I just talked to a good friend of mine from college. He's currently applying to MFA programs. I was amazed by how little we had in common. No jokes, no common interests. He didn't even want to hear about my law school. When I tried to talk about anything in the past, it felt terrible. I ended up asking him a few awkward questions about his current life and hanging up.
Times like these make you doubt the very foundations of friendship. What do we really have in common with another human being?
Does anyone ever have similar experiences?
No! I'm out of high school 15 years now, and my closest friends from back then are still among my closest friends today. I had the good fortune of making more amazing friends in college and have stayed close with all of them as well. Our lives have taken us in very different directions – literally, professionally, and personally – but we've stayed tight.
The funny thing is that between college and law school (~ 7 years) I only made a handful of 'keeper' friends. A few from work, a few from grad school . . . but there were a lot more amazing people I genuinely felt close to and then failed to keep in touch with. I suspect the law school friends are here for the long haul.