If "boys" is okay because "boys" and "men" are both humans, then why isn't "chicks" okay because both "chicks" and "female homo sapiens" are both animals?
because the latter is dehumanizing, presumably.
i once knew a lefty feminist who used the term "chicks" to refer to women. it confused the living hell out of me.
I'm a lefty-ish feminist-ish person. I think taking your husband's name is sexist. I think a lot of marriage-related traditions are sexist. I think a lot of the ways that men speak to and about women are sexist.
And I use the term chick all the time. My dearest female friend, a greater leftist and feminist than I, is not offended by the term. I found it interesting that the lecture I got about using that term was from a man.
Chick is just old-fashioned slang. I wouldn't recommend someone speak that way at work, but I see nothing wrong with saying "this chick I met ...."
I certainly wouldn't put chick in the same category of "offensive" as a lot of the words I see used for females, e.g. b-i-t-c-h, ho (or is it hoe?), whore, female private part. People use those terms all the time. The first two are even used when someone isn't intending to insult women.
If a man's most un-gentlemanly attribute is referring to women as "chicks," I'd say that's a pretty great man (or boy, or guy, or dude).