« on: May 26, 2005, 12:48:03 PM »
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« on: May 26, 2005, 12:16:55 PM »
LMAO about the cholera. That is too funny but I know exactly what you mean. I save my appetite when I go downtown just so I can eat some
...Yes, he has corn w/ mayo but I'm not sure about the cheese. Maybe I just never noticed. What exactly is elote anyway? What does it mean? I guess I could look it up online now that I know the spelling...
« on: May 26, 2005, 12:08:19 PM »
all bets are off until you say I do
To answer your question, I definitely wouldn't have a problem with a woman stepping to my man. He is a mature, responsible adult and it is up to him to value and respect his relationship. If he feels like being "friends" with another woman is ok, then so be it. If he feels like being "friends" with another woman puts his relationship in jeopardy and he still chooses to do so anyway, then clearly he is not the one for me. My man will be allowed to have friends and "friends" cuz truthfully there's no way for me to tell the difference AND its not for me to dictate who he deals with. The choice will be his to make and I will trust him and his judgement. And if I have to wonder if he's making the right choice, then again, he's not the right one for me. No one knows what the future will be. Girlfriends (& boyfriends) come and go. There are friends that become lovers & lovers that become friends. The point is, nothing's guaranteed. As long as I don't disrespect myself by being involved with someone who's already involved - emotionally or physically - I don't see what the problem is.
With regard to the all bets are off comment, that's truly how I feel. If I found the person that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with, they would be my husband and not my boyfriend. There's a reason why people choose not to take that next step and its usually because they're not ready to make that lifetime commitment (granted sometimes it can be about timing or other logistical reason, but not usually). With that in mind, if I don't know for sure that I want to spend the rest of my life with someone, why would I allow that person to preclude me from meeting the one that i do want to spend the rest of my life with. If my boyfriend feels the same way I can respect that. If he trades me up for a *better* model, then obviously I didn't meet 100% of his needs. I want him to have his perfect someone just I want to have mine. Granted, we don't need to speak of these things, but if he's doing his thing trying to figure out whether or not I'm "it" then so be it. I'd rather know sooner than later.
Obviously, there's a whole other conversation that can go on here with regard to monogamy, STD's etc, but I'll leave it at: rely on no one but yourself where that's concerned.
« on: May 25, 2005, 09:03:56 PM »
I'm not necessarily talking married man, but what do you mean by "friends"?
haha! that's my consolation, actually. can you imagine? 4 woman with synchonized menstrual cycles living under the same roof? hell naw!
Actually, there are 3 of us where I live now. It's not so bad. The menstrual cycle thing is a little bit creepy. But hey, there's always someone to ask about when to expect it
i've had my own place since i graduated HS. i'm on my 4th place. definitely ask about parking. if you're moving into an apartment complex, make sure you ask for an apartment in a building with a lower resident occupancy or you'll be walking some LONG distances to get from your car to your place.
I definitely wish you luck. 4 roommates? Online? Desperate times require desperate measures. I'm sure it'll all work. And if not, I hear the library's open 24 hours. LOL. Ok, sorry
Thanks, that was really helpful. While I was aware of some of the things you mentioned, I didn't know about others, so good lookin out.
I would consider very recent to be within the last month. When people run your credit, its called an "inquiry." The inquiry itself makes your FICO score go down. I have no idea what the reasoning is behind it. Inquiries stay on your report for 6 months.
lol.. bp that is definitely true, and i am glad you stepped up to answer some questions on this thread.
Not a black dude or a smoker...
How or why Newports got branded as THE cigarette for black folks, i don't know. But its just tradition now like cowboys and Marlboros.
..Okay maybe that wasn't such a good answer LOL. I give up now. Ha!
« on: May 25, 2005, 06:04:27 PM »
Oh but she gets a "happy birthday" and all I get is a lecture on how the converse of a statement isn't necessarily true? Wrong, just wrong. There's certainly a shortage of giving men!
Married men are definitely a no go cuz I'm not going to hell for anybody. But I would be "friends" with someone who has a girlfriend. I think all bets are off until you say I do. Nothing intimate though.