Exactly. Now you got it, Tex! My mother tried to live vicariously through each of her 4 daughters and was disappointed in each one of us. Now that I'm a mom, I can see how easy it would be to slip into that mindset. I haven't done it myself, but I can see where she was coming from now. I did some stupid cr@p when I was younger, and made choices that made her cringe (Air Force, anyone?). I didn't fully understand why she obsessed so much until I became a mother myself.
If my child decides to become an artist ( ), I will have concern for his future and may suggest he also take some computer classes just in case, but I will still have tremendous pride in his accomplishments (however minor) as an artist. "Disappointment" is an incredibly cruel and selfish parental reaction. I understand *that* it occurs, just as i understand that, say, child abuse occurrs, but I'm concerned about people expressing empathic underderstanding for either of these activities in any sense that would legitimize them.
Quote from: racheles05 on April 10, 2005, 07:27:34 PMIronically, my parents are anything but proud of me. That's an entirely different story, though. I didn't understand why my parents were disappointed in me until I had kids of my own. Another mitzvah awaits you, my dear.
Ironically, my parents are anything but proud of me. That's an entirely different story, though.
Quote from: twarga on April 13, 2005, 10:12:10 AMQuote from: racheles05 on April 10, 2005, 07:27:34 PMIronically, my parents are anything but proud of me. That's an entirely different story, though. I didn't understand why my parents were disappointed in me until I had kids of my own. Another mitzvah awaits you, my dear.Your later comments seemed more reasonable. In the quote above, however, you seemed to imply that the OP is immature, naive, or somehow the fault lies with her in feeling consternation with her parents' decision to express disappointment in their daughter's desire to become a lawyer. My feeling is that this is in no way the child's fault and she should not just buck up and get prepared to learn this hard lesson herself. Insofar as her parents express disappointment in her decision to become a lawyer, they are not being good parents. My comments were merely intended to counteract the negative view you seemed to be expressing toward the OP.
Because what grandmother did for me was a mitzvah. Also, there's the other meaning, commandment, that relates to the coming of age ceremony for Jewish kids. This was sort of a coming of age story.
I wouldn't go so far as to say that is what Yale does not want. That was a fabulous PS, and probably exactly the kind of thing Yale DOES want. Unfortunately, your LSAT was well below their averages, and no almost no PS can make up for that.