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Thank you.  Best of luck to all moms and mom-wannabes who want to keep their family lives in balance with their work lives -- we really need it!  :)

Another practice area I was looking into is alternative dispute resolution.  I would think the hours would be much more flexible, though I haven't checked that out with anyone actually in ADR.  For someone interested in family law, maybe you could set up a partnership in that with a marriage/family counselor or psychologist and run that business from home.  (I'm not committed to any particular field yet myself -- hopefully the internships and summer work over the next few years will help with that end.)

I'm going to use a sleeve for my laptop and put that into my regular bag, either a backpack or shoulder bag (messenger bag).  I don't plan to buy a huge backpack, though, as I don't intend to carry everything around at once.  I already have a packable tote (something like that has really come in handy for carrying random stuff, so I think if I need to bring home a lot of books from the library one night or something, it shouldn't be too much of a burden to just unpack the extra bag.

To the women of this board--
 I've wanted to be a mom longer than I've wanted to be a lawyer. Any suggestions/thoughts about practical yet interesting job paths for those of us who aren't intending to be the sole breadwinners but want to practice law?  I dream of fancy, high-ranked schools and long-hours high-powered jobs--however, I'm afraid of putting my infant in daycare. Spouse is more than willing to care for children, but also works full time and pregnancy is purely biology and he can't help.

If you're already a mom, please share your insights with me, if you have any.  I asked an attorney/professor I know about being a lawyer and mother of four and she said tearfully, "I'm sorry, but today is not really the day to ask me. My 8-year-old's got strep and I can't get to the school and my..."  Right, so that's encouraging.

I'm basically looking for a career in law that is stimulating but can be flexible enough without the long long long hours during the formative years (aren't they all?). 

Thanks for any suggestions, thoughts, comments, experiences!!!

Re: Daycare -- My daughter, who is about to turn one, will start full-time daycare in just a few weeks.  It was rough for me emotionally when I decided in the spring that I really was going to go to school this fall, and had to start looking for daycare.  But, as my daughter has grown and her personality has developed more, I've gained more confidence that she will like daycare.  I searched thoroughly for the best provider we could afford and am very comfortable with the new arrangement.  All that to say, my feelings on daycare have changed, and yours might too at some point -- it will depend a lot on your baby.  I also second what twarga said, you and your husband really just have to do what's best for your family.

Re: Job options -- I've been thinking a lot about going into solo practice out of my home, just to be able to have that flexibility you're talking about.  While it's been a wonderful year home with my girl (though still working PT from home), I am definitely ready for the change to law school.  I think with future children I'd like to be able to do the same thing, and take a year off (or go to PT) from whatever my current job would be to stay home with the new baby.  There are a lot of blogs and other resources out there on solo practice.  Also, I randomly came across this lady's website:  She's a kind of contractor, running her own legal research and writing service out of her home.  It sounds like a great idea to me. 

Acceptances, Denials, and Waitlists / Re: Catholic WL - FYI
« on: July 20, 2005, 07:52:17 AM »
Next week they will be releasing people from the WL, people who stay on will be on the WL up until Aug. 16, which i'm told, is orientation.

Actually, registration is August 16 and orientation is August 17-19.

Good luck, MSU!

Incoming 1Ls / Re: A serious question for my fellow busty LSDers...
« on: July 17, 2005, 11:20:33 AM »
Get over it and move on... I have.  Oh, by the way, super cute baby.

Thank you. That picture was taken when she was three months old; I should probably update it.

Incoming 1Ls / Re: A serious question for my fellow busty LSDers...
« on: July 17, 2005, 10:48:32 AM »
I'm glad you don't care what other people say about you.  I don't care what you say about me.  It just makes me a little sad that today's society places so much value on a practice that may not be as satisfying for everyone as it obviously is for you.  The main point I was making to the OP, is that breastfeeding is not always a joy.  And because her reason for enduring the pain and discomfort (and chafing and irritation) of gigantic breasts is solely to breastfeed, I thought it might do her good to hear that it isn't all it's cracked up to be.  And that THIS WOMAN would not judge her for ditching the DDDDDDDs and feeding her kid formula.

You and the La Leche League are entitled to your opinions, as am I.  And don't say I don't know jack about breastfeeding, because I certainly do.

P.S.  My comments to the OP were lighthearted and not mean-spirited.  You're mean, and I don't come on here to deal with mean people.  So long.

It's easy to say that I'm mean when you don't actually have any substantive comments to make about what I wrote.  And I don't care whether you have a reputation of always being nice to everyone here - I thought what you wrote was judgmental and that's why I commented. If you actually read back through the thread and try to approach what you said from a more neutral point of view, maybe you could understand what I wrote.

I have no interest in starting a bottle feeding vs. breastfeeding debate. But I do have plenty of experience nursing successfully and dealing with "well-intentioned" people who have very judgemental things to say about my choice to breastfeed. I know from experience that women who make that choice need a lot of support (not just for their boobs).

Think what you want about me. I am just expressing my opinion and have no intention to offend. I just happen to have very strong feelings on this subject. 0f course the OP should do whatever she feels will be best for her health and for her family.

Incoming 1Ls / Re: A serious question for my fellow busty LSDers...
« on: July 17, 2005, 06:52:02 AM »
No, I'm not kidding.  My personal belief is that if you are lugging around 20 pounds of boobage for 10-15 years waiting for the magic moment when you can slap a kid on there, I don't think it's worth all the back pain and strain.  And there's no guarantee you'd be able to breastfeed after all that time and trouble anyway.  With baby #1, I could not get her to stay on the boob and she was even lazy on the bottle (just lollying it around in her mouth), I couldn't figure it out.  I found out later that because I was given morphine while I was in labor, she had a delayed sucking reflex and it wasn't anything I had done wrong.  So with #2 I tried again.  Success!  However, they don't tell you that with every baby after #1, breastfeeding becomes more and more painful in the ABDOMEN.  Yes, I would grab onto the arm of the chair and grit my teeth in abdominal pain while she'd feed, since the uterine contractions brought on by the breastfeeding were incredible.  I stuck to it anyway, and in the middle of month 2 I was put on a medication that meant I had to stop breastfeeding immediately.

I'm a 36B.  If I had lugged around two boulders for the SOLE PURPOSE OF BREASTFEEDING, I would have been very disappointed indeed.  And my girls are now 12 and 10, one bottle fed and one breastfed.  They are both healthy and thriving.

And another thing... it's not selfish to end years of back pain and strain at the expense of a little breast milk.  I cannot stand women who judge other women like they're all high and mighty.  If women were a little more supportive of each other instead of putting them down to make themselves feel better, we'd all be a lot better off. 

By the way, I'm sure there are a lot of moms out there who quit breastfeeding when their kids turned 6 mos who are looking at you with your kid running up to you, lifting your shirt and helping himself, and making some pretty rash judgments of their own.  Judge not, lest ye be judged.

You're entitled to your personal beliefs.  But you don't know what you're talking about in this case and in fact have been quite judgemental towards the OP from your first post on this thread. 

First, you suggested she get breast reduction as if you were shocked that anyone with that size endowment wouldn't.  That was before she said she had even considered it.  And when the OP gave her reason -- a very personal and reasonable one -- you treated her like she's an idiot for even valuing the possible future functionality of her breasts.  You put her down.  You weren't supportive; you were determined to judge her.

Second, at a 36B, you've never lugged around "boulders" (how big they got when you were pregnant is irrelevant).  You're just assuming that doing so for X number of years (perhaps not even as many as 10 - 15) is an unpleasant prospect to the OP.  She hasn't complained about that aspect and in fact enjoys the back rubs her husband gives her.  Who are you to suggest that her values are wrong because at some point she might do damage to her back?  Are you her doctor or chiropractor?

Third, you haven't nursed to "booby-biters" for six months yet you suggested that you did to lend credibility to your judgement of the OP.  I will make no judgements about the pain you did endure when nursing but I know you never felt a baby with teeth actually bite you, as I have.  And I can compare that to the pain I experienced nursing when she was 0 - 3 months old.  How much it hurt doesn't matter because everyone experiences pain differently; the most either of us could say is that yes, indeed, it did hurt quite a bit.  But because I value breastfeeding, I chose to stick with it. 

I value breastfeeding for many reasons that need not be enumerated here -- the OP already values it and I don't need to convince you.  But you should realize, twarga, that it is not in any way supportive of a woman to tell her that breastfeeding is "highly over-rated."  I'm glad your children are healthy and thriving; so is my daughter.  That is what any mother wants.  And frankly, I don't care how other people may judge me for continuing to nurse her at one year old.  I don't care about what other people may say or how they look at me when I nurse her in public.  (Gasp!)  But I'm not going to put down the OP for her choices or offer her "advice" she's not looking for.  I'll leave that to you, because clearly you're making the world a better place with that kind of "high and mighty" advice-giving.  Keep up the good work!

Incoming 1Ls / Re: A serious question for my fellow busty LSDers...
« on: July 16, 2005, 08:01:41 PM »
Puhleeeeeze!  Breast-feeding is highly over-rated.  Especially if it means lugging around 2 boulders for the next 10-15 years in anticipation of some little booby-biter gnawing at your nipples for 6 months (been there- 2 kids).

You've got to be kidding!  That viewpoint sounds just a *tad* bit selfish to me... but since I have been nursing my daughter for the past 11 months and plan to continue even after LS starts, I guess I must be biased.  Not to mention, I now have chunks missing from all the booby-biting.  ::)

Incoming 1Ls / Re: Just set up OneNote
« on: July 15, 2005, 04:44:39 PM »
Do you have to MS office to use one note? how about open office or word perfect ( i know I am ghetto and cheap, but I don't like to drop a lot of money on software)

Nope, it's a stand-alone program, though apparently it integrates really well with the other Office programs.

Incoming 1Ls / Re: Just set up OneNote
« on: July 15, 2005, 12:23:59 PM »
My tablet (Fujitsu T4010) has OneNote and I'm still deciding between that or Agilix GoBinder.  So far I prefer GoBinder since it has an integrated calendar and task list, and I want to avoid using Outlook.

As for organization, I'm thinking something like this:
     Notes & Briefs (plan to use ink to add directly to my briefs during class)

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