there's this girl i'm into... ok, well its my ex from like 3 years ago. shes the only ex that i've ever been interested in getting back together with. well, we've been friends ever since she dumped me during my sophomore year of college. its been kind of a rollercoster ride with the highs and the lows, but generally we are very close. last summer she broke up with her bf and has been single ever since. at the time i was seeing someone, but she told me that "i am the only one for her, blah blah blah." she even seduced me into cheating on my current gf with her (well, kinda. i have to admit that it didn't take much effort ). anyways, i ended up agreeing to break it off with my last gf to be with her. it took a little time but when we started to hang out more, we started to become more intimate again, sleeping with each other again and what not. the problem is that she says she is depressed and not ready to be in a relationship again. shes getting surgery done this fall and is really scared about that. she's also questioning her career path and is having some trouble with her dad. i was just wondering, what is some advice that any of you ladies can give to a guy in my situation? i really want to be with her again, and i mean offically bf/gf relationship. she says she needs time but its been like 4 months! shes feeling down. what're some things i can do to cheer her up? please, i seek real advice only. i don't wanna hear some joke reply like "make her feel happy by getting a male private part implant" or any *&^% like that. i would also appreciate some more substantive suggestions. not just things like "take her to a fancy restaurant, etc." thanks.
Jew-Lo you are like oprah, dr. phil and the psychic network all rolled into one package!
jew-lo, will u marry me?
Now, if you are able to continue to pork her, yet remain emotionally detached, hit that as much as possible.