are there different degrees of sin? if so, which is worse?
Yes there are degrees of sin. If I lie to you, that's not as bad as killing you.Child rape is worse than concentual homosexual acts.
is the belief really that even impure thoughts can be controlled? (i.e. you said earlier that "being" gay might not be a sin but acting on it is, as it's within your control to abstain)
I'm not saying I agree with or even understand everything the Church says. I'm just trying to explain what I was taught
why is his wife smiling thru this whole thing? maybe it is the money...