Are you marriagable

[Think youll get married]

Think youll get married

guy - yes

 60 (28.7%)

guy - no

 16 (7.7%)

Guy - I already am

 10 (4.8%)

Guy - Dunno

 12 (5.7%)

gal - yes

 54 (25.8%)

gal - no

 18 (8.6%)

Gal - I already am

 11 (5.3%)

Gal - Dunno

 28 (13.4%)

Total Members Voted: 194

[->Soon]

people ask me this all the time, and my answer is, i seriously doubt ill ever get married.  im just not the type.

the rest of you?

[Lily Jaye]

No, but for a set of fairly abstract reasons.

[->Soon]

No, but for a set of fairly abstract reasons.

care to share?

[Lily Jaye]

Well, if you asked...

Seriously, I think this society sees marriage as a journey, with dating at the beginning and marriage as the destination.  The problem is that destinations are static -- but people and relationships are not.  Put the two together, and you're setting yourself up for a bitter divorce.

Even if you recognize this consciously, it's still very difficult -- if not impossible -- to alter this unconscious perception.  I'd like to think that I can get around this, but I know I'm probably just like everyone else in this society.

[Nemesis]

Yes.


Just 'cuz I think it would be fun.

[->Soon]

Well, if you asked...

Seriously, I think this society sees marriage as a journey, with dating at the beginning and marriage as the destination.  The problem is that destinations are static -- but people and relationships are not.  Put the two together, and you're setting yourself up for a bitter divorce.

Even if you recognize this consciously, it's still very difficult -- if not impossible -- to alter this unconscious perception.  I'd like to think that I can get around this, but I know I'm probably just like everyone else in this society.

could you dumb that down for us?

[Lily Jaye]

Well, if you asked...

Seriously, I think this society sees marriage as a journey, with dating at the beginning and marriage as the destination.  The problem is that destinations are static -- but people and relationships are not.  Put the two together, and you're setting yourself up for a bitter divorce.

Even if you recognize this consciously, it's still very difficult -- if not impossible -- to alter this unconscious perception.  I'd like to think that I can get around this, but I know I'm probably just like everyone else in this society.

could you dumb that down for us?

And to think that I spent all that time editing out the big words like "conceptual metaphor"

People think of marriage as something that doesn't change.  However, people change.  If you try to combine the two, you're setting yourself up for failure.

[Little D]

uh wow, you guys have a funny concept of marriage...

[Lily Jaye]

How so?

[Little D]

marriage is ALL about adaptation to each other's needs