« on: May 26, 2005, 12:48:03 PM »
all bets are off until you say I do
so if you were involved...you wouldn't have a problem with another woman stepping to your man? and he in turn became friends with her? that's bull and you know it..
i don't believe in sharing men.. that's why i was never interested in the "dating scene"... i rather get to know one individual over a given period of time than a couple of different guys...
waiting around for a man to break up with his girlfriend is an act of desperation
I'm not necessarily talking married man, but what do you mean by "friends"?
"Friends" is like friends - but with an underlying, unspoken potential.
haha! that's my consolation, actually. can you imagine? 4 woman with synchonized menstrual cycles living under the same roof? hell naw!
i've had my own place since i graduated HS. i'm on my 4th place. definitely ask about parking. if you're moving into an apartment complex, make sure you ask for an apartment in a building with a lower resident occupancy or you'll be walking some LONG distances to get from your car to your place.
also ask about the maintenance schedule!!! OMG, i cannot stress this enough! there's nothing worse than being awoken at 6:30 in the morning by a screaming lawn mower or weed eater on a day when you should actually be sleeping in. this is especially crucial in LS, i would say, where every minute of sleep counts.
find out about the housing community safety options. try to get a place in a gated community. it's definitely better. make sure you take advantage of all move-in specials and try to find a place that returns your deposits. lots don't.
find the places you're interested in living in that are closest to your school, then stop by each property for tours. if you like the place, take an application and fill it out at your leisure. if they let you submit your own credit report, you should definitely do it. the only reason you would get denied at a place is if you have any felonies or major criminal issues, which is obviously not the case for you. depending on your credit and non-existent renter's history, they might up your security deposit by making you pay another month's rent.
i found 3 roommates online. we sign the lease to our 4 BR condo this week. i won't be moving to NJ until july, but i need to get a place by june 1 in order to qualify for in-state tuition which is about $6K cheaper than out of state.
good luck on your apt search. wish me luck too. i've never had more than one roommate before, and i've never lived with more than one female at a time. scary.
Thanks, that was really helpful. While I was aware of some of the things you mentioned, I didn't know about others, so good lookin out.
But about this credit report thing... what do you consider a "VERY recent" credit history? Six months? A year? Two years? Also, I didn't know that each time someone checks your credit report, you lose points. Could you say a little bit more about that? Like, do you lose points only if there's a problem, or if it's checked period?
I've already started looking for an apartment because the housing market where I'm attending school is super competitive, and if I wait until July or August to find a place, I'll probably only find hole in the wall pieces of sh*t.
lol.. bp that is definitely true, and i am glad you stepped up to answer some questions on this thread.
serious question though, and one i have always wanted to know but have been too embarrassed to ask: what is the deal with menthol cigarrettes? i recently read that they are consumed in greater quantities by blacks than by whites, but i have not found an answer as to why.
Okay, I'm stumped on this one myself, being a non-smoker, but I too am under the impression that blacks prefer menthols. This one might take some field research. I'll get back to you brother.
Oh but she gets a "happy birthday" and all I get is a lecture on how the converse of a statement isn't necessarily true? Wrong, just wrong. There's certainly a shortage of giving men!
Question, ladies. Now we've been discussing the shortage of good, black men, so say you meet one, but he's taken. What do you do?
I personally wouldn't touch a taken man with a ten-foot pole. Don't want the drama nor do I want someone else's leftovers. LP, you know what I'm talking about. But for the rest of you ladies, truthfully, if you thought he was a really good catch aside from the fact that he belonged to someone else, if he was willing to step out, would you be a willing participant? Would it just be for fun, or would you be ok letting the relationship become more serious? Honestly, now...