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Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #60 on: December 13, 2007, 11:01:05 AM »
before law school i'm traveling to new zealand.. my gf wants us to stay together while i do that.. yeah, right... just gotta figure out how to break it to her

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #61 on: December 13, 2007, 11:09:52 AM »
before law school i'm traveling to new zealand.. my gf wants us to stay together while i do that.. yeah, right... just gotta figure out how to break it to her

How long will you be there? And if you feel that way, why not break up now?

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #62 on: December 14, 2007, 09:50:59 AM »
before law school i'm traveling to new zealand.. my gf wants us to stay together while i do that.. yeah, right... just gotta figure out how to break it to her

How long will you be there? And if you feel that way, why not break up now?

13 months... because I really like her and we have a great time together... for me, i guess relationships aren't about future potential but about being happy today... I would be less happy, and so would she, if we broke up now...

btw... i did break it to her... she took it well and wants to do stay together as long as possible as well

Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #63 on: December 14, 2007, 10:38:30 AM »
before law school i'm traveling to new zealand.. my gf wants us to stay together while i do that.. yeah, right... just gotta figure out how to break it to her

How long will you be there? And if you feel that way, why not break up now?

13 months...

Are you going to be in NZ for 13 months or traveling all over the place? I've been to AUS/NZ a couple of times and am really considering moving down there in the next 10 years. You'll love it!

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #64 on: December 14, 2007, 10:40:26 AM »
Haven't read the rest of the thread, but:

If your relationship adds support, stay together.

If your relationship adds drama, break up!

I'm married, so obviously we never considered getting divorced for me to go to law school.  But I feel really lucky to have his support during 1L year.  I would hate to either have relationship drama or to be wishing I were in a relationship (which, sorry, is how I was when I was single).

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #65 on: December 14, 2007, 11:48:53 AM »
before law school i'm traveling to new zealand.. my gf wants us to stay together while i do that.. yeah, right... just gotta figure out how to break it to her

How long will you be there? And if you feel that way, why not break up now?

13 months...

Are you going to be in NZ for 13 months or traveling all over the place? I've been to AUS/NZ a couple of times and am really considering moving down there in the next 10 years. You'll love it!

yeah, pretty much only NZ, maybe a little OZ and some of the rest of the South Pacific. Words can not describe how excited I am.

Whats your favorite place in NZ?

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #66 on: December 15, 2007, 11:59:27 AM »
Speaking as an intelligent woman who is vegetarian for ethical reasons and sensitive to the rights of animals:

I like to hang out in nice, hole-in-the-wall coffee shops that serve organic fair-trade coffee and chai, preferably ones attached to cozy, hole-in-the-wall bookshops.

That is where we lurk, sipping our chai and obsessively refreshing our email.
I like you.

If a random geeky-looking guy (who may or may not think that he is a bear) with a laptop randomly approached you and said hello at one of these places, would you be put off by it?

I am a veggie/animal friendly geeky (intelligent?) girl that also hangs out at coffee shops. They are great social enviroments and perfect for meeting people. They are also generally filled with well-off/upwardly mobile people because of the cost of coffee at these places.

As far as approahing a girl, its better if you have been there a few times and she recognizes you. Oh, and don't bother her during finals... that is the best way to get shot down.

As for being a "bear," keep in mind that outside of LSD that term means something completely different. ;)


What should someone say to such a girl if they've never talked before? Introduce himself, say the girl looks interesting, talk about the coffee place, and see where it leads? I'm a pretty shy guy. This concept intrigues me.

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #67 on: December 15, 2007, 12:10:54 PM »
What should someone say to such a girl if they've never talked before? Introduce himself, say the girl looks interesting, talk about the coffee place, and see where it leads? I'm a pretty shy guy. This concept intrigues me.

Hmmmm. [Guy peers over woman's shoulder.] "Hey, you're so-and-so on LSD? I'm on LSD, too ... I'm Tetris! Wanna see my stats?" Love ensues.

But seriously-- I'm pretty shy, too, but when I try to meet people, I just try to be as much myself as possible. Does she have a few books on her table? Maybe ask her if such-and-such book is interesting, or does she have any suggestions on this-or-that topic for reading. Usually it seems like this stuff just happens, but I've plotted before. Like, if I saw someone cute, I would try and get a table near him, and the try to make eye contact and give a little smile or nod a few times, to show that I'm friendly, before trying to start a conversation. Usually you can tell pretty quickly by the person's body language and verbal responses whether or not they're interested.

This is all just off the top of my head.

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Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #68 on: December 15, 2007, 12:20:44 PM »
What should someone say to such a girl if they've never talked before? Introduce himself, say the girl looks interesting, talk about the coffee place, and see where it leads? I'm a pretty shy guy. This concept intrigues me.

Hmmmm. [Guy peers over woman's shoulder.] "Hey, you're so-and-so on LSD? I'm on LSD, too ... I'm Tetris! Wanna see my stats?" Love ensues.

But seriously-- I'm pretty shy, too, but when I try to meet people, I just try to be as much myself as possible. Does she have a few books on her table? Maybe ask her if such-and-such book is interesting, or does she have any suggestions on this-or-that topic for reading. Usually it seems like this stuff just happens, but I've plotted before. Like, if I saw someone cute, I would try and get a table near him, and the try to make eye contact and give a little smile or nod a few times, to show that I'm friendly, before trying to start a conversation. Usually you can tell pretty quickly by the person's body language and verbal responses whether or not they're interested.

This is all just off the top of my head.

I should change the name of this thread to "ITT: Give Tetris advice on how to pick up cool vegetarian girls."

Re: Significant Others: Stay Together or Breakup?
« Reply #69 on: December 22, 2007, 09:30:43 AM »
As far as the original question goes...it sounds like you are wanting to break up and I think that is probably what you should do.  I can think of nothing worse than trying to deal with the hell of being a 1L, while at the same time having to deal with the issues/drama that come with a crumbling relationship.

As to picking up girls in coffee shops, etc.-it's always nice to have a stranger approach you and start talking, and would be worth the gamble.  However, experience tells me that there are horror stories out there.