3. Then there are working moms who are passionate about their careers. They do whatever they have to do to maintain the balance. These women are time management savvy. They can sometimes be a little critical of the thought of being SAHMs but don't usually criticize others who choose that path.
I hope to be one of these kinds of moms. I've encountered the first kind, but not really known any of the second yet. I think your second sentence is the key. You have to decide what your values are and from there go about living your life according to those values. I value my family above my career, but both are very important to me. I may sometimes have to choose my career over my family to meet a short-term goal (like studying for exams), but on the whole, my family comes first.
I am occasionally critical of the thought of being a SAHM for many years, but just for myself, not in relation to other people. It's an individual and family choice. I've been a WAHM since my maternity leave ended and will continue until probably the end of July. It's been great to be home with my daughter -- really the best arrangement I could have hoped for. And I think it will be great (though maybe just in retrospect!) to be able to go to law school, and know that my daughter is in a safe, loving environment with a provider I trust, while I'm accomplishing my dream, getting into the law.
As for having more babies... we definitely want at least two more. They're going to wait until graduation, though (I'll be 27 then). Now that I know what pregnancy does to my body, I know that I don't want to handle school and deal with that at the same time.