let me guess...you're asian
first of all, how far are we talking? there's long distance and then there's looong distance. a 4 hour train ride is certainly doable - cross country is probably a lot tougher.that said, this isn't high school/college anymore - you're older and probably a lot more mature. the odds of being able to stay committed to a relationship right now are a lot better (although it's still tough of course).anyway, my instinct is to say go with the better school (assuming it's "better" enough to really make a difference). if you end up staying together, i'm sure she'll appreciate the boost to your career
Kuokuo, we are so in the same dilemma.My parents have always stressed academics and achievement over everything--from feelings to friendship to physical exhaustion to major depression to a decent social life, nothing was relevant except whether or not I got an A+/admission/scholarship/was #1. Forget trying to reason with them, any argument that emphasized happiness or explained how overwhelmed I might have been was met with "Have you been hanging out with those American kids? We don't want to hear that American nonsense, you are not one of them!" To them, self first, individuality, happiness matters, follow your heart = American-inspired excuses that will lead to certain disgrace and failure Now I'm in the same situation you're in--go with the prestige or move closer to my fiance? He's my frigging fiance for heaven's sake and they're insinuating that maybe I should drop him so I can 'face my studies and remember what's important' Like you, I am torn. There is this robotic-slave-to-the-family side of me that wants to go to the best I can get into...if only so my family can boast one future graduate from America's finest institution...which = automatic God-like status at the next Nigerian party.How does your significant other feel about your choice? Would he/she understand if you chose the prestige?My fiance is so understanding and he is encouraging me to go with whatever I will not look back on with regret. But it's still soooooo hard...I kinda wanna flip them the finger because we weren't talking until a few months ago when they found out I had done well on the LSAT. Suddenly I was their golden girl again when they had cut me off overnight after I wasn't going to med school.Traditional, archaic, unforgiving, prestige-whore parents stink.ETA: Sorry, I've just ranted on your thread. PM me if you're annoyed.