I still think he actually meant the three statements I posted above- he was either incapable or unwilling to say them at that point, so he said what he said.
For a guy who can write very creatively about his experiences as a teacher in a difficult situation in high school, you seem amazingly incapable of imagining a world different from your own, a world in which two people are truly best buddies as well as husband and wife.
Watch and listen to two guys who are best friends. They will say what i have said, and worse, and no one will question their relationship. But lift the covers and discover that these two best buddies also happen to be husband and wife, then all hell breaks loose and everyone is suddenly a pop psychologist.
This thread is productive insofar as it demonstrates who does, and who doesn't, graft the rules governing their own relationships onto everyone else and expect the entire world of husbands and wives to adhere to their own limited abilities in forging relationships of multi-level depth.