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« on: August 12, 2005, 04:17:25 PM »
UF, first tier school that should only gain ranking after phasing out spring.
From what I've read, heard and vicariously experienced through friends, this post is right on. I'd go to UF. Also, if your grades slip, your tuition won't go up! Most scholarships are based on maintaining a very high GPA and it would be terrible to go to the school that may cost you much more in the end--especially when you likely sacrificed future job opportunities to do so.
« on: August 12, 2005, 04:12:20 PM »
If you want to start a serious thread for those starting Southwestern in the fall, you should go to the Decided Students section of the board. There's a thread for many of the schools, you may be able to just add to one that already exists. If not, start your own. Either way, that's the most appropriate place and where you can expect to get a more serious response from future 1Ls actually going to Southwestern.
« on: August 12, 2005, 12:46:10 PM »
First off, having a frigid wife does not excuse cheating. As the old saying two wrongs do not make a right. To me, cheating because a wife is having problems having sex is like stabbing someone in the neck for slapping you in the face (way overboard.)
I totally agree with you on this.
In fact, yesterday I was telling my best friend that I'd met this new guy dancing. It's totally platonic. But she reminded me that even if I'm not interested in him, he may be interested me and that I should take steps to assure he respects that I'm married. I was totally appreciative that she is so comitted to helping me have the strongest, most successful marriage possible. I wasn't offended at all and was thankful for the reminder. Checking in with your friends before they've even made a serious misstep is also good. You're a friend, you're supposed to help.
« on: August 12, 2005, 12:12:49 PM »
I keep going back to talking to him about the issue. If you honestly believe that maybe he's not cheating and that they've negotiated some sort of "open" marriage, and you confirm that by talking to him, then you can stop thinking of him as a bad or deceitful friend. If they haven't and he is cheating, then you can make up your mind what to do then. I would agree that it's not your place to talk to his wife. Your relationship is with him, not her.
« on: August 12, 2005, 10:36:09 AM »
i don't condone whatever this guy is doing, but why is it your business anyway?
I'm perturbed that people think it's none of your business. As friends, when we attend our friends' weddings, etc, we all agree to help them in upholding their marriage vows to each other. Not saying anything undermines that. If your friend were taking drugs and hurting himself with that, you'd say something. I don't see how this is different. Friends help friends to live their lives well. If friends are just there for socializing, why bother? Whatever happened to interconnectivity and support?
I would be pissed if my friends didn't try to help me do the right thing in my marriage. If I'm stumbling or even heading toward murky waters, I'd trust that at least one of my friends would talk to me about what I'm doing.
« on: August 12, 2005, 10:29:16 AM »
That's awful convienent of them to release this information two days before our tuition becomes only 80% refundable.
Ouch. Are you really having 2nd thoughts?
« on: August 12, 2005, 03:22:02 AM »
That article made me sick to my stomach. Even though I know that this sort of thing commonly happens and is accepted in foreign countries, I'm still astounded and sickened when I read a report of it.
« on: August 12, 2005, 03:12:01 AM »
On the one hand, I think it's wrong for my friend to cheat; on the other hand, I'm asking myself whether I'm being too judgemental in reconsidering our relationship. We have been good friends, being able to crack silly jokes together and not to get angry with each other. As I said before, he is very likeable.
You lay with dogs, you get fleas. If this makes you so sick, you shouldn't be around someone whose activities make you sick. Remaining friends with him without confronting him is basically condoning the situation.