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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #80 on: July 09, 2007, 11:55:00 AM »
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There are no statistics on how many prenuptial agreements are written, probably because they do not need to be filed until they're enforced, attorneys say. But here's a hint: The best-selling book in Amazon.com's marriage category in 1999 was "How to Write Your Own Premarital Agreement."


Well, I didn't see a "marriage" section. But here's the best-selling list for the "weddings" section:

http://www.amazon.com/Weddings-Home-Garden-Books/b/ref=amb_link_12/103-2075418-4511830?%5Fencoding=UTF8&node=5418&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_s=browse&pf_rd_r=0ZNBN8HYSNP25DYH09CC&pf_rd_t=101&pf_rd_p=245893601&pf_rd_i=48

Happy colored marbles that are rolling in my head
I put 'em back in the jacket of the one I love
Carry that velvet sack full of pretty colored marbles
And I'll ask you for 'em back, when I'm ready and done

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #81 on: July 10, 2007, 04:29:41 AM »
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There are no statistics on how many prenuptial agreements are written, probably because they do not need to be filed until they're enforced, attorneys say. But here's a hint: The best-selling book in Amazon.com's marriage category in 1999 was "How to Write Your Own Premarital Agreement."

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #82 on: July 10, 2007, 01:02:41 PM »
If the 2 people in the marriage are both hard working, I see no reason why they won't want to sign a prenup.  Usually, the lazy one of the couple is the one who refuses to sign one. 

Oh boy...the worst is paying alimony!  Urrrgh! Lazy bastard! Go get a f**king job! >:(

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #83 on: July 10, 2007, 01:17:24 PM »
I'm going though a divorce right now, (for the past year) and we didn't make that much money.. I was in school full-time and taking care of a baby, and he was in the military.. But now that he is refusing to pay child support.. I kinda wish we had a prenup so I could make him suffer more, knowing that he owes ME money...hahaa
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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #84 on: July 10, 2007, 01:22:50 PM »
Indeed, refusing to pay child support isn't cool, that's not at all what I'm saying. Prenups should be fair in both directions, and I think they usually are.

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #85 on: July 10, 2007, 01:28:00 PM »
I'm going though a divorce right now, (for the past year) and we didn't make that much money.. I was in school full-time and taking care of a baby, and he was in the military.. But now that he is refusing to pay child support.. I kinda wish we had a prenup so I could make him suffer more, knowing that he owes ME money...hahaa

Well, he won't be getting away with it for long.  He will go to jail, his passport and/or drivers license will be seized, his wage garnishment, he won't get his tax refund, it shows up on his credit report...

I have a deep hatred for DEADBEAT Dads!

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #86 on: July 10, 2007, 01:29:30 PM »
Unlike deadbeat moms which you fully support?
Yeah that's right, it's a two way street even if one direction might have heavier traffic.

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #87 on: July 10, 2007, 01:33:38 PM »
There's nothing wrong with a prenup except that it isn't very romantic.  Even if you don't get one, you definitely, definitely want to protect yourself financially.  I used to work at a credit card company and I heard OVER and OVER and OVER again from dozens of people about how their ex-partner totally destroyed their credit by draining joint accounts and jacking up joint credit cards.  My friend who works in a bank told me about a guy she helped whose ex-partner took their entire savings out of a joint account.  You may not want to think that kind of thing could happen to you, and you might think that the person you're married to is wonderful and faithful and will be that way forever, but people change.  So if you don't want a prenup, limit the assets you keep in joint accounts.  It's not sweet and loving, but it's safer.  And more realistic.  For both parties, frankly.

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #88 on: July 10, 2007, 01:45:45 PM »
I'm going though a divorce right now, (for the past year) and we didn't make that much money.. I was in school full-time and taking care of a baby, and he was in the military.. But now that he is refusing to pay child support.. I kinda wish we had a prenup so I could make him suffer more, knowing that he owes ME money...hahaa

Well, he won't be getting away with it for long.  He will go to jail, his passport and/or drivers license will be seized, his wage garnishment, he won't get his tax refund, it shows up on his credit report...

I have a deep hatred for DEADBEAT Dads!

But the thing is, he's overseas, stationed with the military, and there is absolutely NOTHING I, or my attorneys, can do. He's protected by something called the Soldiers' and Sailors' Relief Act... which protects them from legal action regarding foreclosure, bankruptcy, and DIVORCE. I just have to deal what whatever I'm getting from him now (money, I mean) until he comes back to the US... it sucks.. and could go on for years if he doesn't come back over here. Yeah, he's a f*cking loser. :) 
Waiting... :(

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Re: PRENUP - why is it such a sore topic?
« Reply #89 on: July 10, 2007, 01:47:50 PM »
There's nothing wrong with a prenup except that it isn't very romantic.  Even if you don't get one, you definitely, definitely want to protect yourself financially.  I used to work at a credit card company and I heard OVER and OVER and OVER again from dozens of people about how their ex-partner totally destroyed their credit by draining joint accounts and jacking up joint credit cards.  My friend who works in a bank told me about a guy she helped whose ex-partner took their entire savings out of a joint account.  You may not want to think that kind of thing could happen to you, and you might think that the person you're married to is wonderful and faithful and will be that way forever, but people change.  So if you don't want a prenup, limit the assets you keep in joint accounts.  It's not sweet and loving, but it's safer.  And more realistic.  For both parties, frankly.

Exactly!  Yeah! Yeah! Yeah! He's "different" you are "in love" - Be Smart and protect yourself.  What's love got to do with it!  It's each man for himself.