actually i didn't defend.. i posted because i was bored..which is typically what happens when i go on those tangents...
i'm new here but i'll start off something controversial then said person opts not to come back.. total waste of time.. and i certainly wasted enough time going back and forth with that dolla bill cat last month..
i'm black as coal but i like up light no matter what race any way you slice that cali.. one cannot look @ that statement as cool that's his preference... folks typically don't refer to themselves as "coal" in a serious manner..hell not even as a joke so yes I shook my head.. and i don't see why that's a problem...
and Sparkz asked dude about his opinion and he elaborated... i spoke on it and even he admitted that he could somewhat see how it's problematic...
and the topic really isn't hot.. we deviated from the original point long ago..maybe it would be easier to follow if you're more specific.. not everyone here has claimed to "know" where the preferences originated...but there is typically a basis for everything..
as for the asian comment.. at least to me it's viewed as different because then it becomes a matter of cultural differences.....Nothing wrong with preferences. But I do think they come from somewhere
I agree with this. Forgive me if I missed the answer to this, but I keep asking why people assume that they know where these preferences come from?
Like if I said I'm not attracted to Asian dudes, I don't think the reaction would be as strong, ya know?
Disclaimer: The Asian reference was just an example. Like I said before, I don't discriminate, I'm (used to be) a try anything/anyone type of gal...
I don't want to get into who posted what because its all there...but the impression I got from the posts was that some people alluded to a brotha having issues or being somehow ignorant for making a statement about what he prefers. Instead of saying, "why is that?" Folks were already jumping to conclsions about his perceived insecurities.
It's hard to be specific when nobody really came out and said what was on their mind until later in the thread, they just talked about how tired the thread was. Now all of a sudden people are defending their statements. I think all of that could have been avoided had someone bothered to ask a dude why he felt the way he did.
Even if some folks suspected the thread was a flame attempt, why not proceed with the discussion? That way, the alleged flamer can see that no one here is getting riled up, we are simply exchanging points of view and discussing a hot topic.
Ha! I second the bolded...
I wonder what ever happned to him
ahem! ...and back to the topic at hand