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Best networking tips
« on: June 01, 2006, 08:42:59 AM »
So, I know this guy who is not very good at making friends.  He offends and/or bores people with his high-minded conversation, and he's often aloof and anti-social.  But, he really wants to get the most out of law school and become a successful attorney, and he understands the importance of a good ability to network.  What advice would you give this guy?

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Re: Best networking tips
« Reply #1 on: June 01, 2006, 08:55:29 AM »
Join clubs at school, join any bar associations in his area...

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« Reply #2 on: June 01, 2006, 09:13:43 AM »
Look people in the eye, learn something about pop culture so he can have not highminded conversation with regular people, and focus on cultivating relationships with people in student orgs and an academic activity rather than trying to be the most popular dude on campus.

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« Reply #3 on: June 01, 2006, 10:52:56 AM »
Look people in the eye, learn something about pop culture so he can have not highminded conversation with regular people, and focus on cultivating relationships with people in student orgs and an academic activity rather than trying to be the most popular dude on campus.

I think that's his problem, he's not quite sure how to "cultivate a relationship".  His people skills are subpar.

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« Reply #4 on: June 01, 2006, 11:16:19 AM »
Look people in the eye, learn something about pop culture so he can have not highminded conversation with regular people, and focus on cultivating relationships with people in student orgs and an academic activity rather than trying to be the most popular dude on campus.

I think that's his problem, he's not quite sure how to "cultivate a relationship".  His people skills are subpar.

Tell him to focus on getting to know other people. Ask them lots of questions. People like folks who seem to be interested in them, for better or worse - as long as they aren't creepy or stalkerish about it. Remind him that the objective isn't to get them to ask him to be in their wedding, it's to get them to be willing to hook him up if necc.

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« Reply #5 on: June 01, 2006, 11:22:56 AM »
Look people in the eye, learn something about pop culture so he can have not highminded conversation with regular people, and focus on cultivating relationships with people in student orgs and an academic activity rather than trying to be the most popular dude on campus.

I think that's his problem, he's not quite sure how to "cultivate a relationship".  His people skills are subpar.

Tell him to focus on getting to know other people. Ask them lots of questions. People like folks who seem to be interested in them, for better or worse - as long as they aren't creepy or stalkerish about it. Remind him that the objective isn't to get them to ask him to be in their wedding, it's to get them to be willing to hook him up if necc.

Try to be genuine and natural.  People don't like stuff that comes across like a sales pitch.  If necessary pratice talking to people he already knows, but don't have a 'script'.  Keep away from controversial topics at first meetings (if he thinks that his views will offend people).  Also, shared events (clubs, group outings, etc) with give him something to talk about.