I am going to answer your question based on the title of your thread; and not the content of your post-which, quite frankly, is all over the place.
"experience at howard for a white student? (in NO way meant as racist thread)"
In general terms, your experience as a white person at Howard should be very good. What constantly amazes me at black colleges, in general, are how courteous black students are to the white student minority. Some even make an effort to include the few whites into the group. I will leave the reasoning for this to the sociologist/social experts. But, trust me when I tell you that white students are treated WELL at HBU.
I've heard the opposite, actually, and I've seen plenty of instances of racism by POC against whites. Generally, there appears to be as much racism in the POC community generally as in the white community.
However, the best people to ask are obviously whites at those schools. If TM is white, then he presumably has at least one worthwhile viewpoint.