@ Agree to Disagree : lol are u just trying to start something with ladies? saw the movie. Boo. And its not that hard to find good American black women (nor men for that matter).
Not trying to start anything at all, I simply weighed in on Sands' paradoxical experience in the jailhouse visiting room. He was perplexed at the sight of so many beautiful sistas waiting on thug thizzles. Well, there is a vignette in the film detailing Sands' exact experience (sistas forgoing intelligent, genteel brothas for thug thizzles). I guess you concede that it's hard to find a good black woman but not that hard. Incidentally I'm not your boo, your honey, or any other silly term y'all use to subtly convey condescension.
The "boo" in my post was in reference to the movie you cited (to Sands' observation made a YEAR ago), not to you. I saw it and I didn't think it illustrated what it was trying to illustrate in an intellectual manner.
Anyway, you say you don't want an angry black woman but your post clearly indicates that you have some hostilities / hang ups yourself.
To clarify I mention Sands' post being a year old ( more accurately, just shy of a year) because it seems like either you were hunting for this post to justify your opinion or you came across it and just had a burning need to comment on it. Either way, it seems odd. Your immediate jump to assume that I was putting you down by using the word "boo" was also very telling. Even if I was referring to you, sometimes people just speak like that. No condescension would necessarily be intended. But in this case you took it out of context. People on this board will tell you that if I don't like something, like that movie, instead of getting into a long explanation of why I don't like it, I will "boo" it to voice my displeasure and keep it moving.
I never conceded anything. I think that's also an issue with you- you strike me as someone who sees what you want to see/ hear what you want to hear, which may account for some of your apparent problems with black women. I said it was not that hard to find a good black woman meaning it's not that hard to find a good black woman. I didn't say "it's hard but not that
hard." IMHO, it's just not difficult whatsoever or at least it shouldn't be. I don't mean to negate your apparent difficulty in doing so.
And the use of the word "ya'll" is also very telling- just like men, women typically do not like to lumped into a category. I'd advise you against doing so with women, generally speaking. Again, that may be another reason for your difficulty in finding a good black woman.
And although I sort of feel like I'm fanning the FLAME, as someone who prides herself on being a "good non-angry black woman not interested in foregoing good black men to opt for the 'thug thizzles'" and since you put this out there, I felt the need to tell you all this out of sisterly "love". None of this is meant to put you down in any way, shape, or form.