Thanks for letting me know you misunderstood where I was coming from. I was typing while that post got posted.
Sorry I didn't see the apology until after I'd posted what I did. I wish this were a little more real time.
I'm not trying to "win," though. I just didn't want you to think it was stupid, and then wind up childless later in life because you didn't know the more likely reality of the fertility thing. (or any other woman, for that matter). I just wanted to educate, not win. Sorry again I didn't see your post before I posted.
I'll get those stats, though.
But here's a story or two or five. I asked a good friend to help me. He said yes. We started dating. He disappeared whenever I was fertile. Then he finally told me he changed his mind. I wasted about 6 months.
Another friend said he'd help. We planned it all out. He knew my fertility schedule. We were attracted to each other. No problem. Then he backed out, saying he didn't realize how serious I was, and that he really wanted to just have sex with me. I wasted about 5 months with him.
Then I had the guy who said he wanted to marry me. I dated him for a few months. It ended when he told too many lies and I realized he would lie to our child too.
And finally, the guy who told me no, he wouldn't make a baby with me, but he was the love of my life, and didn't use protection, so I figured it was only a matter of time. That ended after a year, when he decided to control me with physical abuse (hence, why I'm going to law school). I found out that the mother of his actual child was still in the picture, and that his child knew all about his philandering and abuse (of his mother). Now i'm glad that I didn't have his child. But that was another year or two wasted.
I sure WISH I didn't want a man!
But I think, at my age, it's wiser to wait getting on a partner, and start with the child. And if a good man comes along, great. If not, "And Baby Makes Two."
I figure in law school I'll have more time...no 9-5, time at home, daycare because I'm in a college environment, support network of fellow students, etc.
Okay. I can't find the articles I was looking for. I'll post them later. There's one about a 3rd year law student who decided to have a baby alone.