Thanks again to those who have replied.
I was posing a hypothetical situation because it was suggested. I am not trying to get anyone in trouble.
I KNOW I NEED an attorney. I have contacted several attorneys. I consulted with 2. Everyone I talked with charged a minimum of $3 K before continuing on, + over $200 an hour when that runs out. If I had the money I wouldn't be asking for help on a message board. I bought a divorce book at Books-a-Million. I went to the library and researched the Tennessee divorce laws. I have looked all over the internet.
I called the court to ask for the appropriate responsive documents. Again I was told they didn't do that - I would have to see an attorney. She gave me the Chancellor's number. I called and got the same. I said I was responding myself and she told me they would not accept it unless it was the proper form.
How do you defend yourself if the attorneys are the only ones who can properly respond?
My next step is going to the court to ask to see other divorce papers since they are of public record, as I was told by another lawyer.
I just want to know where to get the form to answer a complaint or if I type it up myself what should be in it.
As others have said, answering the complaint is the easy part. If you are struggling to answer the complaint, how are you going to respond when you get a set of interrogatories served on you or when you want to take the deposition of your wife?
Consulting with 2 attorneys is not a large sample at all. You need to talk to more. Ask them about their fees up front, talk to them about payment arrangements. You have a job with steady income, someone will work with you. Based on what you have told us, you have a lot to lose here if this is not handled properly by a professional. Do you want to look back in a few years and say "I was totally screwed by that other attorney, but at least I saved a few grand by representing myself?"