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Re: law school depression
« Reply #140 on: October 24, 2007, 10:24:26 PM »
Tag. MiamiLaw is amusing. :)

In all seriousness... I like law school per se, but I haven't really found my niche. I would not say I am depressed, but I am certainly bored out of my mind. Incredibly, totally and completely bored! I know I need a balance, but I'm not sure where to find it. I'm living in a small town for the first time in my life -- one where everyone around me eats, sleeps and breathes college sports. I could not tell you the first thing about football.

I'm a few years removed from undergrad and not into partying like a rock star every night. I used to, it was fun and now I've moved on.

Most of the other non-trads are in long-term relationships or married, or they're single like me BUT embracing the recent grad-type social life. So as a 1L, I feel pretty isolated. It's a very strange feeling -- I am used to having a lot of friends and I'm a pretty social and outgoing person. You would not know that if you met me for the first time today. I look at the fratties and sorority girls and laugh b/c that's where I come from! It's amazing what a few years of working will do. LOL.

It sucks, but I'm hoping that once first semester ends and I know where I stand relative to grades, I'll feel a little more secure about my study habits to venture out and get involved with some activity. Meanwhile, it's oh-so-boring.

Re: law school depression
« Reply #141 on: October 25, 2007, 07:22:49 AM »
don't worry julie, it'll only get worse.

Re: law school depression
« Reply #142 on: November 01, 2007, 05:47:02 PM »
I’m a 1L. I see happy people, but sadly I’m not amongst their multitudes. I recently received “feedback” on a closed memo assignment for LRW; and though I did better than I thought I would (which would be anything north of failing), I maintain a belief that I will fail in my LS endeavor. This web board is therapy for my seemingly lost (DEPRESSED) soul. I thank all posters. Even those who may be a tad overconfident; for my chances of making it seemingly depends on reaching out to my potential colleagues, even if they may be thousands of miles away. Ya’ll give some good advice. Thanks.

Re: law school depression
« Reply #143 on: November 03, 2007, 09:28:53 AM »
just look at it as 3 years in prison, just pay your dues and get out! YES YES YES law school is filled with pricks and dorks.

Re: law school depression
« Reply #144 on: November 14, 2007, 08:19:09 AM »
It never gets better, and if your the type who loves feeling useful and purposeful law school is incredibly boring, depressing, and plain awful. Most lawyers whether they tell you the truth or not and they probably won't for fear of their egos being diminished are plain miserable practicing law. And this is true across the board. Law professors are lawyers who cannot practice and prefer short work weeks with massive benefits and freedom to make up the law. I have taken some exams in law school that are plain awful. I am a 3L and by the way your third year isn't really any better that 1L it's just you get used  to the misery and pain and learn to accept it. It's funny watching 1Ls strive to be perfect and outdo everyone else. When the ego is at max capacity that is when most humans feel at their worst and that is what law school does, it is ego-overdrive which equals absolute depression. People must drink or look at porn or take adderall to deal with this (or some other med/addiction) and for fear of looking bad will never admit to it. Law school really is a bad idea but media and family and others who clearly would never survive law school continue to make those in law school feel far worse by their overreaching non-sensical comments. Though people try to say things like "oh you'll be fine" at exam time any honest down to earth law school student will tell you (if they are truthful and many law students are not) that such comments make them feel worse. Further, many students have told me in private on one on one conversations that law school has been horrible for them and they really wish they would have made a different choice (they will not admit this to other students as most law students cannot empathize with anyone and like to see people fail). Your best bet is to thank God for the ability to accept his will, wave your own flag, take your exams with honor and let the damn chips fall where they may. Or better choice: drop out and do something else. Will people judge you? You bet. This is America where we judge everybody except ourselves and usually we judge people negatively for doing things we do at some level. Just deal with it and move on. Life is not about pleasing people. It's funny how many people in this country claim "not to give a sh!t what others think" yet we see that most people live their lives based on fear of what others think. (well that and for men at least to get a trophy wife and make money so she won't leave for some moron in a band). Good luck and stay true to yourself. 

Re: law school depression
« Reply #145 on: November 14, 2007, 09:56:56 AM »
man,
I didn't get depressed till a couple weeks ago when i realized- well, when it finally hit me- that there is one exam and that's that.  i did horrible on our legal research and writing mid term and ive gotten just above average on all the papers- and now this huge memo is due next week and i can't sleep.

i'm getting really nervous about exams because, well, i feel like im gonna sit down, read the exam and be like WTF is going on.  how am i supposed to memorize everything?

i'm exactly 4 weeks from flying back home for vacay, but until then i am facing (as well as most of you probably) the toughest academic challenge in my life.  and i have to do well...

anyways, im gonna try and get a nap before i continue outlining.  godspeed

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Re: law school depression
« Reply #146 on: November 14, 2007, 12:41:08 PM »
 :-[

My main source of depression is the feeling of isolation I have, despite being surrounded by my peers. I've never felt so alone in my life!

I first thought I somehow “hated” my classmates because of some intangible quality they all possessed that I couldn’t explain. But, now I’m beginning to realize that there’s nothing to hate about my classmates. Whether they’re frat boys, jocks, sorority girls, teacher’s pets etc., they’ve all proven to be very warm and considerate human beings, which surprised me considering all the stories about law students and lawyers.

However, there’s still a large degree of social tension because I realize that I have very little in common with most, if not all, of my classmates. It’s mainly due to class background; it’s hard for a southern boy from a poor family who used to live in trailer parks and drink MD 20/20, to relate to people who grew up privileged beyond my wildest dreams, sons and daughters of scientists and senators…I don’t begrudge them their fortunes, I just find it immensely frustrating that I just cannot relate to them. It’s especially frustrating because I consider myself an extrovert and usually am quite sociable, but now I don’t even feel like I speak the same language as my classmates (and I probably don’t, seeing as how often I swear).

It’s also a phenomenon that extends to work, since I work full-time and go to LS part-time. My work colleagues are all young, bright, and confident in a way that growing up with money can make you. We’re the same ages, but I don’t get their jokes, I don’t get their culture at all. So, I spend most of my days feeling like an uneducated boor.

I hope it’ll change, but I doubt it will. Any other “upwardly mobile” law students from austere backgrounds around? Maybe we can crack open a case of cheap beer and shoot little fuzzy animals instead of reviewing each other’s graduate theses.

Sorry, but I'd rather drunkenly pile into a truck and go "muddin'", and occasionally help my friends and family out of legal jams than discuss some piece of modern art or some convoluted and ultimately irrelevant legal theory like a "good" grad student.

Whoa...

Oddly enough, that actually makes me feel *better* to know that my classmates are merely masking their boredom and misery like I am. Although, I won't go so far as to say that the entire school experience is bad since I actually like some of the material.

Re: law school depression
« Reply #147 on: February 12, 2008, 05:26:58 PM »
Hilarious. But really, is Elliott Smith indie music? I mean, I listen to Elliott Smith and I buy my jeans at The Gap. I also love golfing.   

Re: law school depression
« Reply #148 on: February 14, 2008, 06:58:01 AM »
Hilarious. But really, is Elliott Smith indie music? I mean, I listen to Elliott Smith and I buy my jeans at The Gap. I also love golfing.   

Totally, like for sure I know what you mean.  Elliott Smith is as mainstream as they get.  He never had an indie label and has always been mainstream ever since he wrote his first songs that were in Good Will Hunting.  I remember when he did his last stadium tour and sold out every show - it was amazing!  If I remember Tim McGraw and Faith Hill opened for him.  I also heard that he was the one who choreographed Celine Dion's show in Vegas and wrote all the songs as well.  Supposedly after they performed together at the Grammy's they were like totally BFF.

OMG - I buy my jeans at the Gap too and totally love to golf.  Can we be BFF? 

Re: law school depression
« Reply #149 on: February 15, 2008, 04:12:38 AM »
Hilarious. But really, is Elliott Smith indie music? I mean, I listen to Elliott Smith and I buy my jeans at The Gap. I also love golfing.   

Totally, like for sure I know what you mean.  Elliott Smith is as mainstream as they get.  He never had an indie label and has always been mainstream ever since he wrote his first songs that were in Good Will Hunting.  I remember when he did his last stadium tour and sold out every show - it was amazing!  If I remember Tim McGraw and Faith Hill opened for him.  I also heard that he was the one who choreographed Celine Dion's show in Vegas and wrote all the songs as well.  Supposedly after they performed together at the Grammy's they were like totally BFF.

OMG - I buy my jeans at the Gap too and totally love to golf.  Can we be BFF? 

We can totally be BFF:) Did you watch American Idol last night?