Is there any way at all you can get your hands on that LOR so you can actually see what was written? I know you're not technically supposed to do that, but in the big scheme of things, does it really matter? It's not like you're writing the LOR yourself and then faking your boss's signature. I mean, the LOR has already been written and sent. What would be the harm in asking to see what she wrote? Personally, I would never consider dropping the LOR without first looking at it. What if it was a stellar LOR?Also, despite what TDPookie said about adcomms understanding that some employees can't afford to let the cat out of the bag at work a year in advance, if you did *not* include a LOR from your current employer, I think it'll look odd and you'd have some explaining to do in an addendum. In my case, I've been out of school for 5 years and working at the same company this whole time. I agonized about what to do for the longest time but ultimately decided that I had to take a risk. I think adcomms will find it questionnable if I don't have a LOR from my employer of 5 years, and unlike you, I don't have anybody better to turn to. That said, I'm planning to have "The Talk" with my boss right after Labor Day and I'm completely terrified. But that's another story!