now im really offended cuz you have a persian bf instead of me.dont tell my wife.
Quote from: dsong02 on June 08, 2004, 11:05:20 AMnow im really offended cuz you have a persian bf instead of me.dont tell my wife.Dsong can always be trusted to turn a thread away from the main topic...
My boyfriend is Persian.I'm Korean. Not a big deal to me but a big deal to my dad. He doesn't necessarily think I should marry Korean but he wants me to if I can (don't think it's going to happen ) When my father first found out about my Persian bf he was concerned about how my bf wasn't asian. Of course being the hot tempered person I am... I got furious because he was discriminating, having prejudices, being a racist.. blah blah blah... (I really don't think my dad is all those things, but I was a bit pissed that he didn't accept my bf right away). Calmly my father explained to me (he's rarely calm with his temper) that we will all have our prejudices. We all meet people with preconcieved notions of who they are without them even opening their mouth. We judge based on looks, clothes, smell (have you met someone with BO?), height... hell we judge based on weight! Unfortunately, we also judge based on race. Whether we want to deny it or not, we do. My father continued to tell me that he's going to hate ANYONE I date whether he was Asian, Indian, White, Black... and he's going to have these preconcieved notions about people at the beginning no matter what.However, he also said that the difference between him and a racist bastard is that although he has these views on people from the beginning, that's not how he's going to continue to feel. He said that if those people were genuinely good people, who are intelligent and kind and treated me like a Queen (yes nothing less than a queen), he wouldn't care if they were purple! Like Lavia said, they may start out at a 0 but that doesn't mean he won't let them get to 100... that's the difference between people like my father and racist people. He won't deny that he has prejudices but he won't let those feelings stop him from knowing and liking (even loving) the person in the end.Now my father accepts my bf and even invites him over for family dinners (which is surprising because no other bf has ever had the honor, even asian ones). If anyone calls my dad a racist because he does have these thoughts before meeting someone is missing the point. Racism isn't allowing someone to become an individual, racism is not giving someone a chance to be more than their race. I hope this doesn't offend anyone (although I can't see how it could) and if it doesn, I apologize, that was not my intent. Well have a great day everyone...
racist bastards. oh, and i'm persian, too... where can i pick up my hot korean girlfriend?
Quote from: Ginatio on June 08, 2004, 11:28:49 AMracist bastards. oh, and i'm persian, too... where can i pick up my hot korean girlfriend?apparently in chicago
"The Love Board" I would love to get into this discussion, but there is no love. In fact, there is a lot of discord. This country has a long way to go which, one thing learned from this board. A hint on how to improve relations, respond without sarcasm.
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