I represented myself. I received the house, most of the contents, kept my retirement, no child support payments, joint custody (3 days one week, 4 days next week) all of July, week of Christmas, week of Thanksgiving, etc....Still can't afford one but I would not want to risk it again. I basically just countered every charge and asked basically for the same things in the complaint that were asked of me. It was settled at mediation. I only went to court once for about 1 minute (other than to turn in required documents)
Wanted to thank those of you who gave me a hard time, it made me more determined that I could do it.