Think of it like being a military family: you do what you gotta do, because it's right. (On the upside, however, neither of us has increased odds of dying due to our separation...)
I very clearly identified myself as being a part of a military family, and mentioned that my husband has been deployed to both Iraq and Afghanistan in my post on this thread. Being part of a military family involves much more than "doing what you have to do because its right." It also involves receiving a phone call during which you are told no one can confirm whether your husband is alive or dead and the subsequent waiting for hours praying for the phone call that finally confirms that he is alive. Everytime my husband deploys we have to discuss "final arrangements", update his life insurance and make sure his will is current. I live with the reality that he might die during our separation every single day, and I found your analogy not only in extremely poor taste, and but dismissive of what military families deal with on a regular basis.
Quote from: littletanuki on April 23, 2005, 01:59:53 PMI very clearly identified myself as being a part of a military family, and mentioned that my husband has been deployed to both Iraq and Afghanistan in my post on this thread. Being part of a military family involves much more than "doing what you have to do because its right." It also involves receiving a phone call during which you are told no one can confirm whether your husband is alive or dead and the subsequent waiting for hours praying for the phone call that finally confirms that he is alive. Everytime my husband deploys we have to discuss "final arrangements", update his life insurance and make sure his will is current. I live with the reality that he might die during our separation every single day, and I found your analogy not only in extremely poor taste, and but dismissive of what military families deal with on a regular basis. I really feel for what you and your husband and family go through each time your husband is deployed. But to be completely honest, the woman who made the analogy was in no way trying to demean what you go through, nor do I feel she had any intention of insulting anyone. You make sacrifices, and I great appreciate the men fighting for our country and their families who support them and miss them. But preaching is unnecessary, and I found it vaguely insulting.
I've decided to go to school in Boston, which means leaving my boyfriend behind in CT.
I will be in Boston, he will be in Chicago.
Quote from: onepoint on April 20, 2005, 07:36:25 PMi think that, barring very rare exceptions, a non-marital relationship should not dictate where one goes to school. i just can't see the sense in it, and have heard far too many "i went there to be with him/her and i hate myself for doing it" stories.maybe i've been listening to my mother too closely lately, but if it's meant to be, it will be You're forgetting that girls in their mid-to-late 20's are starting to freak out. The old "if I don't find a person I want to spend the rest of my life with in college I'm never going to get married" syndrome.
i think that, barring very rare exceptions, a non-marital relationship should not dictate where one goes to school. i just can't see the sense in it, and have heard far too many "i went there to be with him/her and i hate myself for doing it" stories.maybe i've been listening to my mother too closely lately, but if it's meant to be, it will be
My wife will very likely stay in Houston if I move. Beat that.
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