I agree, I always tell my wife she is beautiful. I say things like "Hey woman, get your pretty face into the kitchen and make me a sammich" or "You look really nice today, now go do the laundry"
Tex, I had already read the text in question. You turned to your wife on the couch and said, "You're fat and ugly and so am I, but I still love you." That is no way to treat a woman, kidding or not. Did you ask her how it made her feel to hear you say that to her? It probably hurt her, whether she admitted it to you at the time or not. Start a habit of always telling her she's beautiful (never say she's fat, even if you think it), and she will always love you and never resent you. After I had the second kid, I had this extra 15 lbs that took a lot of treadmill time to erase. I'm sure hubby noticed but never said one word. That's one of the reasons I love hubby so much.
Whatever, Tex. I just don't know any women out there who think it's cute or funny when the man they love and want to please physically and emotionally, comes out with "You're fat and ugly." Much of a what makes a wife feel good about herself is the way she feels her husband perceives her. It would crush me if I thought my husband saw me as fat and ugly. Even if it was just for a minute on the couch eating Doritos.I'll bet you a buck that if things start to go south in your marriage, she will bring up the time you called her fat and ugly. Women don't forget.
Quote from: BigTex on February 01, 2005, 01:05:22 AMRuskie - i'm going to be 100% honest with you here. All of the following is the 100% truth - i promise.I didn't even read the rest of this post, but I wanted to point out that starting a post this way is classic Big Tex style and no one should fall for it.
Ruskie - i'm going to be 100% honest with you here. All of the following is the 100% truth - i promise.
i do not sit around calling my wife "fat and ugly" all day long. I chose a single funny anecdote that conveyed a general truth about my relationship with my wife.
Quote from: BigTex on February 01, 2005, 03:14:25 PMi do not sit around calling my wife "fat and ugly" all day long. I chose a single funny anecdote that conveyed a general truth about my relationship with my wife.The anecdote was not funny. Calling anyone fat and ugly, especially your wife (and I never said you do it all day, I know you only said it once) is unacceptable. You should go out right now and get her some flowers and tell her how lovely she is. Now THAT would be a nice gesture.