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General Off-Topic Board / Re: Dating- Playing Hard to Get
« on: August 01, 2005, 09:03:41 PM »Why don't you try calling her?
try calling her even if she said she would call me? Is that being too pushy?
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Why don't you try calling her?
Meloman15, your proposal might have worked a week ago, but not anymore. I am in too deep. I need apologies for ignorance.
hmm I think I understand what you're saying here, who do you need an apology from?
Southwester 2L and 3L.
Actually those are my alias. I guess I need to apologize to myself.
I am sorry. I was bored and decided to make this thread.
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Oh 4L and 5L are myself too.
Meloman15, your proposal might have worked a week ago, but not anymore. I am in too deep. I need apologies for ignorance.
hmmm very interesting...if I'm understanding this correctly, it sounds like you and quite possibly many other women can be perfectly interested in dating an individual, but you will not jump into the dating process too soon because you don't want to ruin any potential future dates by appearing too eager in the beginning?
Well, kinda. It's more along the lines that a girl wants to be "won". If she feels that, by playing hard to get, or by any other means, the guy is having to put up some effort to win her, that is very appealing. This is why I have always said that the most important thing a guy can do to get a girl is just to make sure she sees him putting a VISIBLE effort into dating her. Visible is key, too many guys forget this. Yes, you may have been thinking about no one else buy her all day, but unless you send her a quick sweet e-mail or note telling her so, she won't be aware. Little things like that (sending notes, giving her a single flower for no reason, cooking her dinner sometime, remembering to tell her she looks great) are essential.
I am single for the first time in 3 1/2 years, and here's the route I'm gonna try (tell me whether or not you think it'll work...)
I'm gonna play the "I'm out busy living my life" game. Sometimes a guy might call me and I won't answer my phone. Because I'm at work and I left my phone at home, or I'm at gym, or I'm hanging out with my mom or my friend, or ya know, just DOIN' stuff. I'll call back when I have a moment and it's not an unreasonbly late hour. If I meet a guy and we have a great time and he says he'll call me and he doesn't, I won't really stress out that much because I'll be busy out doing other worthwhile stuff. If said guy DOES call me, I'll pick up my phone if I'm not busy and be pleased to hear from him...
Etc... you get the idea....
How bout a lady's perspective on this one?
I hate game-playing, but most people do it, so it's somewhat inevitable. I will say that the quality relationships I have had did not seem to follow the normal pattern of game playing.
Games I play:
-If a guy calls me to ask me out for the same day, I say that I already have plans that night but would be happy to go out with him some other night that week. Don't want to appear too available.
-If a guy has waited 3 or more days to call me, and I don't answer the phone when he calls, I won't call him back till the next day.
-The language differences between saying I want to: "hang out" "meet up" or "go out"
-The hook-up schedule. I have very specific time frame of #of date and what activities I will do corresponding to that.
I think most of us have heard the phrase 'playing hard to get' in the <a href='http://consumeralertsystem.com/cas/zx-hclick.php?hid=22' target='_blank'>dating[/url] scene. Does anyone here actually think this is an effective, useful, logical, normal approach? In other words, when you first meet/talk to someone of potential interest, is playing hard to get a good idea in the long run?
Effective? Depends what effect you want.
Useful? Ditto
Don't rush into things that are worthwhile.
I've been studying like mad since the start of the summer, and I think I am finally starting to burn out. Doing TM hw and doing preptests 7 days a week is pretty much frying my brain.
I know it's crunch time right now because there's only two months left, but I'm slowly losing motivation to study. RC never stops kicking my ass, and I have both good and bad days when it comes to LG and LR.
Is anyone else getting sick of LSAT by now?? What do you guys do to stay motivated??