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The Man Shortage--A Brother's View

elegantpearl01

The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« on: May 12, 2005, 07:14:11 PM »
Commentary: The Man Shortage for Sisters is All Too Real – And It's Killing Our Communities

Date: Monday, May 09, 2005
By: David Person, BlackAmericaWeb.com
All these years, sisters have been right. There really is a man shortage.
I knew something was up, just judging by the shortage of brothers in the pews at church. But I thought it had more to do with our preferences for sleeping in or watching the game.

Based on the 2000 Census, though, we brothers really are outnumbered by black women, inside and outside of church. And it has nothing to do with games.
Overall, the census indicates that there are more than 18.1 million black females in the U.S., compared to nearly 16.5 million black males. Specifically among those who are 18 and over, the sisters outnumber us about 12.7 million to 10.9 million.
Some brothers undoubtedly will assume this is their chance to add more names and numbers to their Palm Pilots for late-night booty calls. Truth is, all of us –- the players included –- should probably be a bit more somber and cautious about the population imbalance between black men and black women. Experts are suggesting that the reasons why the sisters outnumber us aren’t anything to cheer about.
 

According to an article written by Jonathan Tilove and published recently in many of the Newhouse papers, violence, crime and disease are some of the key factors stripping black communities of men. Worse still, the article concluded that the shortage of black men is hitting major cities with high concentrations of black folk particularly hard.

In Philadelphia, for example, black men are outnumbered by black women by 37 percent. That means that for every 100,000 black men in the City of Brotherly Love, there are 137,000 black women. In New York, for every 100,000 black men, there are 136,000 black women.

In Chicago, my hometown, for every 100,000 brothers, there are 132,000 sisters. In Chocolate City -– Washington, D.C. for those of you uninitiated to the funk -– for every 100,000 brothers, there are 129,000.

Yes, brothers, that means there are a whole lot of black women without dates. But before salivating, let’s remember that also means there are probably a lot of black boys without men in their lives to show them how real men behave. That’s a lot of black girls without daddies to teach them what real love is and how a woman is supposed to be treated by her man. Looking at it like that, merely entering new names and numbers in those BlackBerrys for future hook-ups seems almost trivial.
Brothers, I’m not suggesting that we black men who are single and eligible can’t enjoy the dating life. I’m just saying that we also must do something more: We must see what these numbers tell us about the challenges facing our communities and make some decisions about what we can do to bring a bit more balance to them. Tilove’s article quotes 2002 Census figures which indicate that while black women outnumber black men by 26 percent, white women only outnumber white men by 8 percent. If we were looking at those kinds of numbers, I’d be one of the first ones telling the players to just play on. But we’re looking at a crisis that points to serious problems. If we’re not being shot and killed, we’re being locked up. If we’re not being locked up, we’re dying prematurely due to stress or HIV/AIDS or diabetes or heart disease or prostate cancer.

I agree with the experts who argue that it is inherently more stressful being black in the U.S. than it is to be white. But brothers, there are ways to offset the pressures.
Slow down on the super-sized meals with all that red meat and fat and excess sugar. Exercise several times a week. Get enough sleep. Lay off the smokes, and cut back on the brews and shots. Take time to just go and chill. Cue up some jazz, funk, classical or gospel music in the mp3 player, and take long walks in the evenings or early mornings. Or pop some Miles, Victor Wooten or Jill Scott in the CD player and take a leisurely drive.

Let’s try to live healthy, functional lives. Avoid violence and people who are prone to it. Step away from shady activities that keep us out in the streets and in harm’s way. And by all means, brothers, no high-risk, indiscriminate sex with multiple partners. For the sake of our communities, our women, our children and our futures, we’ve got to defy these statistics. We must begin surviving and thriving

elegantpearl01

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #1 on: May 12, 2005, 07:34:34 PM »
Is there a shortage of black men or is there a shortage of good black men...that's the question.

HBCU.EDU

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #2 on: May 12, 2005, 10:06:44 PM »
Is there a shortage of black men or is there a shortage of good black men...that's the question.

I think you just have to know where to look to find the good black men. Hell, you can go to Morehouse College. You will find 3000 good black men in one place at one time.

angelus

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #3 on: May 12, 2005, 10:15:16 PM »
I see black men staying in ghettos and tryin to be the toughest thug with the most sex partners. I see blacks bringing their gang culture (not black culture) to the universities they attend.
I see black men with all kinds of white bimbos all over them while the no-nonsense black woman gets a pint of hagen-daas to spend the evening with in front of the T.V.

The reason the black woman rejects the white man is the same reason the black man attracts the white bimbos.



Commentary: The Man Shortage for Sisters is All Too Real – And It's Killing Our Communities
 But brothers, there are ways to offset the pressures.
Slow down on the super-sized meals with all that red meat and fat and excess sugar. Exercise several times a week. Get enough sleep. Lay off the smokes, and cut back on the brews and shots. Take time to just go and chill. Cue up some jazz, funk, classical or gospel music in the mp3 player, and take long walks in the evenings or early mornings. Or pop some Miles, Victor Wooten or Jill Scott in the CD player and take a leisurely drive.

Let’s try to live healthy, functional lives. Avoid violence and people who are prone to it. Step away from shady activities that keep us out in the streets and in harm’s way. And by all means, brothers, no high-risk, indiscriminate sex with multiple partners. For the sake of our communities, our women, our children and our futures, we’ve got to defy these statistics. We must begin surviving and thriving

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Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #4 on: May 12, 2005, 10:18:52 PM »
Angelus, how many black people do you actually know?

angelus

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #5 on: May 12, 2005, 10:26:44 PM »
Angelus, how many black people do you actually know?


Not nearly enough as I'd like. Being in a predominately white locale means I know close to zilch as I do not see black culture. Instead I see gang culture, MTV culture, etc.

Hopefully when I move next week or so I will meet a more ethnically diverse population. Also, the minorities around here tend to hang on to victim status as if it were a life raft rather than a sinking ship.

elegantpearl01

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #6 on: May 13, 2005, 06:33:18 AM »
What does hang on to victim status mean?? I don't follow....

HBCU, you know very few brothers in college are trying to get locked down....I went to a HBCU, no one was looking to get married.  Folks were having a good time. 

Then I feel sorry for people get this idea in their head that law school is a good place to find a husband. Typically black women far out number black men in law school....there is always drama. I never dated really dated anyone in the law school. I liked keeping people out of my business.  Now if Morehouse added a law school to their campus...hmmmm A LOT of women would set their sites on being in th ATL.

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Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #7 on: May 13, 2005, 06:54:48 AM »
What does hang on to victim status mean?? I don't follow....

HBCU, you know very few brothers in college are trying to get locked down....I went to a HBCU, no one was looking to get married.  Folks were having a good time. 

Then I feel sorry for people get this idea in their head that law school is a good place to find a husband. Typically black women far out number black men in law school....there is always drama. I never dated really dated anyone in the law school. I liked keeping people out of my business.  Now if Morehouse added a law school to their campus...hmmmm A LOT of women would set their sites on being in th ATL.

Now that you are out of law school, wanna get married?????? ;D

HBCU.EDU

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #8 on: May 13, 2005, 07:35:42 AM »
WTF? This is silly. ???


I see black men staying in ghettos and tryin to be the toughest thug with the most sex partners. I see blacks bringing their gang culture (not black culture) to the universities they attend.
I see black men with all kinds of white bimbos all over them while the no-nonsense black woman gets a pint of hagen-daas to spend the evening with in front of the T.V.

The reason the black woman rejects the white man is the same reason the black man attracts the white bimbos.



Commentary: The Man Shortage for Sisters is All Too Real – And It's Killing Our Communities
 But brothers, there are ways to offset the pressures.
Slow down on the super-sized meals with all that red meat and fat and excess sugar. Exercise several times a week. Get enough sleep. Lay off the smokes, and cut back on the brews and shots. Take time to just go and chill. Cue up some jazz, funk, classical or gospel music in the mp3 player, and take long walks in the evenings or early mornings. Or pop some Miles, Victor Wooten or Jill Scott in the CD player and take a leisurely drive.

Let’s try to live healthy, functional lives. Avoid violence and people who are prone to it. Step away from shady activities that keep us out in the streets and in harm’s way. And by all means, brothers, no high-risk, indiscriminate sex with multiple partners. For the sake of our communities, our women, our children and our futures, we’ve got to defy these statistics. We must begin surviving and thriving

elegantpearl01

Re: The Man Shortage--A Brother's View
« Reply #9 on: May 13, 2005, 07:47:23 AM »
Yeah I am looking for a husband, two incomes mean I can have a more relaxing lifestyle...but (and this is so politically incorrect) I don't get these bold blue collar dudes who step...do they think I am going to take care of them??? When I was moving the moving dude tried to holler....I was like give me a break. I know Essence magazine has drummed the idea of "marrying down" into professional black women's heads, but I am not the one. My stepdaddy and my mama would have a fit. I'm a nerd, I have to marry a nerd.  ;)