I see, so I can be most helpful to the OP's request for advice by not giving any advice?
Perhaps so, but what I see is someone who, from where I sit, is seriously considering a course of action that is foolish in the extreme, based on the crazy notion that she will have "better options" graduating from Fordham than from Tulane. That's just nuts, and furthermore sounds like someone who does not realize how much strain she is about to put herself under as a law student, irrespective of which school she chooses.
There's nothing particularly unusual about what I've seen and experienced. Unsurprisingly, most of my best law school friends are other married folks, and if there is anyone who is happier to see graduation coming than the students, it's the spouses. It's been hard on everyone. Fortunately it appears that everyone's marriages are going to survive, unlike many if not most of the "serious" relationships that my classmates had when we entered as 1L's. Most of those didn't make it.