my so and i are going through the same thing. we've been together for about a year, and i'm applying to law school and he's applying to grad school. problem is, he loves uc berkeley, but i'm pretty set on staying on the east coast. the only west coast school i'm even considering is university of washington. he's also applying to harvard, columbia, penn and princeton, so it's not totally a loss, and he thinks he could be happy at harvard, etc (and i'm applying to several boston and new york schools), but when it comes down to it i wonder what will happen if he gets into berkeley and really has his heart set on it. i hate to say it, but if he's going across the country for school, this just isn't going to happen. i would never begrudge him that opportunity, but there's no way i'm doing cross country long distance while i'm in law school.
so i feel your pain friend. sigh.
Thank Jebus for this thread. My boyfriend of two years and I are both applying to school right now: I to law school, and he to design school (for his master's in landscape architecture). We live in Philly now, and we're both dead-set on staying in or close to the Northeast, which is good. However, he's only applying to three schools - UVA, Penn, and Harvard, which are not exactly easy to get into, for either of us. I may have the numbers for the first two, but I seriously doubt Harvard will be within my reach. To try to at least minimize the potential distance, I'm applying to a range of schools from Boston to Charlottesville (BC, BU, Fordham, NYU maybe, Penn, Temple, GULC, GW, and UVA are on the list right now).
But it's tough. The application process for design schools is as qualitative as the law school app process is quantitative, so it's extremely difficult to say what will happen for him. On the other hand, things will become pretty clear for me once the December LSAT scores are released. Is anyone else in this boat (or a similar vessel)?