« on: May 05, 2006, 08:29:59 AM »
After reading the article and the posts it makes me concerned about my future.
yardy_spice, thius isn't directed towards you, its just your quote that got me thinking about all this again; so please don't take it personally.
I got laid off about six weeks ago, so my wife and I switched roles for the summer - she's working full time and I'm staying at home with the kids. So I have a new perspective on my life and I'd like to once again add to this conversation.
Kids are a sacrifice. If you're not willing to sacrifice your career for like 10 years, maybe you should rethink either parenthood or your career. This is just my 2 cents and I know there are a lot of people who think they can do it all, and there are probably some that actually can.
Personally, I think too few people ACTUALLY CONSIDER the possibility of living on one (or one and a half) incomes for a few years, while your kids are young. I know this sounds preachy and it probably is, but there is no job that is more important (or more challenging) than raising kids. My 3 year old pooped on my bedroom floor yesterday. You know what they say, sh*t happens. But what would happen if she was potty training in daycare? Would those people be as patient with her? I'm grateful that our family has the opportunity to have a stay at home parent for our young kids. We make huge sacrifices to do so.
I'm kind of rambling here, but my what I'm trying to say is that if you're a parent, that is your #1 responsibility; your #1 concern. If you or your spouse has to put a career on hold for a few years, well just be grateful you have the opportunity to raise healthy well-adjusted kids. But if how kids will affect you career is a major concern, then personally, I think you have the wrong perspective.