Ok, I'm going to try to word this as unoffensively as possible, since I am sure a lot of you are waiting for me to say something to strangle me.
I don't see my SO as a trophy. I've said this plenty of times. I've always respected the AfAm culture, since I was a child, which is a lot more than I can say about some of the others' views on cultures outside of their own. I have never used the N word, nor have I ever uttered some sort of racial slur. I have always been sympathetic of minorities-- all minorities, and a slight to one of them was definitely a slight in my direction. No, Black people and Mexicans are not the same person, but we're lumped into the same class in this country, and because of this, I feel that I not only need to stand up for myself but for others who have been discriminated against simply for the color of their skin. I'm going to law school bc I want to help all minorities and everyone else, regardless of race, who would otherwise not have a voice or many options in this country.
Go back and read the posts on the BLSD, and you will see that I've had people calling me out for being a Mexican, saying that they would call immigration, saying I should go back to Mexico, saying I should go back across the river, saying that immigration laws should be more stringent to keep people like me out of the country, etc. I did not respond to those comments. And rather than anyone saying anything bc I was being singled out and the butt of racist jokes, NO ONE said anything. The most I got was one of these:
or someone apologizing to me, but never did anyone try to nip those remarks in the bud.
I understand. Everyone on this board is NOT responsible for the one offensive voice.
I have all ready apologized for INADVERTENTLY offending anyone on this board. What irks me the most about the internet situation is that some of you carry some short and faulty perceptual screens to filter the world through. You're LOOKING for the racism. Many times I didn't say anything wrong, and some of you had a problem with it. You did not hear my tone or the intent of my words. All you read was what was on your screen, and bc of it, you interpreted it your way and either took offense to it, of played it off as a silly remark. Let me assure you that if anything, the remarks I've made on this particular thread, except for my take on interracial relationships, have been in jest.
But yeah, Ladyday, who's been super cool with me, told me that I should not apologize for posting. And I realized that she's right. I've done nothing to hurt anyone, and if anyone took offense to whatever I said, that's because you perceived it as such. BTW, Victor, I reposted that answer to your question that you took such offense to in that other board.
Anyway, yesterday I was attacked and called all sorts of racist names. The Latino stereotypes were magnified and used to try to bring me down. I'm sure you all have seen that tasteless avatar that was posted as well. I didn't see anyone but Mari, the only other Latino on this board, coming to my rescue, but as soon as I made one comment in self-defense, I'm the racist b!tch who sees her man as a trophy, who can't appreciate the Black culture, and as speculated, who probably goes around using the N word. Hardly accurate.
I'm not calling any of your hypocrites per se, but I do see the hypocrisy. One statement, that in my opinion was hardly racist... maybe the wording made it a broad generalization, but those of you, you know who you are, that I've conversed with, know that a racist I am not, that respect the Black culture I do, and that I'm here because I want to learn more about your ideals and your perspectives on the messed up ideologies this country's about.
I grew up in a place where Black people don't live. I went to an all-White private Catholic university where the only Black people who were there were the basketball players on scholarship-- yes, there were about 10 AfAms at my university. My first real encounter with your culture has been through my SO, and I really respect him and value him, and I love that he brings all those experiences and that perspective to our relationship. I'm trying to learn here, and if I'm offending someone, I do apologize.
But really, turn it around. If I would have posted the same garbage-- the remarks, the avatar-- about Black people that was posted about Mexicans, I'm sure it would have been hell. It's a shame that I'm the one being accused of being a racist here.
Either way, I really appreciate some of you ladies' PMs, your understanding, your patience, and your diplomacy. And again, I apologize if any of my posts have made you uncomfortable.