Ok, what if what I expect of my husband is to lack expectations of me...lolOne standard marital expectation is sexual fidelity. The failure of either partner in this area can lead to STD's which in turn can cause sterility and even death. This seems a reasonable expectation because of the consequences. What are the negative consequences of a wife not taking her husbands name that he can point to and say "look at the harm that will be done if you don't take my name". I don't think men have much of a leg to stand on demanding that women change their names because "omg how will it look to other people if you don't change your name". I doubt that men routinely lose respect or social status, health or wealth because of their wife's last name.
Will this thread never die??
Stomp, stomp, stomp, die thread die! Rrrrrr! Die! Ok it's dead.