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Single Parent starting Law School

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Single Parent starting Law School
« on: March 14, 2006, 01:32:22 PM »
I will be starting law school in the fall and while my parents will keep my 8 year old son during the first year- I definately want him to move with me the following summer.

Are there any single parents who are in law school- or finished with law school- who can tell me if balancing parenthood with law school can be successful.


Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #1 on: March 14, 2006, 02:46:21 PM »
I'm glad somebody wrote on this topic. I thought I was the only one out there! I will start this fall (don't know where yet) part time.  I will have my son with me. He'll be 7.  Has anyone out there done this or know anyone who has??

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Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #2 on: March 14, 2006, 02:52:21 PM »
I was talking to a friend of mine who is at the law school I will be attending in the fall and she told me that the editor of the Law Review this year is a single mother!! 

Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #3 on: March 14, 2006, 03:28:49 PM »
Ok, so I just need to look harder for a peer support group. We are obviously out there.

Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #4 on: March 15, 2006, 04:58:30 AM »
There's a parenting group at my school and there's probably one at yours. I'm finding that the only people who understand why it's stressful to be a parent in law school are other parents in law school. I live in grad housing and the other grad students don't understand why I'm too busy to attend every parent/child event.

I think the single most important thing that you need is reliable day care. I'm still struggling to find a reliable emergency sitter and I've been here since August.

Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #5 on: March 15, 2006, 08:21:20 AM »
I have only one child (6) who is used to being around me all of the time. Does anyone have suggestions on making the transition? I'll probably be in class at least four nights a week (and that's after working all day). 

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Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #6 on: March 15, 2006, 09:07:31 AM »
I made the decision to attempt to live off of my scholarship money and a loan.  My goal is to treat law school as my new full time job- that way I will still have that other time to spend with my son.  We spend a lot of time together and I don't think either of us would do to good with me working all day and going to school all night.  It does help that he is cheering me on to get this degree and he is old enough to understand that it is going to take a lot of work on my part. 

I think that it is an excellent idea to form a sort of support group with other single parents (or parents in general).  During my first year when he will be still living with my parents I hope to get a grasp on what support I do have around me: school, daycare, friends.  It also helps that I am going back to the town I did my undergrad studies in and have friends that are still there-including my cousin.

I think going back to school is definately going to require some time management, as mentioned earlier.  But the sacrifices are going to be worth the rewards for our children in the long run.

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Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #7 on: March 16, 2006, 10:42:23 AM »
I'm not even a single parent and I am nervous about starting school this fall.

i don't know how you all do it.  Kudos! ;)

Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #8 on: March 16, 2006, 01:18:59 PM »
Oh, I am scared to death but I waited 13 years (yeah, 13!!) to apply so I can't stop now.  I just need to focus and figure out the time management factor (and a reliable sitter AND an understanding employer).

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Re: Single Parent starting Law School
« Reply #9 on: March 16, 2006, 05:02:18 PM »
I dont really have much useful info to add to this topic but I know that a few law schools, like Southwestern in Los Angeles, have full programs (as an alternative to FT/PT) that cater to single mothers (class scheduling, time management, peer groups etc).  Also, I give you ladies credit for going ahead and pursuing law school in spite of everything else you have to deal with.  Bravo!