dude, you forgot the orgies and drugs at stanford and the gambling at harvard!pick your vice to pick your coast I guess.
Students here at SLS are generally pretty easygoing and not so competitive. To give you a rough idea, about 20% of the 1L class decided to take all their first-semester classes pass/fail, most of them in protest of Stanford's numeric grading system. People here share notes all the time, study in groups, and pretty much everyone is willing to help others out with questions.When I was deciding between schools, the main differences I considered were geographic location and class size. I really wanted to stay in California, and I was very attracted to the smallness of SLS--our sections are 28 students each. I am extremely happy with my decision (probably in large part because it's currently 70 degrees and sunny in the middle of winter). Like dashrashi said, your decision depends on what factors you consider important.In terms of quality of life, I think it depends on what you make of it. Both schools are high-ranked enough that we attract gunners vying for the most prestigious clerkships, academia, etc. If you are one of those people, you will work very hard regardless of which school you pick. But if you just want to get a firm job and/or a decent mid-level clerkship, then you can set your own pace and your quality of life at either school will probably be pretty good.