well, your son and daughter are going to take a few years to get to the point where your active involvement will have any serious impact. I am not trying to be mean here, but you might want to rethink this statement. I would argue that the first five years of your child's life are the most formative. Maybe from your perspective, this is the time when you can interact more normally on a social level; however, I would not adhere to this advice. I know this is a challenge for all lawyers; however, believing these first couple of years are unimportant is a crucial mistake that can have many unforseen consequences.