You have to consider the possibility that PJC's definition of "good" or "fairly decent" might not align with the rest of the population.
The only stalking is the stuff that FB themselves pull. It is so crazy how they use your info.
Okay now this is true. I recently realized that the new, bizarre friend suggestions they've been showing me are people from my gmail contacts list. I've never asked FB to import my gmail contacts or "find friends" using it. That is highly sketchy IMO.