Law School Discussion

Nine Years of Discussion
;

Author Topic: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?  (Read 16334 times)

michelle d

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 801
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #90 on: July 10, 2007, 01:49:49 PM »
Indeed, refusing to pay child support isn't cool, that's not at all what I'm saying. Prenups should be fair in both directions, and I think they usually are.

Yeah, because making major sacrifices to see a spouse through professional school automatically makes you a lazy-ass.  The simple fact of the matter is when you help someone through several years of law/medical/professional/grad school, you often to get screwed in a divorce.
U of Chicago 2010.

ě

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 4603
  • non sequitur
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #91 on: July 10, 2007, 01:51:16 PM »
Sell his stuff on ebay.

ě

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 4603
  • non sequitur
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #92 on: July 10, 2007, 01:53:11 PM »
Indeed, refusing to pay child support isn't cool, that's not at all what I'm saying. Prenups should be fair in both directions, and I think they usually are.

Yeah, because making major sacrifices to see a spouse through professional school automatically makes you a lazy-ass.  The simple fact of the matter is when you help someone through several years of law/medical/professional/grad school, you often to get screwed in a divorce.

That makes no sense in relation to what I wrote.

Too Embarrassed

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 217
    • View Profile
    • Email
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #93 on: July 10, 2007, 01:56:19 PM »
Unlike deadbeat moms which you fully support?
Yeah that's right, it's a two way street even if one direction might have heavier traffic.

Well, I care more about my side of the traffic.

TwinkyBean

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 405
  • It's Yellow.
    • AOL Instant Messenger - TwinkyBean
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #94 on: July 10, 2007, 01:58:06 PM »
Unlike deadbeat moms which you fully support?
Yeah that's right, it's a two way street even if one direction might have heavier traffic.

Well, I care more about my side of the traffic.

And my daughter's... (she's little, so she gets to ride in the carpool (HOV) lane.. lol)
Waiting... :(

fuwaf

  • LSD Obsessed
  • *****
  • Posts: 15482
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #95 on: July 10, 2007, 02:49:20 PM »
There's nothing wrong with a prenup except that it isn't very romantic.

What I was getting at earlier and now return to:

romance and the legal institution of marriage are two distinct, though often conflated, things.

I'm not really sure what point you're making.

linquest

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 999
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #96 on: July 10, 2007, 02:52:52 PM »
There's nothing wrong with a prenup except that it isn't very romantic.

For anyone who's getting engaged/married, and worried about bringing up the prenup issue to your significant other, you should read this book:
Prenups for Lovers: A Romantic Guide to Prenuptial Agreements http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/product-description/0375755357/ref=dp_proddesc_0/102-7634502-2304900?ie=UTF8&n=283155&s=books

The author outlines why you should have a prenup even if you're "in love and planning on staying together forever" and how to approach the issue in a way that strengthens your marriage rather than setting it up for failure as some people believe prenup discussions will do.
Fed gov't atty

fuwaf

  • LSD Obsessed
  • *****
  • Posts: 15482
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #97 on: July 10, 2007, 02:57:39 PM »
There's nothing wrong with a prenup except that it isn't very romantic.

What I was getting at earlier and now return to:

romance and the legal institution of marriage are two distinct, though often conflated, things.

I'm not really sure what point you're making.

If I were about to marry someone, and I thought, "Hmm, maybe I should get a prenup," I'm probably marrying the wrong person. 

Titcar

silly.

::won't explain why here.  doesn't want to hijack::


I think a lot of confusion comes from the conflation of romantic ideals with the institution of marriage.  Two people can live a lovely life together forever and forever; two people can get married.  You can have either without the other.

It seems to me that the concept of marriage is taken in proxy to represent the romantic ideals.  I find this completely flawed. 

Of course, my stance causes me no end of grief in relationships.   ;)

Oh, ok.  I agree to some extent. 

n/a

  • Sr. Citizen
  • ****
  • Posts: 1965
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #98 on: July 10, 2007, 03:02:22 PM »
Can I author a prenup that withholds assets as she withholds sex??

fuwaf

  • LSD Obsessed
  • *****
  • Posts: 15482
    • View Profile
Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #99 on: July 10, 2007, 03:03:42 PM »
Can I author a prenup that withholds assets as she withholds sex??

 :D :D :D