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[Lanya]

C-BASS, I think you are attracted to me...

[anoddduck]

As a married woman, I am thrilled to have the automatic out of "I'm sorry, I can't date you because I'm married."  There's so much going on, particularly in that first year, that there is almost no way to start a deep relationship under those circumstances. 

And that's ok--so long as you're not looking to have one of them.  But therein lies the problem.  Let's face it: most women want to be in a relationship that will hopefully (but not necessarily) lead somewhere.  (It's a rare woman who truly wants just a hookup; in my experience, most women are simply lying to themselves about their needs.)

So, yeah, if men (or women) want just hookups, then they should find people who are available for that sort of thing, and if that means dating undergrads (or strippers, or mail order brides), so be it.

Just no playing with people's hearts and creating false expectations. THAT'S not fair...

 

[C-BASS]

Lanya, I think you're projecting...

[Lanya]

C-BASS and everyone else, I was just coming to feel that this thread is getting to be too serious...  wanted to lighten things up a bit 

Everyone has his or her own dating and life experiences.  It's interesting to hear what other people think.  Some times we can learn from it, other times not.  We're not in a courtroom, and there's no point to battling it out and having the last say.  It's interesting for me to hear the opinions of new people here.


P.S. If someone thought that I was advocating trickery, deceit, or any other immoral behavior in personal relationships, please reread what I wrote because you're clearly misinterpreting what I said.  People who engage in this behavior only hurt themselves in the long run.  Making yourself more attractive to the other person need not necessarily involve immorality or deceit.  Perhaps some people use it to those ends, but that's a separate issue.  Ethics is a very controversial area, so I was staying away from saying anything decisive about it earlier in order not to get side-tracked from the topic at hand.

[casino]

actually, obtaining a mail order bride requires more committment than the vast majority of other relationships.

casino

So, yeah, if men (or women) want just hookups, then they should find people who are available for that sort of thing, and if that means dating undergrads (or strippers, or mail order brides), so be it.

[finko]

now that totally depends on where you order from.

[AllisonAzee]

now that totally depends on where you order from.

What do some countries accept returns?  What about if slightly used?

[puzzle245]

Thought I'd offer my two cents...

Frankly I don't care who my classmates choose to date, party with or take home...that's up to them.  If a guy wants to date someone six years younger  he can go ahead and it's not really a threat to me.  It seems like there are plenty of guys out there who are interested in women thier own age and so we female law students should just date them instead...

Or do what I do and find a boyfriend who can offer a social life outside of the people I see on a day to day basis and helps me to think about life outside of law school...

That said, if any of the guys out there are going to NYU you are in luck!  It's my undergrad and word on the street is that the law school is one of the best places on campus to find strait men... 

[giraffe205]

I have a question for everyone...

I'm interested in this guy in my class. He seems to be into me too, e.g. is very affectionate w/ me in particular, but plays that game of mixed signals. It's driving me crazy. I've already made the first move and feel like this thing is just dragging on. The only thing that I can think of is that I'm 21 and he's 33, but I absolutely adore him and don't think that it makes a difference. However, I guess it's possible that he just views me as somebody that he would flirt w/ but never date. Also, he Muslim. Again, I'm cool w/ it, but maybe he's not cool w/ the fact that I'm Catholic.

Any thoughts? What should I do? What's he thinking? Is there any hope, especially w/ finals and summer right around the corner?

[kdeevers]

So is there anyone out there who was in a serious relationship before Law School and who was able to sustain the relationship or had problems sustaining the relationship?