Just my $0.02 as a lurker and sometimes poster... I'm suprised by all the anti-shacking up sentiment. If you love each other, enjoy being around each other, are interested in making your relationship more serious but don't believe in/aren't ready for marriage, why not live together? And if you are dating a guy who believes, "why buy the cow when I can get the milk for free", why would you want to marry him?
ike--i don't know what you're talking about, angel wings?
and what do you mean you saw the picture, smiled and moved on?
haha, that may be because the other picture wasn't me...
all that splitting the bills, buying a house, getting cars w/my bf stuff is for the birds. When I am talking finances, major purchases with a man, he has to be my hubby. If we are going to do it - then do it all the way.
Quote from: Roxie on July 19, 2005, 03:01:33 PMall that splitting the bills, buying a house, getting cars w/my bf stuff is for the birds. When I am talking finances, major purchases with a man, he has to be my hubby. If we are going to do it - then do it all the way.Yeah, I would not undertake a major purchase with my BF unless we had clearly outlined what would happen if we seperate... but splitting bills implies pretty little committment. I've split bills with roomates before, why not with a BF? And by living together, you get some of the benefits of having a husband, too. If he's getting more than you out of the relationship (be it living together or being married) it's not right. What does marriage give a woman (as opposed to a man) that living together doesn't? I know marriage gives both security, tied financials, tax breaks, privileges, etc, but I'm wondering if you see some female-only benefit that marriage conveys.
Quote from: Roxie on July 19, 2005, 03:01:33 PMWhat does marriage give a woman (as opposed to a man) that living together doesn't? I know marriage gives both security, tied financials, tax breaks, privileges, etc, but I'm wondering if you see some female-only benefit that marriage conveys. My kind of woman, I'll drive my truck anyway!Quote from: Roxie on July 19, 2005, 03:19:18 PMAccording to some men on this board - the married man is the head of the household and the woman bows down (figuratively, not literally) to him and he makes all the decisions etc. We had a LONG discussion about this on the main BLSD board.Personally, my hubby will be paying all the bills while I spend my days taking care of our children, shopping, working out, keeping myself up and spending his money and driving his Mercedes. RUNS OUT OF THREADQuote from: angmill08 on July 19, 2005, 03:14:40 PMQuote from: Roxie on July 19, 2005, 03:01:33 PMall that splitting the bills, buying a house, getting cars w/my bf stuff is for the birds. When I am talking finances, major purchases with a man, he has to be my hubby. If we are going to do it - then do it all the way.Yeah, I would not undertake a major purchase with my BF unless we had clearly outlined what would happen if we seperate... but splitting bills implies pretty little committment. I've split bills with roomates before, why not with a BF? And by living together, you get some of the benefits of having a husband, too. If he's getting more than you out of the relationship (be it living together or being married) it's not right. What does marriage give a woman (as opposed to a man) that living together doesn't? I know marriage gives both security, tied financials, tax breaks, privileges, etc, but I'm wondering if you see some female-only benefit that marriage conveys.
What does marriage give a woman (as opposed to a man) that living together doesn't? I know marriage gives both security, tied financials, tax breaks, privileges, etc, but I'm wondering if you see some female-only benefit that marriage conveys.
According to some men on this board - the married man is the head of the household and the woman bows down (figuratively, not literally) to him and he makes all the decisions etc. We had a LONG discussion about this on the main BLSD board.Personally, my hubby will be paying all the bills while I spend my days taking care of our children, shopping, working out, keeping myself up and spending his money and driving his Mercedes. RUNS OUT OF THREADQuote from: angmill08 on July 19, 2005, 03:14:40 PMQuote from: Roxie on July 19, 2005, 03:01:33 PMall that splitting the bills, buying a house, getting cars w/my bf stuff is for the birds. When I am talking finances, major purchases with a man, he has to be my hubby. If we are going to do it - then do it all the way.Yeah, I would not undertake a major purchase with my BF unless we had clearly outlined what would happen if we seperate... but splitting bills implies pretty little committment. I've split bills with roomates before, why not with a BF? And by living together, you get some of the benefits of having a husband, too. If he's getting more than you out of the relationship (be it living together or being married) it's not right. What does marriage give a woman (as opposed to a man) that living together doesn't? I know marriage gives both security, tied financials, tax breaks, privileges, etc, but I'm wondering if you see some female-only benefit that marriage conveys.
a good woman will slow a man down and help him to realize what it is that he desires in his help-mate
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