« on: September 03, 2005, 11:32:32 AM »
On Wednesday night, my gf of 8 months told me that she wants to take a "break". We have been together 8 months and we had such a tight bond. We were best friends and hung out almost every day, told each other everything, talked on the phone first thing in the morning and before bed, planned our futures together etc. and she just randomly told me this. She did, however, also tell me that she still wants to be best friends with me, talk on the phone a lot, and hang out. She actually just moved into my city from about an hour way (her step-father lives here) just so she could hang out with me more. Plus, we have been through almost everything imagineable the past 8 months. We had such a tight bond. I have lost so much for her as well and have done everything for her. I am always there and always make her feel better about everything, drive her around everywhere and spend a fortune on gas, buy her gifts etc. Also, my car was crashed because of her friend. And I actually decided to take a year off next year because I was too obsessed with her to study for the June LSAT last year.
Needless to say, I am very bad right now. I'm trying to think how I should approach this situation because she did not (and refuses to) give me a definite answer as to what this "break" really means and how long she wants to do this for me. She is the best person in the world, but I feel betrayed and I can't believe she could be this cold. I told her I at least deserved another chance.
The reason she wants to have this "break" is simply because she trips about the most tiny thing that turn out to be real bs. When she trips out, she has these huge panick attacks and each time almost has a heart attack. Don't get me wrong, she's only had these a few times, but apparently she just wants to chill because she "can't take the madness anymore." For example, last Saturday she tripped out about us coming back to my place and taking it easy for a couple hours in order to get our plans straight for the day. Before we came to my house, her friend had called her up and asked her if she wanted to do something. I was fine with that, and I called one of my friends and asked if he wanted to come along. He told me he wanted to take a shower etc. and so I took my girlfriend back to my place and we just hung out for a couple hours. Later, when it was time to go, she start panicking and crying because she now did not want to hang out with her friend because her mood was spoiled from waiting around so much. This is exactly the kind of bs I am talking about because it turned out that her friend couldn't even hang out until later and we eventually got to see her anyway.
I don't know what to do. She really did hurt me and she knows that. Should I keep calling her and pretend I am in a good mood (which is the exact opposite) or should I play it cool and maybe just give her a couple weeks? If I do that, however, I'm really scared she just might lose feelings for me or something and move on. I know she's not cheating on me or anything like that, so that's good.
I just really can't believe things turned out this way. A week ago we were calling each other like usual and telling each other how much we both love and need to be together. This is crazy and I never thought something like this could come about so quickly and randomly.
A couple positives I came from talking to get about this was that 1) she told me that she still loved me more than anything else, 2) she told me she still wants to be with me in the future, 3) I know she moved to this town just for me, 4) she still wants to be good friends and hang out. The problem is I am uncomfortable with hanging out with her for obvious reasons. I feel like I don't even know this person anymore.
Should I put on a front and be all cheery and call her every day like usual, or should I just give her some space (like a couple weeks) and see where we stand without talking to her on the phone much? I really don't know how serious this "break is - she might even come crawling back in a couple days, or she might think it's over for a long time. If the latter is the case, I don't think I can forgive her for not wanting to work it out. Any advice?