Yeah... public transportation is pretty much a no go!!!Despite not being the best career move, I do not think I would be resentful for going to the tier 3. My fiance thinks I should go to the best school, but truthfully, I am not sure about being so far away (not because I am afraid it would not work but because I am not sure how happy I would be!). Ahh.. the stress! LOL!
Quote from: slacker on April 18, 2007, 04:27:34 AMIf you're traveling to see him, look into public transit options like train, if available. Five hours of studying beats 5 hours (10, speaking of a weekend) of wasted time. I wouldn't consider 5 hours of traveling to see her SO wasted time but I do agree and think it is more efficient to use public transportation.
If you're traveling to see him, look into public transit options like train, if available. Five hours of studying beats 5 hours (10, speaking of a weekend) of wasted time.
Quote from: Shana_Jane on April 18, 2007, 12:38:45 PMYeah... public transportation is pretty much a no go!!!Despite not being the best career move, I do not think I would be resentful for going to the tier 3. My fiance thinks I should go to the best school, but truthfully, I am not sure about being so far away (not because I am afraid it would not work but because I am not sure how happy I would be!). Ahh.. the stress! LOL!Would you be resentful if something happened and the two of you did not end up getting married? Do you honestly not want to go to a t25 because you don't think you can handle the distance? I know the idea of moving to a new area can be scary...but 5 hours is not really that far. How many years is it until your fiance finishes school...could he move where you are when he graduates? What about when you graduate. Do you and your fiance plan to settle in the area where he is currently attending school? If not, you already limited the likelihood of you being able to go into another area with him because most tier 3 schools are very regional unless you have really awesome grades or great connections. I think instead of looking at the immediate consequences you should look at the long range affect of your decision.
Take the better school. Most people end up getting divorced anyway.
A lot of this depends on what you want to do with your life after law school...and where you want to do it...If you are happy with the region your TTT is in and you have no great ambitions to be rich or work in a Biglaw firm, then you'll be just fine at the TTT. Law school will, in and of itself, put a strain on your relationships (Of the couples I have known who began law school together, about 50 percent did not finish it that way) and adding distance will increase that stress. This is not to say it cannot be done and a long-distance relationship is doomed, but just that you need to be honest about the risk you're undertaking.In the end, you'll have to evaluate how much your career matters to you; how much your current S.O. matters to you; how strong the relationship is and how well it tolerates stress (some people just need to be physically together, while others tolerate distance better); and whether you could be happy at a small firm in the region of the T3 or whether you would resent your S.O. for limiting you to that.Also key is to evaluate as honestly as you can whether this S.O. is "the one." You would be making a serious opportunity sacrifice (although, contrary to the paranoia of some, TTT does not equal life of misery) for the relationship, and you need to be sure its a worthy investment.If he is, then you have to really get a sense of what he wants out of his life/career/family. A relationship is a partnership, and the best partners always look to elevate their better half before thinking of themselves (which, impressively, it seems you are doing). Look at your lives together five years out and try to imagine where you'd like to be. How hard would it be to get there from a TTT, how hard from a T25?Remember though, jobs are a dime a dozen and people are what will truly define your life in the end.These are tough questions. I thinks it's fine to get a range of opinions on this board, but in the end you are going to have to sit down with your S.O. and have a very honest, perhaps uncomfortable discussion about goals, family, career etc...-- Good luck