men, i promise i won't start any drama. i just had to say this:
pharaoh's article speaking on how the hip hop culture objectifies women is the answer as to why some women feel they need to be a sack of skin in bones to be beautiful. this holds true of all media. wasn't ice cube talking about 36-24-36? and how old is that song?
it's in the media. my man always told me i was beautiful, even when i gained a few pounds. i always felt inadequate bc i've always been really athletic and in great shape. those few lbs made me self-conscious of my body. but hearing him tell me that he loved me, curves, cellulite, mini-rolls and all, made me feel more comfortable around him.
the media glorifies skinny women, and we have nothing else telling us that a few love-handles are just as beautiful. some women need that affirmation, and that duty falls on those from whom most women seek the most acceptance from these days: their men.
it's up to you men to change the perception of beauty. you have hilfiger, CK, versace, and all those other old white men dictating what beauty is. do their views reflect you own? i doubt it. so please do something about it. a kind, non-degrading word from a sweet man goes a long way in some women's lives.