that's as simple as I can put it, the culture of the parenting of nigerians is just different from the general upbringing of most black americans. I learned at a young age the meaning of the word deference. Don't get me wrong, black folk most definitely bring it home when it comes to discipline but its a different type of discipline for us. Rather, its an expectation. It is expected that you will excell at school, whereas I don't think that black folk stress that enough today.