinking about clubbing her over the head and dragging her back to my cave...

chicks like it rough, show the female dog "Who's the Boss?" starring Tony Danza, be a take charge kinda guy

You're welcome.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:22:11 PM
Really bad soul-crushing breakup summer prior to my fifth year in school, that year, between taking about a semester to get myself back together and some of the aforementioned dating bloopers, nothing materialized. Graduated from college and took a life consuming traveling software consultant job for a bit over a year, quit that in september and traveled a little and enjoyed unemployment, now I am just getting sorted out here in my new job.


Aside from the circumstances, I personally have never been that good with the opposite sex, I end up in the friend zone a lot, I get blown off a lot, its just never come easy for me. Couldn't get dates in high school, dated a girl for about eight months starting the summer after graduation, was single for about a year then picked up the eventual soul-crusher and dated her for about 2 years. I have a female friend who characterizes me as the unluckiest man on the planet, I say that I am either the balance for all those people who have cool dating stories, like yin and yang style, or that I am the guy every girl wants her friends to date.

Just my lot in life I guess.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jer on January 25, 2007, 01:28:37 PM
Just my lot in life I guess.

eh. not really. you're going about it the wrong way is all.

srsly.
you just need a good pimp
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:34:23 PM
Just my lot in life I guess.

eh. not really. you're going about it the wrong way is all.
you need to build your self-confidence man

i don't know you, but it appears that you have a combination of little neuroses and personality flaws that women pick up on, and run the other way.  the specific things might not be apparent to you, but i suggest asking some female friends to be honest with you and tell you to your face what the problem is--they should know

They do, and it is self-confidence, when it comes to women anyway. To me dating is like an achilles heel, I do well and am sorted in most other aspects of my life, I conduct myself with poise and confidence in business and social situations, but when it comes to girls everything just sort of spirals down the tubes.

Witness the previous part of this thread, All that has really happened her is that someone hasn't returned a phone call in a little less than 48 hrs. But I have analyzed and freaked out over it for 12 pages. Its a bit of a vicious cycle really and I know that. I am doing my best to hide it from the girl and my hope is that she just hadn't gotten around to it and we'll touch base tonight, but its a mental roller-coaster for me. Getting a good woman is like my holy grail or something and comes with all the emotional hangups thereof. I realize confidence is the kicker and thats why I fake it. In all honesty as far as this girl is concerned all she has seen is confidence, and trust me I know myself well enough to tell you how I acted around her and when I left my message. I've kept the crazy back, but I just have to let it out somewhere.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:39:49 PM
I've done that before, its ok, initial meetings are fine, obviously I did ok if I got the digits, its just this middle ground *&^%. the Almost-date. like I said, I hate waiting.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:46:28 PM
yeah, working on that...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:50:15 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 25, 2007, 01:53:16 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.

Frightened.  Always frightened.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 25, 2007, 01:55:20 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.

Frightened.  Always frightened.

177

 :-*
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 01:59:43 PM
well now I am just more confused than frightened or excited
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 02:08:56 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.

ignore this girl if she does call you back

move on

she missed her chance

I was referring to meiji and her Very Special Lesson
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 02:17:25 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.

ignore this girl if she does call you back

move on

she missed her chance

I was referring to meiji and her Very Special Lesson

oh, well whatever (you should be frightened)

however, i am serious about this, she missed her chance, @#!* her

A famous philosopher whose name I can't recall at this moment said "Know Thyself" and I know that I will go out with this girl if she calls me back, no matter how much of a badass I try to sound like here.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 02:18:08 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.

ignore this girl if she does call you back

move on

she missed her chance

I was referring to meiji and her Very Special Lesson

oh, well whatever (you should be frightened)

however, i am serious about this, she missed her chance, @#!* her

I believe that's the objective.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 02:19:53 PM
Not really sure if I should be excited or frightened.

ignore this girl if she does call you back

move on

she missed her chance

I was referring to meiji and her Very Special Lesson

oh, well whatever (you should be frightened)

however, i am serious about this, she missed her chance, @#!* her

I believe that's the objective.

and touche
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 25, 2007, 02:26:07 PM

not clever

Shh, not everyone has figured that out yet.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 02:27:34 PM

not clever

Shh, not everyone has figured that out yet.


maybe not clever, but pretty accurate.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 25, 2007, 02:56:38 PM
A suggestion for the future could be to send a text message to the girl the day after saying you liked her but are busy and will give her a call in a few days.  This way she knows you are interested, and she knows when to be expecting a call.  Plus she gets to wait and get excited, hopefully forgetting all your flaws. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: sillyberry on January 25, 2007, 03:03:59 PM
A suggestion for the future could be to send a text message to the girl the day after saying you liked her but are busy and will give her a call in a few days.  This way she knows you are interested, and she knows when to be expecting a call.  Plus she gets to wait and get excited, hopefully forgetting all your flaws. 

Since I can't read whether or not you are joking (you seem to have warped ideas when it comes to women), let me just say this is completely unacceptable.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 25, 2007, 03:16:53 PM
A suggestion for the future could be to send a text message to the girl the day after saying you liked her but are busy and will give her a call in a few days.  This way she knows you are interested, and she knows when to be expecting a call.  Plus she gets to wait and get excited, hopefully forgetting all your flaws. 

Since I can't read whether or not you are joking (you seem to have warped ideas when it comes to women), let me just say this is completely unacceptable.

 :D

I don't think it is such a bad idea.  Never tried it, but perhaps I will!

You know what your problem is?  You.  It's not this girl, it's you.

Oh, you do know that?  You think your problem is self-confidence and a lack of dating experience?

Here's how you fix it: start going on dates with ugly chicks.  Girls you're not interested in.  I mean it, stop waiting around for these girls that you f-ing set up as superhuman symbols and get used to dating, realize it's not a big deal.  You may even have to kiss some of them, so that you can realize that kissing a girl is also not that big of a deal, so maybe you shouldn't pick the ugliest of the uggos, but that's up to you.  Dating is just dating.  Sex is just sex.  People are just people, and there are plenty of dateable girls in this world but you'll never meet them if you keep doing what you've been doing.

I'd tell you that you're so money and you don't even know, but honestly, you're not.  Stop sitting around and start fixing your damn problems.

O halfie--such a romantic!
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:24:43 PM
Well all,

I can go back to my quasi-sane state awash in the surety I won't be dealing with this anymore. She has a boyfriend.


Go Flames.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:28:28 PM
Yep. Pretty weak sauce, but at least she was pretty up front about it. The no call (at least she says) was because of a lost phone charger and she said that she through the number out there because she wanted to clarify, because she wasn't sure what got alluded to at the party.

Not the best outcome, but I actually don't feel all that bad.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 25, 2007, 06:30:10 PM
Yep. Pretty weak sauce, but at least she was pretty up front about it. The no call (at least she says) was because of a lost phone charger and she said that she through the number out there because she wanted to clarify, because she wasn't sure what got alluded to at the party.

Not the best outcome, but I actually don't feel all that bad.

Wow.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 06:47:24 PM
Well I think the ending sucks too, if that helps.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 07:17:19 PM
who doesn't love a good mushroom stamp.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 07:19:17 PM
I actually prefer "the brain" but I like where your head's at
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 25, 2007, 07:21:57 PM
Yep. Pretty weak sauce, but at least she was pretty up front about it. The no call (at least she says) was because of a lost phone charger and she said that she through the number out there because she wanted to clarify, because she wasn't sure what got alluded to at the party.

Not the best outcome, but I actually don't feel all that bad.

Wow.

So can we now declare officially that girls are crazy?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 25, 2007, 07:23:47 PM
Yep. Pretty weak sauce, but at least she was pretty up front about it. The no call (at least she says) was because of a lost phone charger and she said that she through the number out there because she wanted to clarify, because she wasn't sure what got alluded to at the party.

Not the best outcome, but I actually don't feel all that bad.

Wow.

So can we now declare officially that girls are crazy?

Don't generalize now

I don't know.  This was pretty odd behavior on the part of a member of your sex, no?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 07:23:57 PM

I actually prefer "the brain" but I like where your head's at

you mean "monkey bwains?"  [spelling intended] or "flys eyes"?

you say po-tay-toe, I say shove-my-balls-in-her-face
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 25, 2007, 07:24:45 PM
Yep. Pretty weak sauce, but at least she was pretty up front about it. The no call (at least she says) was because of a lost phone charger and she said that she through the number out there because she wanted to clarify, because she wasn't sure what got alluded to at the party.

Not the best outcome, but I actually don't feel all that bad.

Wow.

So can we now declare officially that girls are crazy?

Don't generalize now


I don't know.  This was pretty odd behavior on the part of a member of your sex, no?



Pretty much, she goes on the blooper reel.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: ptown on January 26, 2007, 06:20:05 AM
wait...she gave you her number because she wanted to clarify what?  that she had a boyfriend? 

Was this girl wearing a helmet when you met her?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 06:48:08 AM
wait...she gave you her number because she wanted to clarify what?  that she had a boyfriend? 

Was this girl wearing a helmet when you met her?

yes and no.

Quite frankly, my friends blew the call on this one. They had been talking this girl up to me for months. Part of the reason that I was so stoked on this girl is that I met her and she seemed to actually live up to, possibly even exceed the hype. All in all a pretty dumb situation.

I can add "girl who gave me her number to tell me she was in a relationship" to my list of bizarre women in the last three years or so.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 26, 2007, 06:49:29 AM
Maybe I'm retarded, and maybe my being retarded is independent of my inability to understand this, but can someone give me any sort of rational explanation as to how giving a guy your number unsolicited is meant to indicate that you're in a relationship?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 06:58:11 AM
Maybe I'm retarded, and maybe my being retarded is independent of my inability to understand this, but can someone give me any sort of rational explanation as to how giving a guy your number unsolicited is meant to indicate that you're in a relationship?

She actually wanted me to call her so she could say it on the phone I guess. I can't explain it. Obviously was not what I expected.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 07:46:48 AM
This is one for the record books. But if there's any real lesson to be learned from this, it's that you need some casual sex. Badly. No emotions or thoughts of a relationship to complicate things for you, just some simple random hookup sex. Matter of fact, find some other male friends and volunteer to be their wingman. Just don't @#!* anyone crazier than you, and you should be fine.

You are not the first person to suggest this course of action, If I can find one I am reasonably certain is disease free I will probably go ahead an knock that out.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 07:50:45 AM
This is one for the record books. But if there's any real lesson to be learned from this, it's that you need some casual sex. Badly. No emotions or thoughts of a relationship to complicate things for you, just some simple random hookup sex. Matter of fact, find some other male friends and volunteer to be their wingman. Just don't @#!* anyone crazier than you, and you should be fine.

You are not the first person to suggest this course of action, If I can find one I am reasonably certain is disease free I will probably go ahead an knock that out.

Good luck
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 07:56:34 AM
This is one for the record books. But if there's any real lesson to be learned from this, it's that you need some casual sex. Badly. No emotions or thoughts of a relationship to complicate things for you, just some simple random hookup sex. Matter of fact, find some other male friends and volunteer to be their wingman. Just don't @#!* anyone crazier than you, and you should be fine.

You are not the first person to suggest this course of action, If I can find one I am reasonably certain is disease free I will probably go ahead an knock that out.
Not everyone who looks "disease free" actually is, and not everyone who looks diseased actually is. Blood tests and discussions of past sexual history don't really help much with the whole spontaneity thing, either. There are ways to protect yourself while maintaining the ability to have stranger sex (as in sex with a stranger, and sex which is stranger). So exercise them.

No matter what ways you use to protect yourself, you are putting yourself at risk.  Don't think just because you use a condom correctly, you're in the clear and have nothing to worry about.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 26, 2007, 07:57:31 AM
This is one for the record books. But if there's any real lesson to be learned from this, it's that you need some casual sex. Badly. No emotions or thoughts of a relationship to complicate things for you, just some simple random hookup sex. Matter of fact, find some other male friends and volunteer to be their wingman. Just don't @#!* anyone crazier than you, and you should be fine.

You are not the first person to suggest this course of action, If I can find one I am reasonably certain is disease free I will probably go ahead an knock that out.
Not everyone who looks "disease free" actually is, and not everyone who looks diseased actually is. Blood tests and discussions of past sexual history don't really help much with the whole spontaneity thing, either. There are ways to protect yourself while maintaining the ability to have stranger sex (as in sex with a stranger, and sex which is stranger). So exercise them.

No matter what ways you use to protect yourself, you are putting yourself at risk.  Don't think just because you use a condom correctly, you're in the clear and have nothing to worry about.

Butt sex is the answer.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 07:59:21 AM
This is one for the record books. But if there's any real lesson to be learned from this, it's that you need some casual sex. Badly. No emotions or thoughts of a relationship to complicate things for you, just some simple random hookup sex. Matter of fact, find some other male friends and volunteer to be their wingman. Just don't @#!* anyone crazier than you, and you should be fine.

You are not the first person to suggest this course of action, If I can find one I am reasonably certain is disease free I will probably go ahead an knock that out.
Not everyone who looks "disease free" actually is, and not everyone who looks diseased actually is. Blood tests and discussions of past sexual history don't really help much with the whole spontaneity thing, either. There are ways to protect yourself while maintaining the ability to have stranger sex (as in sex with a stranger, and sex which is stranger). So exercise them.

No matter what ways you use to protect yourself, you are putting yourself at risk.  Don't think just because you use a condom correctly, you're in the clear and have nothing to worry about.

Butt sex is the answer.

Oh geez...
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 08:01:15 AM
Thank you all, and believe me I have heard all the spiels before and part of the reason I am so crazy is because I am so celibate because I am such a hypochondriac about STDs. I really don't like the idea of playing russian roulette with my genitals so I tend to pass on those sorts of opportunities.

Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 26, 2007, 08:04:18 AM
This is one for the record books. But if there's any real lesson to be learned from this, it's that you need some casual sex. Badly. No emotions or thoughts of a relationship to complicate things for you, just some simple random hookup sex. Matter of fact, find some other male friends and volunteer to be their wingman. Just don't @#!* anyone crazier than you, and you should be fine.

You are not the first person to suggest this course of action, If I can find one I am reasonably certain is disease free I will probably go ahead an knock that out.
Not everyone who looks "disease free" actually is, and not everyone who looks diseased actually is. Blood tests and discussions of past sexual history don't really help much with the whole spontaneity thing, either. There are ways to protect yourself while maintaining the ability to have stranger sex (as in sex with a stranger, and sex which is stranger). So exercise them.

No matter what ways you use to protect yourself, you are putting yourself at risk.  Don't think just because you use a condom correctly, you're in the clear and have nothing to worry about.

titcr!
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Johnny Stuffs His Mouth on January 26, 2007, 08:06:39 AM
shady thread has now become seedy.

meiji approves.

If by seedy, you mean seed as in semen, then TITCAR.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 08:07:09 AM
Thank you all, and believe me I have heard all the spiels before and part of the reason I am so crazy is because I am so celibate because I am such a hypochondriac about STDs. I really don't like the idea of playing russian roulette with my genitals so I tend to pass on those sorts of opportunities.

Good; I'm just preaching to the choir, then.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jimfoolery on January 26, 2007, 09:03:12 AM
Thank you all, and believe me I have heard all the spiels before and part of the reason I am so crazy is because I am so celibate because I am such a hypochondriac about STDs. I really don't like the idea of playing russian roulette with my genitals so I tend to pass on those sorts of opportunities.



I play russian roulette with my genitals every day, it's nothing to be afraid of.

Wait, no, I'm thinking of Texas hold 'em.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 09:09:11 AM
Thank you all, and believe me I have heard all the spiels before and part of the reason I am so crazy is because I am so celibate because I am such a hypochondriac about STDs. I really don't like the idea of playing russian roulette with my genitals so I tend to pass on those sorts of opportunities.



I play russian roulette with my genitals every day, it's nothing to be afraid of.

Wait, no, I'm thinking of Texas hold 'em.

*rimshot* thank you everyone, jimfoolery will be appearing all week, tip your waitress, try the veal, the seven o'clock show is completely different from the nine o'clock show.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: jimfoolery on January 26, 2007, 09:12:38 AM
Thank you all, and believe me I have heard all the spiels before and part of the reason I am so crazy is because I am so celibate because I am such a hypochondriac about STDs. I really don't like the idea of playing russian roulette with my genitals so I tend to pass on those sorts of opportunities.



I play russian roulette with my genitals every day, it's nothing to be afraid of.

Wait, no, I'm thinking of Texas hold 'em.

*rimshot* thank you everyone, jimfoolery will be appearing all week, tip your waitress, try the veal, the seven o'clock show is completely different from the nine o'clock show.

Nope, same show.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 09:15:19 AM
Thank you all, and believe me I have heard all the spiels before and part of the reason I am so crazy is because I am so celibate because I am such a hypochondriac about STDs. I really don't like the idea of playing russian roulette with my genitals so I tend to pass on those sorts of opportunities.



I play russian roulette with my genitals every day, it's nothing to be afraid of.

Wait, no, I'm thinking of Texas hold 'em.

*rimshot* thank you everyone, jimfoolery will be appearing all week, tip your waitress, try the veal, the seven o'clock show is completely different from the nine o'clock show.

Nope, same show.

stick with what works I guess.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 26, 2007, 11:15:28 AM
FWIW, when I met my gf (of 2 years now), she had a bf of ~3 years. I told her how I felt and she broke up with him.

aww thats sweet.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 11:19:48 AM
FWIW, when I met my gf (of 2 years now), she had a bf of ~3 years. I told her how I felt and she broke up with him.

Doesn't that both you, though?

Perhaps she will meet another guy who will tell her his feeling, then she breaks up with you.

This reminds me of people who marry the person they're having an affair with.  ::)
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 26, 2007, 11:20:54 AM
FWIW, when I met my gf (of 2 years now), she had a bf of ~3 years. I told her how I felt and she broke up with him.

cal=God?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 11:23:58 AM
FWIW, when I met my gf (of 2 years now), she had a bf of ~3 years. I told her how I felt and she broke up with him.

Congrats and more power to you.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 26, 2007, 11:32:37 AM
Okay, this is indeed an odd situation. Maybe she has a boyfriend, but their relationship isn't rock solid, so she's kind of looking around for someone else. Maybe she decided after that weekend that she did indeed want to be with her boyfriend, hence the kiss-off on the phone. Or she could be one of those girls that's very flirty and likes attention from other guys, but changes her mind quickly afterwards.

Yes, I agree.  I really doubt she gave you her number to tell you she had a boyfriend. 

Shanny is right.  Girls change their minds all the time.  For instance I was talking to this one girl via facebook last week who was overjoyed that she and her boyfriend were back together, and then two days later she was listed as single again.  I had to laugh. 
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 11:33:26 AM
FWIW, when I met my gf (of 2 years now), she had a bf of ~3 years. I told her how I felt and she broke up with him.

Congrats and more power to you.

Thanks, I'm just saying, you can still think about telling her how you feel. We didn't get together immediately after they broke up, but it worked out for the best.

I appreciate the idea, but this is more of a chance meeting thing and I expect shanny and meiji are right. My friends talked her up for quite a while, and meeting her, she actually did seem to live up to the hype, which is rare, but I won't be spending a lot of time around her, which I think would be more critical for the type of thing you are suggesting. I was very interested at the possibility, but I think it was more of a one-shot deal, if at all.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 11:34:47 AM
FWIW, when I met my gf (of 2 years now), she had a bf of ~3 years. I told her how I felt and she broke up with him.

Doesn't that both you, though?

Perhaps she will meet another guy who will tell her his feeling, then she breaks up with you.

This reminds me of people who marry the person they're having an affair with.  ::)

I can see how you'd be skeptical, but no. We've been living together for a while, and I know neither one of us will ever find someone that's a better match than each other. Yes, I sound naive, but @#!* it.

As long as it works out for you.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: keepup on January 26, 2007, 11:38:00 AM
As long as it works out for you.

sounds like you have a story to share. out with it, lad.

 :D
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 11:39:43 AM
As long as it works out for you.

sounds like you have a story to share. out with it, lad.

Oh, no.  There's no story.  I just wanted to wish Cal the best, without sounding sappy or cheesy.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 11:53:45 AM
Oh, no.  There's no story.  I just wanted to wish Cal the best, without sounding sappy or cheesy.

oh. poop. i'd thought that we may be in for a friday afternoon treat.

Anything to break the boredom.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: h2xblive on January 26, 2007, 11:56:05 AM
Oh, no.  There's no story.  I just wanted to wish Cal the best, without sounding sappy or cheesy.

oh. poop. i'd thought that we may be in for a friday afternoon treat.

Sorry to disappoint.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 12:32:56 PM

Okay, this is indeed an odd situation. Maybe she has a boyfriend, but their relationship isn't rock solid, so she's kind of looking around for someone else. Maybe she decided after that weekend that she did indeed want to be with her boyfriend, hence the kiss-off on the phone. Or she could be one of those girls that's very flirty and likes attention from other guys, but changes her mind quickly afterwards.

Yes, I agree.  I really doubt she gave you her number to tell you she had a boyfriend. 

Shanny is right.  Girls change their minds all the time.  For instance I was talking to this one girl via facebook last week who was overjoyed that she and her boyfriend were back together, and then two days later she was listed as single again.  I had to laugh. 

Yup. Actually, now that I think about, it really isn't all that strange. My guess is, OP, that she actually was interested in you, but maybe felt guilty later since she has a boyfriend. Not to be stereotypical, but girls do change their minds quite often. But as cal says, there's always hope! If you ever see her again be friendly and nice, and maybe she'll lose this BF eventually.

NO NO NO NO NO!!!!!!

MOVE ON!

NEXT!!!

Okay, you're right. There isn't always hope. I just meant, sometimes just because she has a boyfriend doesn't mean all hope is lost. I know several people that started off in one relationship, and left it for another relationship.

look, i know what you are saying, but this guy is gonna be a 40 yr old virgin unless he gets on his horse and finds some new ladies

haha, thanks, though not a virgin now, I think the bigger concern is that I will get too bitter or judgmental to give decent girls a chance when they come along.

And not to worry, she said she had a boyfriend which means either she does right now or she wants me to think she does, either of which means I'm not going to be touching the fun bits anytime in the near future. I'm not really looking to make anymore "friends" so I'm pretty much done with her at this point.
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: Hank Rearden on January 26, 2007, 12:40:42 PM

"i have a boyfriend" = not interested

"i'm seeing someone" = you have aroused my interest, but we'll have to see

"i'm available" = you're gettin' laid

What about "come into my bedroom"?  You're gettin' an STD?
Title: Re: Women: do you have the 2-3 day rule for calling too?
Post by: kirps on January 26, 2007, 12:57:35 PM
To quote Ice Cube, "Cuz that HIV'll make your male private part hang sideways, and that ain't cool, fool"