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Think youll get married

guy - yes
 60 (28.7%)
guy - no
 16 (7.7%)
Guy - I already am
 10 (4.8%)
Guy - Dunno
 12 (5.7%)
gal - yes
 54 (25.8%)
gal - no
 18 (8.6%)
Gal - I already am
 11 (5.3%)
Gal - Dunno
 28 (13.4%)

Total Members Voted: 194

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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #270 on: July 05, 2007, 04:05:37 PM »
My wedding is Sept 2, 2007!!!!!! I can't wait. I am getting married then applying to law school when I get back. I plan on having my ps ready before the wedding. What a busy fall  :D

Congrats!  :)

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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #271 on: July 05, 2007, 04:07:48 PM »

If you read the post I quoted, the person said, "People think of marriage as something that doesn't change.  However, people change.  If you try to combine the two, you're setting yourself up for failure." OF COURSE PEOPLE CHANGE....That is what I wasn't agreeing with....

Wouldn't you then be agreeing with Lily?

No...she said, because people change marriage doesn't work. Of course people change...but marriage can work with two people who understand that and adapt.
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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #272 on: July 05, 2007, 04:10:24 PM »

If you read the post I quoted, the person said, "People think of marriage as something that doesn't change.  However, people change.  If you try to combine the two, you're setting yourself up for failure." OF COURSE PEOPLE CHANGE....That is what I wasn't agreeing with....

Wouldn't you then be agreeing with Lily?

No...she said, because people change marriage doesn't work. Of course people change...but marriage can work with two people who understand that and adapt.

She said that if marriage is viewed as a destination, marriage doesn't work because people change. 
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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #273 on: July 05, 2007, 04:11:11 PM »
Well, if you asked... ;)

Seriously, I think this society sees marriage as a journey, with dating at the beginning and marriage as the destination.  The problem is that destinations are static -- but people and relationships are not.  Put the two together, and you're setting yourself up for a bitter divorce.

Even if you recognize this consciously, it's still very difficult -- if not impossible -- to alter this unconscious perception.  I'd like to think that I can get around this, but I know I'm probably just like everyone else in this society. :-\

could you dumb that down for us?

And to think that I spent all that time editing out the big words like "conceptual metaphor" :D

People think of marriage as something that doesn't change.  However, people change.  If you try to combine the two, you're setting yourself up for failure.
I don't agree.  My parents are celebrating their 47th wedding anniversary next month, and my older brother and his wife have been married 17 years. If you think they haven't adapted over the years you are mistaken. They haven't set themselves up for a bitter divorce. I hope you can get around this. :) Good luck and I hope you find a man to take this journey with.

uh...the fact that there are people in your life who manage to have successful marriages doesn't counter a general societal observation.



If you read the post I quoted, the person said, "People think of marriage as something that doesn't change.  However, people change.  If you try to combine the two, you're setting yourself up for failure." OF COURSE PEOPLE CHANGE....That is what I wasn't agreeing with....

Lily was making a general societal observation. Certainly, there are people who are exceptions, and maybe even people who will manage to have successful marriages without being exceptions. Lily was commenting on a GENERAL ATTITUDE.  That people exist who don't have that attitude doesn't contradict her point.

I was just saying in my initial post that I hope she could overcome her outlook on marriage, like she hopes.
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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #274 on: July 05, 2007, 04:15:09 PM »
So, is the really big text supposed to reinforce your point, or what?

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« Reply #275 on: July 05, 2007, 04:15:32 PM »
And the moral of this little exchange is that







Conceptual metaphors suck


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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #276 on: July 05, 2007, 04:17:08 PM »
The moral of this story is... what I said in my last post.

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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #277 on: July 05, 2007, 04:21:21 PM »
::states conceptual metaphor::

::remembers big text::

::redacts::
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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #278 on: July 05, 2007, 04:26:19 PM »
well, how else are we going to get fed and dressed every day?

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Re: Are you marriagable
« Reply #279 on: July 05, 2007, 04:26:55 PM »
I haven't read the previous 900 posts, so my apologies if this has already been discussed...

...but it's kind of amusing that more LSD boys dream of wedding bells than their female counterparts. 


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