ive been wrestling with this dilemma for quite some time now. some of you know that i have a kid on the way. i am the jang-nam (oldest son; actually, only son and oldest out of all my cousins on my dads side...koreans will understand what this means much better) in my family, so my parents looked to me for a ton of *&^%.
after i got married, i practically disowned them for the lack of respect they showed me, my wife, and my wife's family. i havent spoken to them in over a year now.
now, with a kid on the way, ive been going back and forth on whether i should tell my parents about this kid. i know if i tell them, theyre going to want to be a part of the child's life. i dont want that at all. on the other hand, if i dont tell them, i will bring shame on them forever, among my other family members (i have 5 uncles and 8 aunts, all of whom will be disgraced for having a nephew who has disowned his own family...and having a child and not telling them about it).
what would you do in this situation?