Law School Discussion

Why don't you try calling her?

try calling her even if she said she would call me?  Is that being too pushy?

Meloman15, your proposal might have worked a week ago, but not anymore.  I am in too deep.  I need apologies for ignorance.

hmm I think I understand what you're saying here, who do you need an apology from?

Quote from: MeloMan15 on August 01, 2005, 07:15:45 PM

hmmm very interesting...if I'm understanding this correctly, it sounds like you and quite possibly many other women can be perfectly interested in dating an individual, but you will not jump into the dating process too soon because you don't want to ruin any potential future dates by appearing too eager in the beginning?

Well, kinda.  It's more along the lines that a girl wants to be "won".  If she feels that, by playing hard to get, or by any other means, the guy is having to  put up some effort to win her, that is very appealing.  This is why I have always said that the most important thing a guy can do to get a girl is just to make sure she sees him putting a VISIBLE effort into dating her.  Visible is key, too many guys forget this.  Yes, you may have been thinking about no one else buy her all day, but unless you send her a quick sweet e-mail or note telling her so, she won't be aware.  Little things like that (sending notes, giving her a single flower for no reason, cooking her dinner sometime, remembering to tell her she looks great) are essential.

good advice.

How bout a lady's perspective on this one?

I hate game-playing, but most people do it, so it's somewhat inevitable.  I will say that the quality relationships I have had did not seem to follow the normal pattern of game playing.  

Games I play:  

-If a guy calls me to ask me out for the same day, I say that I already have plans that night but would be happy to go out with him some other night that week.  Don't want to appear too available.

-If a guy has waited 3 or more days to call me, and I don't answer the phone when he calls, I won't call him back till the next day.

-The language differences between saying I want to: "hang out" "meet up" or "go out"

-The hook-up schedule.  I have very specific time frame of #of date and what activities I will do corresponding to that.

hmmm very interesting...if I'm understanding this correctly, it sounds like you and quite possibly many other women can be perfectly interested in dating an individual, but you will not jump into the dating process too soon because you don't want to ruin any potential future dates by appearing too eager in the beginning?

Don't rush into things that are worthwhile. 

that's a very good quote. 

Also, for example, let's say you've met a person of interest once and you two have talked a good amount of times before that...and you ask this person to go out to a movie or to hang out and what not and they express interest and say 'yes', but when it comes down to it, the date is put off by this person for whatever reason.  Is this classic play hard to get and this person is hoping that being a challenge will make the relationship stronger in the long run?  Or is it basicially fun and games?