I'll take these, too.I admit I'm naive Miss P. I didn't know lesbians "did anal." The things I learn on LSD.
What % of gay men do anal? I've heard it's lower than most think, and does that... work for the recipient?
I can't answer this question. But I do count myself lucky that a lot of lesbians "do anal." And it "works" for me.
OK on the anal sex note ... do people switch between top/bottom (sorry I'm not that familiar with the terms), or is one person generally on the bottom? One of those questions I've always wanted to ask but am usually too shy.
First, dbgirl, you should feel welcome to ask these questions. It's totally cool. And not just because I think you're awesome to begin with.
In truth, lesbians do pretty much everything anyone else does in bed, though my observations suggest that there are more "freaky" lesbians and more "prudish" lesbians than there are straight women of either sort, with fewer ladies in the mushy middle. (I could definitely be wrong about this.) But I even give my (non-male) partners "blowjobs" of a sort!
As for anal sex, a lot of people have hangups about anal sex and don't do it: lesbians and straight people and a small minority of gay men. They're missing out! To be honest (and this is the point of anonymous message boards, right?), I think anal sex is more fun with men, but that's for complicated, graphic reasons that I'd prefer not to discuss. But plenty of lesbians have anal sex. Yay!
I think Bonkers admirably answered the top/bottom question, but I'll add one twist. Lesbians generally call being "versatile" "switching" or being "a switch." And I would hazard a guess that there are probably more lesbians who switch than there are gay men who are truly versatile, but I'm not sure about that. It depends on the particular community, but a lot of lesbians seem to place an emphasis on the egalitarian potential and reciprocal nature of their relationships, and I think this plays out sexually as well. Whatever floats your boat! Me, I am not a switch. A friend of mine once said, "Versatility is the opiate of the masses." I'm sticking with it!