« on: July 25, 2008, 09:31:01 PM »
For some reason I feel the need to put your fears to rest. First, I have been a parent for 13 years. My kids are 13, 9, 5, 3, and 5 months. I have devoted myself to them full-time for 13 years. They come first, and always will. They have never been in daycare, my husband and I go out once a month if we're lucky and have only used our sisters to babysit. We love having a big family, and we made a choice to have 5 kids, so there goes your theory that my last child was an accident. They are all happy, beautiful ,healthy, smart - that is why I use the name "luckylady", because I feel incredibly lucky. I have managed to successfully raise my family for all these years, maintain a marriage, run a household, volunteer, and finish my degree with a 3.8 GPA, because when you have kids, you have no choice, you just have to do it. Whether I'm tired, sick, whatever, they still need to be taken care of. I get no sick time, no personal days. I am by far a stronger and more motivated person because of them. The thing that bothers me the most is that if I were a guy there would be no issue. My husband could have a house full of kids and work 20 hours a day and people would praise him for being a hard worker and providing well for his family. And I think the whole biglaw situation is exaggerated. Sure, there are some long days, but having spoken personally to a person in a major firm about this very issue, I feel confident that it's not as bad as people make it out to be.
So, thank you for your concern, but we'll be just fine. I would love to talk to you again after you have kids of your own. Here's a bit of advice from a veteran - as long as they know they are always loved and cared for, they will be fine.